Why So Serious?

[Lilly2340]

What do you do when things between you and a client become more than hobby related?

And men WHAT do you do when you start to feel more than physically attracted to a provider?

When things get... Confusing. How do u go about it? Act upon it? Seperate yourself? Seperate ways?
Or go with the flow?

[Guest061815-1]

A loaded question, and a potentially very slippery slope. Sometimes the "click" between the two of you is the sound of two hearts connecting. Other times it's the sound of a trigger switch on an IED about to go off and cause major injuries to you and those around you.

If the emotional line does get crossed, the smartest thing to do is to never forget the circumstances under which you met and let that be the gauge by which everything that follows is conditioned. I personally don't see anything wrong with taking things from client/provider to friendship, but the line must be drawn early and not crossed.

This is another (big) reason why I prefer to see older, mature women. They've had more than their fill of SO's and relationships and have no problem with making that clear.

[Guest061815-1]

. Sorry. Duplicate post. Carry on.

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by PDid

A loaded question, and a potentially very slippery slope. Sometimes the "click" between the two of you is the sound of two hearts connecting. Other times it's the sound of a trigger switch on an IED about to go off and cause major injuries to you and those around you.

If the emotional line does get crossed, the smartest thing to do is to never forget the circumstances under which you met and let that be the gauge by which everything that follows is conditioned. I personally don't see anything wrong with taking things from client/provider to friendship, but the line must be drawn early and not crossed.

This is another (big) reason why I prefer to see older, mature women. They've had more than their fill of SO's and relationships and have no problem with making that clear.

Do u think this hobby takes a toll or changes mentality toward rw relationships for either

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

What do you do when things between you and a client become more than hobby related?

And men WHAT do you do when you start to feel more than physically attracted to a provider?

When things get... Confusing. How do u go about it? Act upon it? Seperate yourself? Seperate ways?
Or go with the flow?

Things are always going to be confusing, especially at such a young age. Just Here are a few things to consider...

• Is the guy married? If he is, then this is a non-starter. Don't go forward and do not collect $100. He will never leave his wife for you, no matter what he tells you. He has too much invested with that other person to leave her for you. If he really wanted out of that relationship, he would be divorced.
• What is the age difference between you two? If he is more than 10 years older than you (considering how young you area), then he only wants you for one thing, and that is sex. You two are at different maturity levels, no matter how mature you consider yourself to be. There is very little in common between the two of you.
• Is he cheating on his girlfriend or wife with escorts? If he is, then do you REALLY want to be emotionally invested in that kind of guy? He cheated on them with you, and he will most likely cheat on you with someone else when the time suits him.
• He obviously visits hookers, are you going in with the mentality that you can fix him? You won't FIX him. Don't fall into this trap that many young women fall into.

Additionally, he may just be pulling at your heart strings so that he can fuck you for free.

Here is my advice, don't get involved with anyone while you are fucking people for money. It will fuck with your head. Guys love to pretend and can separate sex from love. Can you do the same?

[Guest061815-1]

Originally Posted by Simon Riley

....don't get involved with anyone while you are fucking people for money.

The 12 best words of wisdom you'll get in this entire thread.

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

Do u think this hobby takes a toll or changes mentality toward rw relationships for either

We are all at least a little fucked up just by being here. We behave outside of society's norms. Take a look at yourself and figure out what makes you choose the decisions that you make. Then you will answer your own question.

In my opinion, the hobby doesn't take a toll on real world relationships. Our past experiences influence us to make these decisions that have landed us here. We were already fucked up. This hobby just makes it easier for us to behave the way we do and we would treat our relationships the same way (hobby or not).

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by PDid

The 12 best words of wisdom you'll get in this entire thread.

See i KNEW IT..
AND i keep getting told im fucked up in my head..
I just cant be committed to someone if its not monogamous on both ends..
Js...
People just dont get it

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

See i KNEW IT..
AND i keep getting told im fucked up in my head..
I just cant be committed to someone if its not monogamous on both ends..
Js...
People just dont get it

You are fucked up in your head. You are here, right?

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by Simon Riley

You are fucked up in your head. You are here, right?

I plead the fifth ....

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by Simon Riley

We are all at least a little fucked up just by being here. We behave outside of society's norms. Take a look at yourself and figure out what makes you choose the decisions that you make. Then you will answer your own question.

In my opinion, the hobby doesn't take a toll on real world relationships. Our past experiences influence us to make these decisions that have landed us here. We were already fucked up. This hobby just makes it easier for us to behave the way we do and we would treat our relationships the same way (hobby or not).

What about the guy who knows. What i do and he continues to try to be more than friends??
And he has a good job and takes. Care of himself
And says he dont care what i do..
It seems wierd to me.. Like a undercover pimp...

[Camille Fox]

You are the professional. They come to you so you can keep their lives simple. To create more than that is to complicate things. Ultimately, the money in the envelope also comes with the implied responsibility to keep things simple, even if they may not think that at that very moment. It is your job to draw that line in a positive way.


Camille

[Camille Fox]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

What about the guy who knows. What i do and he continues to try to be more than friends??
And he has a good job and takes. Care of himself
And says he dont care what i do..
It seems wierd to me.. Like a undercover pimp...

Well, a friend of mine of NY has a way of dealing with that. Provide him with what your monthly income would be and let him know that it, for the patronage of so much, you will singularly only see him, even take your showcase/webpage down during that period of time.

Talk is cheap, my friend. Anyone can promise you the world.

[rockerrick]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

What about the guy who knows. What i do and he continues to try to be more than friends??
And he has a good job and takes. Care of himself
And says he dont care what i do..
It seems wierd to me.. Like a undercover pimp...

Does this mean that you have no feelings, and have expressed this?
If you are not interested, he should not approached the subject.
On the other hand it was mutual, the situation is different.
He still should not have taken the lead because that makes for an uncomfortable situation.
I've been there 3 times, all 3 times I waited til the subject was brought up to me.
As far as him being ok with it?
Why wouldn't he be?
He's a whore too, just a bad one who doesn't get payed.
Undercover pimp? Not necessarily.

Obviously I chose to go with the flow.

[CashmereLove]

Originally Posted by Lilly2340

It seems wierd to me.. Like a undercover pimp...

Maybe hes confused by your tagline & considered it a challenge...lmao JK
Carry on