I LOVE the message boards, but...

[Lovelyelle_01]

Lately, I have noticed that there's a slight difference in the mindset of the clients I see who are active on hobby message boards and those who aren't. Now, I am not claiming that all gentlemen who frequent the boards are jaded. But, I WILL say that there seems to be a different level of appreciation for the "Hobby World" in general and a much more positive attitude concerning the friendships that it can potentially form (AGAIN, this is not concerning ALL gents who frequent the boards, just SOME. MOST of you are awesome! *wink*). I love participating in the discussions within this and various other communities. But, this has me wondering if it could actually be detrimental to the way I see the hobby myself.

Ladies, have an of you noticed this yourselves? Gentlemen, do you think that participating in the various discussions on the boards has the potential to negatively sway your attitude towards the hobby?

[Zabrina Sarafina]

Well...that comes with any review/hobby board.

Personally, I'm just here for the Drama

[Fratelli]

There are certainly a few guys on the board who frequently remind the rest of us that its all fake, she doesn't like you she only likes your money, you can't trust anything she says, and who seem to have a generally low regard for women in this profession.

In some ways, its a bit of a killjoy, and in other ways it is a salutary reminder that this is indeed a business and there are lines that you cross at your peril.

And just as there are differences in the mindsets of various clients you might meet, the same is true of providers. I've met some wonderful, genuine, and generous women here. And then there are others ....

[AdventureAdams]

Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Well...that comes with any review/hobby board.

Personally, I'm just here for the Drama

I've meet some guys who seemed to be assholes on the board but when they contact me and we spend time together they couldn't be any sweeter and genuine. Some guys just like to create a macho persona to have something to escape every day life even if it is for a few hours a day. As long as they are safe and sane when they request to meet me, board persona are kinda null for me.

[mbinlincoln]

I'm not the most experienced at this but I have not been with a provider who wasn't incredibly enthusiastic--much more enthusiastic than any other partner I've had. If it is fake it's pretty damn good. Seriously these are gals that love sex, love men, and love to please. Now granted I avoid providers that get reviews that indicate lack of enthusiasm. But to say its all fake is to say the same about every bar pickup, etc. These gals are lovers at its very best meaning.

[Lovelyelle_01]

I understand what you all are saying about board personas. But, I'm not referring to "non posters", frequent posters, lurkers, trolls, or "blue moon"-ers. It's about those who don't participate in the discussion forums either because they have no idea that they exist or because they simply have no interest in doing so. Say for instance you were a gentleman who was only interested in getting dates. The only thing that interested you about being a member of a site is for the purposes of verification, maybe looking at ads, and reading/writing reviews. You never even go into the discussion forums/chat rooms because you truly have no interest/curiosity concerning "mingling with like minds". You may (or maybe not ) see things differently.

A gentleman from another board that I posted this on stated: "I also have noticed more in chat than in messages of how some ladies love to brag on how busy they are and how many men they see in the day, really? do you think that guys will be running to see you? sorry not me. So yes I think some of the participation in various discussions on the board has a negative sway on my attitude towards the hobby."

^^This can be used an example of what I'm referring to. If he were not active in the discussion/chat portion of the community, he would probably respond to the ads of the some of the same ladies he's referring to without hesitation.

[mbinlincoln]

Originally Posted by Lovelyelle_01

I understand what you all are saying about board personas. But, I'm not referring to "non posters", frequent posters, lurkers, trolls, or "blue moon"-ers. It's about those who don't participate in the discussion forums either because they have no idea that they exist or because they simply have no interest in doing so. Say for instance you were a gentleman who was only interested in getting dates. The only thing that interested you about being a member of a site is for the purposes of verification, maybe looking at ads, and reading/writing reviews. You never even go into the discussion forums/chat rooms because you truly have no interest/curiosity concerning "mingling with like minds". You may (or maybe not ) see things differently.

A gentleman from another board that I posted this on stated: "I also have noticed more in chat than in messages of how some ladies love to brag on how busy they are and how many men they see in the day, really? do you think that guys will be running to see you? sorry not me. So yes I think some of the participation in various discussions on the board has a negative sway on my attitude towards the hobby."

^^This can be used an example of what I'm referring to. If he were not active in the discussion/chat portion of the community, he would probably respond to the ads of the some of the same ladies he's referring to without hesitation.

I get what you're saying. I guess I'm the opposite. I see lots of ads on BP and NR that have pictures and descriptions that intrigue me. However, I will never see one of them (that is not also on here or I can otherwise review or verify), because I cannot interact with them; I cannot talk to guys who have seen them, and otherwise scare the shit out of me. I think the best gals are discreet anyway and aren't bragging about how how many guys they see in a day. Frankly every time I've met a provider, I've chatted with them through ECCIE before during and after and I have never once had the impression of the number of guys they've been with that day, week or month. I could have been the only one for all I know.

