I am hurting my gf

[oneman]

Just wondering. I have this girl that comes to my house whenever I want. She is young, not old enough to drink. She doesn't drive, yet either. I have been teaching her to drive a little in the daytime. I have pounded her twice but the first time, I didn't finish because she was starting to hurt. We were at it for about 15 minutes. I was disappointed, I mean 15 minutes, really, didn't get off to that.

Anyway, I pick her up at her Mom's house, last night, and we make out in my bedroom, at my house. Then we do a little missionary, and she says it hurts so I pound her really slow, and she is ok. I feel it sliding around, she is nice and wet. I try to go real slow but it is still hurting her.

We do doggie, and if I moved more than about an inch in about 5 seconds, she is in pain.

We go back to missionary, and I can see the pain on her face so we go real slow but that does nothing for me. I finally stop because she is hurt. She tells me that she hasn't been with anyone for many months and she isn't used to it.

Is that possible? Girls, what should I do. I know the guys will say pound her hard to break her in or dump her. Dumping her is a little on my mind, too, but I got to see if I can work through this. I don't want to do her if I am going to hurt her. What should I do. The first time I did her, I went down on her first. Do you think I need to do that first?

I want to pick her up at her Mom's house, tonight and spend the night with her, again. I was thinking, maybe, I need to do her a little every day until she gets used to it. Last time, I let her rest her coochie for a week before I brought her over to my house but that didn't work, obviously. Now, I am thinking we need to do it more to work her in. I explained that to her, and she is all for that, a little everyday to work her in.

I dropped her off at her Mom's house at 4:30 in the morning, and when we kissed, I could tell she really likes me. I know she loves being with me. I just don't know what to do about hurting her.

I can tell she is a good girl. She drops everything to be with me. She never has an excuse not to be with me. To me that means, she isn't with anyone else. I have spent zero dollars on her this last few weeks but there have been times that I have paid for things for her, just little things, like once to get her hair done, and I used to buy her a few things at the store, just some clothes but not much. She says that I am her bf. If we can't have fun, intimately, there really isn't a relationship. Does anyone have any good advice? I really don't know what to do with her.

Is there gold at the end of the rainbow or is this going to be too much to overcome?

[Camille Fox]

She should see a gynecologist. It could be fibroids, a cyst, etc...


Good luck!!



Camille

[Bush Pilot]

Originally Posted by CamilleFox69

She should see a gynecologist. It could be fibroids, a cyst, etc...

Although I hadn't thought of the conditions Camille just specifically mentioned, I wondered if she has a medical issue. By all means, she should see an ob-gyn.

[Guest112916]

Not old enough to drink?
Not driving?
Picking up at her moms?

Why do I get the feeling this may end up on Dateline with Chris Hansen.

[Guest081519]

I was thinking the same thing Von.

Several things may be running the gammit here. From physical (as Camile explained) to psychological (think sexual abuse).

She may be too young to be sexually mature. Some women do not reach that point until they are in their 20s.

I don't know how old you are, and I don't know your circumstances. I suggest looking to plow other fields at least for now. I would love to assume that you don't want to be the reason why she is in therapy in a few years due to a traumatic sexual experience that she was not mature enough to have.

Ask her to go see a doctor. A medical professional will be able to diagnose and pick up on what is the root of her problem (better than a bunch of sexual deviants on a hooker board).

Also, does it usually take you more than 15 minutes to orgasm? If it does, then you may have delayed ejaculation syndrome. You may think that you are a stud, but a lot of women don't care to be jack-hammered for more than 15 minutes straight.

Look it up. There are some things that you can do to make things better with a partner and have a less painful experience (for her).

[oneman]

Originally Posted by Bush Pilot

Although I hadn't thought of the conditions Camille just specifically mentioned, I wondered if she has a medical issue. By all means, she should see an ob-gyn.

I kind of thought about that, and I think that is probably the best answer. Something just ain't right.

Originally Posted by Von Spieler

Not old enough to drink?
Not driving?
Picking up at her moms?

Why do I get the feeling this may end up on Dateline with Chris Hansen.

