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Originally Posted by Whispers
Are the massages all that great? I can get a legitimate massage for $40-$60 if that's what I am looking for. Getting "Level 1" or "Level 2" in a strip club lately is about $60 of it takes ya 3 songs.... basically #20 per song for as long as you last.....
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Whispers, I think the issue you're having is that you're trying to compare an FBSM session to a GFE session and/or strip club experiences. While the end goal may be the same for
some gentlemen, the path to pleasure/satisfaction is different in each scenario.
Knowing that you haven't really frequented FBSM providers in the past, I can understand where your confusion stems from. Hopefully I can shed some light on the issue, at least from my/our studio's point of view.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
Are the massages all that great? I can get a legitimate massage for $40-$60 if that's what I am looking for. Getting "Level 1" or "Level 2" in a strip club lately is about $60 of it takes ya 3 songs.... basically #20 per song for as long as you last.....
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The Girlfriend Experience is
not about sex or any number of sexual acts. It's about the emotions and sensations that an encounter stirs in the client. That feeling of instant comfort and familiarity, tinged with a bit of nervous anticipation, as if you're on the third date with a really great woman, and looking forward to where the night might take you. An instant emotional connection, fostered by the provider's natural warmth and openness when she greets you, and amplified by her genuine interest in you, your life and the things that make you tick. Conversation flows easily, bringing even the most nervous visitor out of his shell.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
I read where some guys complain about the lack of a connection with the the gal servicing. How do you connect in 30-45 minutes just laying there?
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If both people are open to making a connection, it can happen in an instant. When I opened the door for my first appointment with a client who is my SO, it took a grand total of about 30 seconds for me to think to myself, "I already don't want him to leave," and about another hour for the thought that he might be "the one" to cross my mind. I could go into some cheesy diatribe about love at first sight, but based on what we've shared with each other about that day, it was more like a perfect storm of intellectual curiosity, the slow buildup between the time we scheduled the appointment, anxious anticipation, and instant attraction that happened when I opened the door. My point is...
The connection begins from the first time you contact her (or she you). She should be flirtatious, answer any questions you have politely, and ask a few questions to get a feel for your likes, dislikes and personality. She lets you know she's looking forward to seeing you. When you arrive for your session, the location is clean, with appropriate music, candles and a sensual mood permeating the room. The provider asks you about what's going on in your life (and actually cares), offers you a drink or a snack, and ensures that you're comfortable in your surroundings. Throughout the entire session, you continue to feel that third date excitement, but otherwise your mood is relaxed, and you're already thinking about your next visit. When it's time to part ways, you hesitate when walking out, just to hang on to that feeling for a few more moments. Overall, the GFE is about fulfilling needs and desires. But it goes beyond fulfilling the need for sexual release, into the needs for physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, and acceptance, and the desire to feel a little less alone in the world, just for a brief period of time.
Similarly,
the FBSM experience is not about sex or any number of sexual acts. Rather, it is about escape, relaxation, and sensuality. It's about feeling pampered and nurtured on multiple levels, without having to do any "work" or worry about pleasing your partner. With a great FBSM, it's all about you and your state of mind. Anything "extra" the provider chooses to do is also about you. In general, an FBSM provider differs from a GFE provider in that they genuinely want to take care of you. Offers to "take care of them" or "make them feel good" the like are generally met with resistance because it goes against the nature of the session. In my personal opinion, if you're seeking GFE "activities," then you should be scheduling with a GFE provider, not an FBSM provider.
Now, with all of that in mind... I think
the ideal FBSM provider, whether she be independent or with a studio, will impart a GFE quality, or create a GFE environment, in every session she takes. Certainly, there will be some instances where two people just don't connect, but that's a fact of life.
Beyond that, the GFE is more than just a facade worn for the duration of your appointment. A true girlfriend experience arises from the provider's natural inclination to give, to nurture, and to please. Those inherent qualities can easily blend into an FBSM session. Some ladies take longer than others to learn how to open up to a client, but if the basic personality traits are there, the ability to connect quickly can be learned.
Things are a bit different when you're dealing with a facility versus an individual, but in that case, the entire staff should treat you like royalty. From the time you contact our studio, you should feel "connected" to the person scheduling your appointment. You should feel comfortable asking her polite questions, and trust that she'll help guide you to the provider that most suits your personal tastes. She should be helpful, informative, professional yet flirtatious, and an overall pleasure to deal with.
I've seen someone post that they'd rather get FS from an AMP where the provider doesn't speak English than pay for a non-FS FBSM. To each his own. But in my world, FS does not equal GFE, and GFE does not equal FS.
Just my $5.02. Take it and buy yourself something shiny, or toss it onto the street.
xoxo Bella
Reading and Listening but having a hard time see the draw of FBSM and have NO IDEA why some expect GFE type service from a rub & tug
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