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RonnyBoy67 · 09-09-2012, 08:48 PM

Hello friends. Been here for awhile but this is my first post. I recently attempted to contact a stunning and sought after provider whom had no phone number listed. She read my PM and looked up my p411 profile but never replied to my PM. So I kindly followed up with a second request a few hours later to she if she was available in my city and received no answer (again) sadly. I am a big boy, and my feelings aren't hurt. I am thinking that maybe she saw something in my bio that she did not like. But wouldn't it have been polite to have replied that she was indisposed or not interested? I have extremely limited time to hobby so now I know to work on a plan B and a plan C in case plan A or B do not work! In general, I have been so impressed with the level of professionalism of the ladies out there and their kindness. Anyone else run into this or have some rules of thumb for a newbie to ensure I get a response next time?

trynagetlaid · 09-09-2012, 08:55 PM

Did you request a read receipt with your PM? Maybe she hasn't got around to it yet.

RonnyBoy67 · 09-09-2012, 09:22 PM

Trynagetlaid - p411 is setup so you know if the message has been read or not. So yes - she definitely read both messages. They were pretty straightforward asking if she was in the town I was at and available to meet up. Good thought though, I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, too.

Old-T · 09-09-2012, 09:35 PM

A few hours is often not a lot of time. Depending how popular she is, it is sometimes a while before they even know when they will be in which city.

Having said that, yes, it would be polite to reply--even if just "Thaqnk's for your inquiry, I don't know yet. I'll get back to you". But not everyone is polite--especially when they have more requests than they feel they have time to answer.

Bottom line, don't assumei was anything about you. It's a good chance about her,

RonnyBoy67 · 09-09-2012, 09:49 PM

Old - T... thanks for your thoughtful comments. I am sure she is inundated with requests. So still looking for any suggestions on how to improve my response rate potential. Anyone?

cumalot · 09-09-2012, 10:10 PM

Ronnyboy67 it's wise to have plan A, B, and C if like you say your windows of opportunity are limited. Providers book up and get busy with not only Biz but like the rest of us RL as well. While some providers are prompt with their replies others have their reasons for not being so prompt as I mentioned. So the best and least aggravating thing to do is go with the first one that gets back with you after you've reached out to A, B, and C....P-411 has a lot of serious about the biz providers as well as ECCIE..............Good Luck

Tiffani Jameson · 09-09-2012, 10:48 PM

Not making any excuses for her or anything, but depending on the time frame of the appointment time (sooner rather than later), and what she was doing at the time, she may not have been able to respond. If you were looking for something short notice, and were not able to respond that may be a reason.

I know I may see an alert come to my phone while I'm in a meeting at work. While I can read it, and since it takes forever to respond on the phone, I'll wait until I can get to a pc.

There's honestly a multitude of reasons she didn't respond. On to the next one, darling.

RonnyBoy67 · 09-10-2012, 07:17 AM

Thanks for your feedback Sir Cumalot and Tiffani. Thanks for giving me a better glimpse of what is going on at the other end and how I can better plan ahead in the future.

pyramider · 09-10-2012, 09:42 AM

Also, try a newbie friendly provider.

ICU 812 · 09-10-2012, 05:55 PM

I generally do not contact providers for the first time on the dayIwant a session. I Plan ahead a few days and contact 3-4 ladies. some do not respond for whatever reason. There is screening and schedualing. I can make a final plan with enough time (24 hrs ) to cancell one or more without hard feelings.

Works for me.

Guest062213 · 09-10-2012, 06:37 PM

I completely agree with Tiffani. My day schedule is extremely busy and even though I may read the message on my phone, it will take me several hours to respond. I usually don't respond until later in the evening when I get home and can use my own pc.

By the way, you should always have a back up plan.

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Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I know I may see an alert come to my phone while I'm in a meeting at work. While I can read it, and since it takes forever to respond on the phone, I'll wait until I can get to a pc.

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Guest082513-02 · 09-10-2012, 07:02 PM

I know that when im touring... ill glance at my 411 pm's when they come in and often plan to respond once i arrive at my incall... Or if im touring and the request is for a later date in different city... ill respond when i get back home. I like my responses to be professional and appreciative and that's hard to do when busy or driving. And to be honest.. on a few occasions I simply forgot to go back and respond. When i did realize i forgot... i responded with a sincere apology.

Id just move on to another lady. Unless youre a complete ass.. then i wouldnt take it personal.

Good luck darlin

pyramider · 09-10-2012, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by RGVGFE

I completely agree with Tiffani. My day schedule is extremely busy and even though I may read the message on my phone, it will take me several hours to respond. I usually don't respond until later in the evening when I get home and can use my own pc.

By the way, you should always have a back up plan.

The best back up plan is a bottle of lube and some porn.

wanttohavefun · 09-10-2012, 08:44 PM

Being able to set up a meeting with that limited a time frame is rough when you are newbie.

My personal experience is that once I've seen a provider a couple times they start responding faster when I call, email or text. If you haven't seen them before you could be lumped in with the bunch of other guys who are wasting their time.

I too have limited time to hobby and on nights where I NEEDED it, I have ended up on plan F (one provider who was out of town had a friend she recommended I call).

If you are shooting for a particular provider the only option is diligence, patience and having a good rep with a few other providers. If she has another provider that she does doubles with you might be able to see the other provider to gain some rep.

I had a particular provider that I was trying to get with and it took over a month to connect up between summer vacations and my limited availability. Now that I've seen her a few times it's gotten much easier.

RonnyBoy67 · 09-11-2012, 08:50 AM

I sincerely appreciate everyone's taking the time to respond, and sharing insights that I can apply in the future. I definitely understand the challenges both sides face more clearly. One last thought - I was prepared to offer her double her normal rate. As a follow-up question, How might that tactic be received by a provider? I would never want to viewed as tactless or desperate, but given my limited windows of opportunity how might you perceive this offer?