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Originally Posted by Italian Hound
Alot of people say they get bbbj and other bb things. Providers are these guys being honest? Is there alot of bb action going on ?
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If you want to know if a particular provider offers a particular service, research her and find all of her reviews. If there is a pattern, you can conclude with an acceptable degree of certainty that she is providing that service. If the service is mentioned in her reviews and is clearly spelled or hinted at in her ads, then she is probably providing it. Beyond that follow the suggestions below.
The first thing to recognize is that all of us participating here, use varying degrees of deception in our personal lives, so that we can find the time and opportunity to indulge in the pleasures and fantasies in this playground. Never lose sight of this.
It matters not if we are single, married, divorced, or in a long term relationship. In some rare cases, couples have an open relationship and participate here with the knowledge of the spouse. They still have to keep their adult activities from damaging their careers and other areas of their personal lives, so deception still plays a role.
If we already deceive ( are dishonest with ) the people who matter in our lives, how much honesty do we owe to a lot of strangers that we probably will never meet?
The answer to that question will vary depending on the individual. The initial deception is obviously a necessary evil to begin playing here. Many are able to stop it at that level, and contribute to the board with honest and accurate reports. Doing so is the only way that the information can be valuable, and the quality of the site can be kept to high standards.
There is also a large group of participants who couldn't care any less about reporting accurately. They only care about themselves. Many of them have personal agendas and will use deception to advance that agenda.
So how do you separate the honest guys and girls from the rest?
That is a very difficult task. In the years I have been involved in this hobby, I have concluded that
time is my best ally. The passing of time has a tremendous effect on revealing the true character of the man or woman behind the handle, no matter how anonymous we try to be.
This is the main reason why many hobbyists will wait until an established guy has reviewed a newcomer before they themselves take the plunge with the new provider. A review by a newbie has too many uncertainties to be considered reliable on the minds of many members.
Even the so called
established guys can sometimes turn out to be nothing but con artists. They are simply better at carrying on deception to an art form. The passing of time will eventually reveal these individuals' true colors. So time is still a great ally.
Read everything here with skepticism. Good things, bad things, indifferent things, rumors, etc. You'll see that with time, you will be able to develop some trust on the reliability and honesty of some posters. Some of their posts will stand out from the rest. Even when you have developed a good hobby sense, don't let your guard down and get sloppy. Keep yourself and your playmates safe at all times.
Mat.
How honest are hobbyist ?
