Dominating or Dominated?

[Guest102612]

I like a dominating, controlling man (not abusive) love it when he takes charge. I get wet as shit when a man throws me to the bed, grabs me by the hips, flips me over and pulls me into him. Maybe its the cave man, cave women thing, not sure.
I like to dominate with seduction, soft and slow, teasing inch by inch until he can't take it anymore and takes full control of me.

[spacejanitor]

I have got to get together with you......

[Guest022718]

MS Sabra, your post raises something of a conundrum for guys like me. I was raised under the philosophy "when mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." And I've lived around a lot of strong willed women.

So, when someone like you comes along...wanting to be told what to do....that's a high risk activity from my experience. I have to risk making you unhappy to make you happy.

What the web needs is an online assertiveness seminar so guys like me can satisfy gals like you.

[MsElena]

Sensual domination is like seducing, its an artform that not everyone is capable of truly succeeding. But then again, everyone has a different opinion of what sensual domination is.


I don't mind a guy taking control, in fact......I welcome it. But, in order for me to be comfortable with a guy throwing me on the bed, being forceful (in a good way) and being a little domme with me, I NEED to have seen him and have gotten to know him a little.

The reason I say that is because all types of men read this board, members or not and there's always going to be that one guy who is going to take what you wrote about this a little too far and you could end up being hurt.


HG......I could teach that class in my sleep. Maybe I'll offer a class for you guys.

[Guest102612]

Thank you MS. E

HG, you don't have to make me unhappy to make me happy. You are great just the way you are.

Let me see if I can explain this a little better.

I am a very strong willed, independent, always in control person and the bedroom is the perfect place for me to set aside these traits and let someone else be in control. It's stress relieving for me.
This does not mean I want to be abused, hit, or humiliated. I am not a sadist masochist!

I also like to "make love", it all really just comes down to the man I am with, how comfortable we are and what we are both comfortable with.

[Guest102612]

Originally Posted by spacejanitor

I have got to get together with you......

I'm here, what you waiting for??

[Bigh1955]

Originally Posted by Sabrababy

I like a dominating, controlling man (not abusive) love it when he takes charge. I get wet as shit when a man throws me to the bed, grabs me by the hips, flips me over and pulls me into him. Maybe its the cave man, cave women thing, not sure.
I like to dominate with seduction, soft and slow, teasing inch by inch until he can't take it anymore and takes full control of me.

Yes...you do.

Now roll over and show me your pretty ass!

[Guest102612]

Yes...you do.

Now roll over and show me your pretty ass!



Yes Master. lmao

[huskerguyomaha]

Sign me up!

Originally Posted by MsElena

I could teach that class in my sleep. Maybe I'll offer a class for you guys.

[Marcus Aurelius]

Would there be POP quizzes?

[Guest022718]

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

Would there be POP quizzes?

LOL...if so I hope they'll be orals!

[Guest022718]

They don't call me "Captain Buzzkill" for no reason, so I am going to drag what is a very fun topic back into the realm of realism for a moment. I know Sabra's post was intended to be fun and provocative...and so it was. But....

Hasn't society pretty much trained men to be meek little beggars? Isn't that why the rare alpha male stands out?

Example. I had another provider describe a role playing session she was in. She actually went to the clients place of business (at the clients request) and applied for a job. During the job interview with the client, he told her what she'd have to do to get the job. They left together....and did it! Got some strange looks from the receptionist on the way out.

Now, doing this in real life to a real job applicant is absolutely wrong. As a manager, that fact has been drilled into me so long and so hard that I found the whole tale to be obscene. I simply could not bring myself to do this....even in role play. Note...I'm not condemning the provider or her client.....I've just been brainwashed for too long.

And that's where we get to domination. How does one overcome years of "training" by society?

[Guest102612]

Originally Posted by hgritstoo

They don't call me "Captain Buzzkill" for no reason, so I am going to drag what is a very fun topic back into the realm of realism for a moment. I know Sabra's post was intended to be fun and provocative...and so it was. But....

Hasn't society pretty much trained men to be meek little beggars? Isn't that why the rare alpha male stands out?

Example. I had another provider describe a role playing session she was in. She actually went to the clients place of business (at the clients request) and applied for a job. During the job interview with the client, he told her what she'd have to do to get the job. They left together....and did it! Got some strange looks from the receptionist on the way out.

Now, doing this in real life to a real job applicant is absolutely wrong. As a manager, that fact has been drilled into me so long and so hard that I found the whole tale to be obscene. I simply could not bring myself to do this....even in role play. Note...I'm not condemning the provider or her client.....I've just been brainwashed for too long.

And that's where we get to domination. How does one overcome years of "training" by society?

You are already doing that by partaking in the hobby, aren't you?????

[Guest022718]

Originally Posted by Sabrababy

You are already doing that by partaking in the hobby, aren't you?????

LOL....yes......and it took me 35 years to work up the nerve! I don't have another 35!

[MsElena]

Originally Posted by huskerguyomaha

Sign me up!

Noted.

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

Would there be POP quizzes?

Why yes, there will be.

Originally Posted by hgritstoo

LOL...if so I hope they'll be orals!

Wouldn't have it any other way darlin'.