Screening too much vs not screening.

[brother]

Some thing I like to run by everyone to see what y'all think about my weekend. trying to set up seeing providers that are member of this site! I was trying to see some Indy providers this week didn't work out to good. Three providers just try to screen to much like asking for 3 or 4 refs. I can understand if I won't a member but I been a member for a while now I wrote 18 reveiws. With that said i started feeling they just didn't want to see me. Im thinking coz things they see and think about me from this site. the last one I try seeing I left out I was a member here thinking that might help me! This provider had 2 or 3 really good reviews but it be a while since I see anything on her so I when a head and email her. she asked for nothing all I had in the email was my first name she never ask for anything at all not my phone or even if I was a member at any sites I didn't feel safe. so I cancelled the morning of the date.

[DallasRain]

I only require one reputable provider reference,but if you are a well established dawg here,it makes it easier for me ........I would check out your reviews & touch base with them and also see what kind of posting you do....

For instance...I know 100% guys like PornoDave,Outdoorsman,Ash,Nort hshoreGeorge,etc{sorry if i left anyone out...lol} are safe to see without checking a reference{even though I still will check}


thats why it is so important to use this board!

[ashwednesday666]

I've been lucky hardly any screening. The bad thing with me is setting up a same day appointment due to my work schedule.

[Nicolet]

I agree with Dallas, if I were contacted by a gentleman with as many reviews as you, I would not need your blood type, whether or not you're an organ donor (well, maybe ONE organ! ), your grandmother's maiden name, etc. There is being careful and there is being ridiculous! Sorry you had such a difficult time, darlin'!

[brother]

Thanks! thats what I was thinking. why be a member at a site if you don't let help you!

[Nicolet]

Not to be too nosy, but were the ladies you contacted members as well? If that is the case, all I can say is shame on them! If not, check with we ladies here! Dallas will rock you! Heck, I could rock you too!

[brother]

All 4 is member here!

[Nicolet]

WOW! Looks like it was their loss then! And yours too, unfortunately.

[DallasRain]

Originally Posted by Nicolet

WOW! Looks like it was their loss then! And yours too, unfortunately.

ditto....sorry that happened to ya...but keep fishing & you will end up finding that "perfect" provider!!!!l

{thanks Nicolet sugar}

[LilRed]

Originally Posted by Nicolet

I agree with Dallas, if I were contacted by a gentleman with as many reviews as you, I would not need your blood type, whether or not you're an organ donor (well, maybe ONE organ! ), your grandmother's maiden name, etc. There is being careful and there is being ridiculous! Sorry you had such a difficult time, darlin'!

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That is funny Nicolet. I'm sorry you had a dry weekend brother. Even a good thing like screening can become sour if it is too extreme. I agree with the previous ladies, a gentleman's reputation on here carries a lot of weight with me. If they are always posting negative comments or have a bad attitude on here, I have turned down their appointments. But those who are active with good reputations should fly through screening with a breeze. I hope your week gets better!

[Outdoorsman]

I have experienced the too much screening issue and I have lines I draw on information I release, just me. Recently I had a travelling lady ask me for too much info and I sent out my standard PM or email giving my first name, telelphone number (hobby phone), age, my profession, two reputable references, and the GFE session I was interested in. She responded quickly and asked for more info that got too invasive into my life for my comfort. So, I called her and she told she was sorry she does not see guys without all that info, I wished the best of luck and hoped her stay in our city was prosperous and we parted with amicable terms. I did not see her but no big deal to me. The way I see it, it would not have been that much fun for me if I was worried she had my info or if she was worried if I was a stalker or whatever. Does not make for a fun session for me. I want both of us to be relaxed and have fun, just me.

See now I know I can contact Dallas (you are so kind to me), Nicolet, or Lilred for quicker screening.

I also suspect the ladies want to speak to previous ladies I have seen in order to better accomodate me, the type of session I enjoy, activities, etc. Just a lady doing her best to service me, how can I complain about that!

[GOOD TIME CHARLIE]

In this thing we call the HOBBY, there is always a level of risk for the client as well as the provider, that being said, I would say that true blue providers that interact daily with various boards and the hobby community as a whole on a daily basis such as Dallas, Nicolet, Lil Red etc. are who they say they are, because they have many reviews to back up their claims, and come accros as genuine individuals.

The main problem I personally have had with the hobby and screening is the profession I work in and the organization I work for and it is not LE or related to LE in anyway, actually it is the medical field. I have always been a private type individual, an believe strongly in the idea of not kissing and telling, as you see, I have given no reviews even though, I have seen several providers most have been BP providers, primarily because many times you can arrange something spontaneous within a hour or so, and most do not require your resume and credit report to see you. Over all there is a higher level of risk when dealing with some of the BP providers, than would have with tried true ECCIE providers like Dallas, Nicolet, and Lil Red Etc., but having worked with the public most of my life, I have always had the ability for the most part to read between the lines and find BP providers that were who they said they were, and gave a good experience. I am not going to say, I have never had a bad experience, like booking a appointment, and when you get to the hotel, they do not answer, I think LFG put it in terms of BP providers that book the buffet, and hold them in the lot til they are ready to see them, I am not going to say that I have never had a B&S from BP or a provider that tried to up sell every service on the menu, but as someone one told me consider those situations as tuition for learning the hobby.

Throuhout my experiences, I have found where the older more mature providers that post pictures that equate to a mature woman to be exactly that. I have found that you can tell when a ad is written by the provider, and not a cookie cutter ad written by agency or a pimp, not that agencies are bad, but my experience with agencies has been hit and miss, and generally at a higher cost for the disappointment. When the ad is written by the provider, and they are positive with their approach, but humble as well, you are dealing with a true individual, versus a independent ad that comes across with alot of hyped fluff, and photo shopped images chances are its TGTBT, B&S, or both. To sum it up the problem I have had with screening is that basically most tried true providers now want too much personal information, and you have many honest ligitimate dogs out here willing to accomidate said providers, but do not want to take the chance of their information coming back to bitethem in the future.

[Nicolet]

You should see MY BP ad! I like to think that I am the "thinking man's" kind of woman!

[Lea Madisson]

HI Brother...

I am so sorry you had such a hard time (or, I guess, lack of a Hard time, lol).

I would have simply looked at your reviews and maybe contacted a coupld of them. I screen until I feel comfortable. In your case, I would have asked for a couple of references, looked at your posts on ECCIE to get an idea of what you are like and read a few reviews.

It would not have been a big deal.

There is one thing though that may have hindered you a little in the minds of a few providers. I noticed a number of girls you have seen were agency girls and they can be hard to get references from. That could have been a problem for some.

Anyway, I am in New Orleans this week, Tuesday through Thursday. I have been told that I am a reliable reference! LOL

Smooch!

Lea

[DallasRain]

Mmmmmmmm yesssssss lea is.100 percent wild hot reliable fun! Hey how bout a double with lea and me. I will be here till thursday! Woohoooo fun!