With that said, this board has helped me to feel as safe as possible in this hobby, and the interaction allows me to feel like it's a true GFE for me, rather than a transaction.

[keeline65]

I'm very new to all of this and have never participated on a board because I don't understand how they work or what the purpose is. I wouldn't base participation or non-participation as a basis for not seeing anyone though. I read reviews and make a decision.

[Tiffani Jameson]

Man, I love that Eleanor Roosevelt quote, Elle! (how you been, girl? )

I wondered the same thing. We see too many unhealthy situations and not enough positive ones, and I've been guilty of letting the unhealthy ones move me. But I've come to realize that as long as I'm confident in my own best practices, I will continue to see the positivity in my own encounters.

The point is either you can relate to the overall atmosphere of a message board or you can't.

[Joyce]

Mbinlincoln : [QUOTE]I'm not the most experienced at this but I have not been with a provider who wasn't incredibly enthusiastic--much more enthusiastic than any other partner I've had. If it is fake it's pretty damn good. Seriously these are gals that love sex, love men, and love to please. Now granted I avoid providers that get reviews that indicate lack of enthusiasm. But to say its all fake is to say the same about every bar pickup, etc. These gals are lovers at its very best meaning. [QUOTE]


Thank you...I hope you stay that way and see and feel who you are with for who they are. That is who I think are the real gentlemen and the best souls in all society in general.

I've seen people for who they are and equally be friendly and respectable to you in the same, have no thought of back stabbing as I don't, get on a board and then turn bad by others that coax them. Self hypocritical name calling, trying to manipulate, taking advantage to be abusive with it, and I think get lost in it as if they think they are untouchable for their actions and really say - 'we can talk dirt about them but they won't on us' - (and oh yes they can and I can picture it coming to a head in the future by a few to do what ever they wish in return). Look like zero IQ'd jack ass losers all by themselves. You don't want to ever be with them. Those that stay to their own decent ways are top people. Even they can get abused by them.

When seeing someone, I, and I believe some other ladies, can observe who act as though 'you' are not a person - or are a person - in the same way as you described seeing a girl - when seeing someone, (and a lot of other generalized personality characteristics - very psychological obsevance/patient like but not so cold of course (!).

Any interacting isn't still in natures natural balanced acceptance to think that by possibly having some consensual casual sex or love making, and being close with one another, that if you may have some insecurity feelings afterwards, that to pretend to be the dominating normal person and put the other in the dark as if 'we are not all equal', is supposed to mask those feelings. Be a strong adult. Get a long. So you saw someone - it's ok !

Law defamates us greatly and promotes and leads the way for continuing abuses: to not feel and because you may not let yourself have any respectable mind set for each other, and we can, and we know more and make those discoveries and decisions, not your ignorance be the judge or excuses to be bad. I think of it as a separation of decency and perversion. Those against, are acting against founded respect, are the perverse and they are unacceptable, wrong, and bad. Not to mention purposely evil thugs not meant for their positions. Those respectable in certain departments need to take over and rid of the abusers and corrupt.

[Zabrina Sarafina]

Good points above

You know you can't get all deep into this and start taking it so seriously

People are so Life n Death on here...it's hilarious. Better than killing time watching those fake reality shows on the telly

[Guest121613]

i have a learned a lot fast by participating in the boards. I post a lot. I hobbied for about a year before I joined eccie, and the hobby life is so much better now than trying to chase the BP ads. The board actually brings accountability to the hobby for both the provider and the client.

I agree with Zabrina that some take things too seriously. I think sometimes posters over emphasize points they want to make in order to be heard, and in real life, that persona will not manifest.

[Joyce]

In case of misunderstandings...my last paragraph is mostly geared toward law and law positions not departments here on this board, and how we can be treated or outcasted in any event overall from regular discrimination, sexual harassment, and people who torture and murder girls because they got labeled to be shitty to.

Hmmm... and rereading it myself again - for example "... not your ignorance be the judge or excuses to be bad.... " is about so called Law's actions... They are Very perverted in what they do...

[Eva Damita]

At the end of the day, I HOPE we are each our own person - however there are some who make the mistake of jumping on the bandwagon, and those who stand alone and stick to their own guns...

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Eva Damita

At the end of the day, I HOPE we are each our own person - however there are some who make the mistake of jumping on the bandwagon, and those who stand alone and stick to their own guns...

Well said ... now post some taint photos.