Actually, I don't do underage girls. One time, I picked up a girl at the Exxon station, took her to the park banged her all night, and then when I dropped her off at her parents house, they were waiting up for her. I still remember her address, never again. She said she was 19 but that scared the crap out of me when her parents were waiting for her to come home. Never, ever again. I will never know if she was 19 but I am pretty cautious, now. My gf is legal. Fun isn't worth going to prison and be labeled as a sex offender. My moto on that is, check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Originally Posted by Simon Riley

I was thinking the same thing Von.

Several things may be running the gammit here. From physical (as Camile explained) to psychological (think sexual abuse).

She may be too young to be sexually mature. Some women do not reach that point until they are in their 20s.

I don't know how old you are, and I don't know your circumstances. I suggest looking to plow other fields at least for now. I would love to assume that you don't want to be the reason why she is in therapy in a few years due to a traumatic sexual experience that she was not mature enough to have.

Ask her to go see a doctor. A medical professional will be able to diagnose and pick up on what is the root of her problem (better than a bunch of sexual deviants on a hooker board).

Also, does it usually take you more than 15 minutes to orgasm? If it does, then you may have delayed ejaculation syndrome. You may think that you are a stud, but a lot of women don't care to be jack-hammered for more than 15 minutes straight.

Look it up. There are some things that you can do to make things better with a partner and have a less painful experience (for her).

She did tell me that her grandfather had abused her when she was younger. Her grandfather is blind, now. What is even odder is that she goes to her grandfather's house to take care of him, sometimes. I told her that is strange. She told me that she feels sorry for him because he is blind, now, and no one takes care of him.

On the 15 minute thing, that is so confusing. Women seem to want the monster thing and want to go for hours; that is what they say. I have a friend that has a monster, and he has trouble getting a date because it is too big. As soon as women see it, they say, you ain't putting that thing in me. It really is that big. Another time, I tried to set up a young, white boy with a Hispanic girl. He had 10", and he has a picture of it on his phone. I invited her over to my hotel room so they could get together. She was pissed because of that. She told me that she didn't want him, that she wants me. I was like, wtf. He has a bigger thing, is younger, is tatted out, and has all the things that I thought women wanted, so why did she want me. I don't get it but she is my fwb, too.

Women say that they want someone that can last. I don't know how true that is either. Here is what I do know. I used to go pretty quick so I took a course on how to last longer. It took a couple of months to get to where I am at and now, I have control over how long I last. It really changed me. I was looking for the course the other day, and I left it on a computer in another city but that course really worked. Now, you tell me that I take too long, damn, I can't get anything right, lol. I really don't know what the answers are. Women say one thing but they seem to want the opposite of what they say. They drive me nuts. Why can't they just be honest.

[Prowordsmith]

Fer christsake, Oneman, what kind of self-centered creep are you?
You're playing around (I was gonna say "dating" but there is no indication of that - seems like you're using this "little" girl as a sex toy) with someone whose age a maturity is quite suspect.
The best thing for her would be for you to "dump her" and move on. You seem to have little to no regard for her emotional feelings - merely that she can't comfortably satisfy your lustful urgings. Seems like you're asking a group of guys how to fix a car whose carburetor needs adjustment.
Because you can't "pound her", you've quit doing nice things for her?

I'd get points or thrown off the board if I wrote what I think of you.

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by oneman

She did tell me that her grandfather had abused her when she was younger. Her grandfather is blind, now. What is even odder is that she goes to her grandfather's house to take care of him, sometimes. I told her that is strange. She told me that she feels sorry for him because he is blind, now, and no one takes care of him.

It's not uncommon at all for abused to still love and care for their abuser when he was a family member. It's fucked up as all hell..... I got cross ways with a girls family because she was sexually abused at 12 by her step father who had since passed away. The family KNEW it but at gatherings they would bring him up and talk fondly about him with no regard to their knowledge that he had raped her as a child multiple times. And she would defend them!


On the 15 minute thing, that is so confusing. Women seem to want the monster thing and want to go for hours; that is what they say. I have a friend that has a monster, and he has trouble getting a date because it is too big. As soon as women see it, they say, you ain't putting that thing in me. It really is that big. Another time, I tried to set up a young, white boy with a Hispanic girl. He had 10", and he has a picture of it on his phone. I invited her over to my hotel room so they could get together. She was pissed because of that. She told me that she didn't want him, that she wants me. I was like, wtf. He has a bigger thing, is younger, is tatted out, and has all the things that I thought women wanted, so why did she want me. I don't get it but she is my fwb, too.

