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TX · 08-04-2011, 03:54 PM

So the SO came out of nowhere yesterday and said she wants to sleep with another woman and wants me to play also!

Naturally I was excited!

We sat down and talked about it and we decided asking a friend is out of the question. And I didn’t mention it but I am pretty sure a provider is out of the picture also.

So that now leads me to the reason I am posting this here.
Ladies and gents what advice do you have in finding a single lady to join us.

If any of you local Austin folks have any specific advice please shares that with me on here or in a message.

Thanks in advance!

sweet.treat69 · 08-04-2011, 04:06 PM

I'm not exactly local (I'm in Arlington) but my suggestion is a swinger club or perhaps a swingers dating site... I don't know of any but I'm sure they're out there, and hopefully you guys will find your playmate

Mature Companion · 08-04-2011, 04:17 PM

ASK your S/O whom SHE would like the other lady to be. It is after all her fantasy & idea.
Or tell her you take photos of ladies and would she like to choose from your portfolio?? Since you did mention to me that they weren't hobby related since you weren't a hobbyist.
I'm sure she might find some of those ladies to her liking.

Good luck to your S/O. Hope she finds the woman of her dreams and enjoys one heck of a good time.

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Originally Posted by TX

So the SO came out of nowhere yesterday and said she wants to sleep with another woman and wants me to play also!

Naturally I was excited!

We sat down and talked about it and we decided asking a friend is out of the question. And I didn’t mention it but I am pretty sure a provider is out of the picture also.

So that now leads me to the reason I am posting this here.
Ladies and gents what advice do you have in finding a single lady to join us.

If any of you local Austin folks have any specific advice please shares that with me on here or in a message.

Thanks in advance!

Tetas · 08-04-2011, 04:38 PM

Personally, I'd move slowly and purposefully here.
Be sure it's really what she wants to do and not just something that she dreamed up because she wants to please you.
If it really IS from "out of nowhere", tread lightly and discuss everything, don't just rush into it because YOU are excited.
If you both decide that it's really what you want to do, I would still go slowly.
And truthfully, I'd be deceitful.

I'd start contacting ladies here and find one that is attractive and also truly bisexual, you might even surf a little porn with the SO to make sure what type she finds attractive.
I'd then schedule a 4-5 hour date with the lady and explain to her what's going to happen.
Take the SO out for a night on the town, eat dinner and take her to a nice hotel that you've booked for a "surprise".
Have the other lady meet you at the hotel bar and just ease into it, visit, flirt, drink, dance, take them up to a room for a nightcap and let things progress naturally from there.
Making sure that the majority of attention is paid to the SO.
At the end of the evening, the visiting lady can gracefully exit, having to catch a flight in the morning or something and your SO never has to know that you paid her for the adventure.
(Women aren't stupid, she'll probably KNOW that you set it all up before hand, but this gives her the option of denying it to herself if she wants to.)

I've done various 3-somes with friends and their SO's, a former GF of mine and her friend, all sorts of set ups and situations.
A lot of these DON'T go well, especially the first time.
I'd hire a professional to make sure it went down as good as possible!

Still Looking · 08-05-2011, 12:37 AM

Sounds like this has disaster written all over it!

TX · 08-05-2011, 10:16 AM

Thanks for all the input!

Front Bottom · 08-05-2011, 11:35 AM

My advice is to let your SO handle the whole thing. If you appear too eager, it could make her feel insecure. I'm a lucky guy. My SO and her friend have given me a BBBJ x 2 on two different ocassions. My SO has rules ( no kissing, no intercourse ) and I respected those and everything worked out great.

TX · 08-05-2011, 12:16 PM

Thanks Bottom......

The only thing is the SO sold me to find the 3rd.

I guess i will have to give the swingers website a try first. Then go from there!

Lily Blair · 08-05-2011, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Still Looking

Sounds like this has disaster written all over it!

Men often think this sounds like an awesome idea until things go awry. This same scenario happened to a male friend of mine. One year later after ALOT of drama and heartache he was divorced.

TexTushHog · 08-05-2011, 11:49 PM

Food for thought.

http://www.slate.com/id/2300725/

Still Looking · 08-06-2011, 01:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Lily Blair

Men often think this sounds like an awesome idea until things go awry. This same scenario happened to a male friend of mine. One year later after ALOT of drama and heartache he was divorced.

Close friend of mine had it happen... see moved in with the gal and he was done!

pyramider · 08-06-2011, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Still Looking

Close friend of mine had it happen... see moved in with the gal and he was done!

So its a win-win for the guy!!

Still Looking · 08-06-2011, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by pyramider

So its a win-win for the guy!!

Thats one way to look at it! I think he was most upset about his kids and the effect it had on them!

Out_of_Bounds · 08-06-2011, 10:33 AM

I'd advise the same as everyone else has as for proceeding with caution.
Here's a good scenario.
Find out what type of woman your SO thinks as attractive.
Find a provider that fits the bill.
Approach her explaining the situation and see if she could "happen to come across" your wife while ya'll are out together.
Maybe said provider could strike up a conversation and flirt and seduce your SO.
Making it seem like it was spontaneous. Then the three of you make your way to the local notel and have what seems to your wife a spur of the moment menage a trois.
Then if the provider agrees to it settle up with her later away from your wifes eyes.

SneakyCancer · 08-06-2011, 01:44 PM

communication is the key but it appears you both have that down since she came out and asked you about it. I would let her find the woman so it has nowhere to back fire but on her. try starting off at a club, swingers, strip, dance, etc...and she what turns up. also some lesbian hang outs are not always full of the "only pussy" type.