Have you ever?

[Guest102612]

Has anyone ever meet/dated a lady or gentleman in their normal life and found out later they were in the business (provider)?

[guest090512-3]

Not yet. A number of my exes were amateur whores, though. Does that count?

(I'm joking, btw. I consider myself a man whore, and firmly believe that "Everybody pays." It's just not always with money.)

This is similar, but not exactly what you meant, but I have recently learned that a couple of my acquaintances engage in pay-for-play. I heard them dropping "hobby terms" in a conversation, which heretofore I would never have caught.

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Sabrababy

Has anyone ever meet/dated a lady or gentleman in their normal life and found out later they were in the business (provider)?

I met, dated, and married lady--and stayed married for 23 years--who wasn't a provider. At all. Does that count?

[Guest102612]

Originally Posted by TheAdmiral

Not yet. A number of my exes were amateur whores, though. Does that count?

(I'm joking, btw. I consider myself a man whore, and firmly believe that "Everybody pays." It's just not always with money.)

This is similar, but not exactly what you meant, but I have recently learned that a couple of my acquaintances engage in pay-for-play. I heard them dropping "hobby terms" in a conversation, which heretofore I would never have caught.

Admiral,
Do you hate women or what? Do you find it appropriate to call women whores. I find it very distasteful. I can see why you have a number of ex's!
I don't care if you are on a escort site or not, show some respect for women.

[burkalini]

Sabra I think the correct term on this site is Hooktard

[guest090512-3]

Sorry, Sabra. That was in poor taste. I was just kidding.

[Guest121212]

Originally Posted by Sabrababy

Admiral,
Do you hate women or what? Do you find it appropriate to call women whores. I find it very distasteful. I can see why you have a number of ex's!
I don't care if you are on a escort site or not, show some respect for women.

Hooktardism has been going around (as in "contagious") lately, apparently. Hell, I'm guilty of it myself recently - must have caught the bug.

That said, Admiral did say he was joking . . . ijs.

Sabra, if you can't handle the word "whore" on a SHMB . . . well, holy shit . . . and here most people thought I was the only one that had a stick up her ass. LMAO!

Kisses,

- Jackie

EDIT: Taste is relative, I thought it was kind of funny, in the self-deprecating sense.

Originally Posted by TheAdmiral

Sorry, Sabra. That was in poor taste. I was just kidding.

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin

Hooktardism has been going around (as in "contagious") lately, apparently. ...

Yes, in much the same way as does lice.

[Guest102612]

Admiral,
It's all good.

Jackie,

Yes I can handle the word "whore", on here and any other place I might hear it. I just think its a very distasteful way to describe someone's daughter, sister or mother!!

As for a stick up my ass, let someone call me a whore out side the bedroom and they will know how a stick feels up theirs!

[Guest121212]

Meh. Just a word.

[MsElena]

Whore, escort, hooker, courtesan.........means all the same thing......you're fucking for money. Its just a matter of semantics.

If a guy calls me a whore, I call him a trick. No biggie.

[JDNorthface]

Sabra/Jackie/Elena,

With your kind permission, I'd like to pursue this a little more, this issue of calling ladies, "whores" and gentlemen, "tricks," etc. More or less, this would be for my own personal understanding and not a basis of judgment.

Much as some would like to believe the board is some 'wild west, rootin-tootin, hooker town where men are men and common decency is checked at the saloon door' I find it hard to believe. So, help broaden my understanding by entertaining a few questions.

First, I have a son with autism. I am grateful that the society in which we live would never tolerate anyone calling him a 'retard' or any variation thereof. It is unacceptable and, at rank-minimum, boorish. Nor would our society call my african american golf partner by the 'N' word (or any variation thereof).

Why, then, do we believe that calling a lady a 'hooktard' is acceptable? And if this moniker is not disrespectful, what names could you be called that are? And the final question to which I would enjoy a response is, do you believe there are any standards of decency and civility to which members of this board should comply to avoid being social cretins?

I'm in a thinking frame of mind tonight. And I eagerly anticipate your responses.

All the best.

[guest090512-3]

Right! To me it's just a word, not a loaded or pejorative term--that's why I referred to myself as a whore. I don't consider myself any better than anyone else.

I just meant I'd been cheated on... one of my exes had A LOT of gentlemen friends. That's all.

I can't recall ever actually calling a woman a whore. I think of myself as one, and it would be hypocritical.

Does kind of make me wonder, though, if I've ever been friends with a provider and just didn't know it?

Edit: Was writing this as post above went up. It seems like "provider" and "client" are relatively safe terms.

[Osolomio]

I have been pretty naive about the hobby for most of my life. I knew it existed, but in my home town?! I had been sitting at my favorite bar when I was approached. I just thought she was coming on to me a bit strong, it was right in front of the bartender. I even made a joke out of the offer and he laughed (at me, I later realized) and pissed the two girls off. I commented that that was a weird way to meet me, and he enlightened me that they were providers. I was thunderstruck.

The language used to ask if I was involved in the hobby suddenly lit up several memories of various women asking me the same question. Each time I had thought they were asking me a cultural question and I had enlightened the ladies of how my culture dealt with the scenario. Leaving them puzzled and me not having gotten laid.

.

[Guest102612]

Originally Posted by JDNorthface

Sabra/Jackie/Elena,

With your kind permission, I'd like to pursue this a little more, this issue of calling ladies, "whores" and gentlemen, "tricks," etc. More or less, this would be for my own personal understanding and not a basis of judgment.

Much as some would like to believe the board is some 'wild west, rootin-tootin, hooker town where men are men and common decency is checked at the saloon door' I find it hard to believe. So, help broaden my understanding by entertaining a few questions.

First, I have a son with autism. I am grateful that the society in which we live would never tolerate anyone calling him a 'retard' or any variation thereof. It is unacceptable and, at rank-minimum, boorish. Nor would our society call my african american golf partner by the 'N' word (or any variation thereof).

Why, then, do we believe that calling a lady a 'hooktard' is acceptable? And if this moniker is not disrespectful, what names could you be called that are? And the final question to which I would enjoy a response is, do you believe there are any standards of decency and civility to which members of this board should comply to avoid being social cretins?

I'm in a thinking frame of mind tonight. And I eagerly anticipate your responses.

All the best.

JD,

I guess it all depends on the person. I was raised to be respectful of all people, I know someone that works with autistic people and calls them retards all the the time, after asking her to please not use that word around me she continued, so I just stopped being around her.
As for the word "whore", well I associate the word with "Pimps and drugs".... Even with this being said, I would never call another women a whore anymore then I would call a man a trick, john.....
I remember being out with my grandmother shopping and there was this lady who looked beautiful to me and I said something to my grandmother and she told me, "she is a lady of the night". From that day on I wanted to be a "lady of the night".