Women say that they want someone that can last. I don't know how true that is either. Here is what I do know. I used to go pretty quick so I took a course on how to last longer. It took a couple of months to get to where I am at and now, I have control over how long I last. It really changed me. I was looking for the course the other day, and I left it on a computer in another city but that course really worked. Now, you tell me that I take too long, damn, I can't get anything right, lol. I really don't know what the answers are. Women say one thing but they seem to want the opposite of what they say. They drive me nuts. Why can't they just be honest.

Hookers want it done and over with..... shortest paydays possible.....

younger, inexperienced girls want it but are not as into the long drawn out sessions as women in their 30s might be.....

unless they are really into you or REALLY want you to be pleased by them.....


You are probably dealing with someone dysfunctional as a result of the abuse and she COULD ALSO have scarring from being ripped by him where there is physical as well as mental pain being inflicted.

She needs an OBGYN and a therapist and you should not do her any more harm till she has seen and dealt with her issues with both.

[oneman]

Originally Posted by Prowordsmith

Fer christsake, Oneman, what kind of self-centered creep are you?
You're playing around (I was gonna say "dating" but there is no indication of that - seems like you're using this "little" girl as a sex toy) with someone whose age a maturity is quite suspect.
The best thing for her would be for you to "dump her" and move on. You seem to have little to no regard for her emotional feelings - merely that she can't comfortably satisfy your lustful urgings. Seems like you're asking a group of guys how to fix a car whose carburetor needs adjustment.
Because you can't "pound her", you've quit doing nice things for her?

I'd get points or thrown off the board if I wrote what I think of you.

Yup, she is my little sex toy, my gf, and my daytime toy. I guess, I am her toy, too. I am not sure what a carburetor is. I guess it is part of a car. I don't adjust anything on my car so I wouldn't know anything about that. I am not a mechanic. I am not going to marry her. I am not there to marry anyone. This is just a part time thing for both of us. Some day both of will get tired of this and move on.

[mayorcastro]

[Irish Cream]

OP, were you recently on this board under the handle "Alamotx"?

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by Whispers

Hookers want it done and over with..... shortest paydays possible.....

younger, inexperienced girls want it but are not as into the long drawn out sessions as women in their 30s might be.....

unless they are really into you or REALLY want you to be pleased by them.....


You are probably dealing with someone dysfunctional as a result of the abuse and she COULD ALSO have scarring from being ripped by him where there is physical as well as mental pain being inflicted.

She needs an OBGYN and a therapist and you should not do her any more harm till she has seen and dealt with her issues with both.

+1

Break the cycle. Another thing to remember is that you cannot "fix" her. Leave that to the professionals.

[inspector farquar]

Karma may turn you into Bonn in 30 years. Lay off the chick before it's too late.

[Bush Pilot]

Originally Posted by Prowordsmith

Fer christsake, Oneman, what kind of self-centered creep are you?...Seems like you're asking a group of guys how to fix a car whose carburetor needs adjustment...

A carburetor is a piece of antique automotive technology of which only decrepit old fucks like Prowordsmith and I have ever heard. For your reading pleasure:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carburetor

I doubt you're a self-centered creep, or you wouldn't have posted this.

Originally Posted by Irish Cream

OP, were you recently on this board under the handle "Alamotx"?

Cheap shot. You obviously didn't bother to read Reply #6:

Originally Posted by oneman

...Actually, I don't do underage girls...

Originally Posted by oneman

...Women say one thing but they seem to want the opposite of what they say. They drive me nuts. Why can't they just be honest...

Is it what women say, or what the porn industry wants you to think? Don't confuse the two. It's all about balance, and finding the happy medium between too little and too much. It's also about taking a genuine interest in the woman's pleasure as well as your own -- the two of you communicating to each other, what you both enjoy.

Several of the responses are spot-on: She may have emotional as well as medical issues that YOU cannot fix. Urge her to see professionals who can help her. Good luck to you both.

[Noid]

Yeah. listen to Whimpers... he should know a lot about abused foster children.