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02-20-2018, 06:33 PM
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Sexy Cat Lady
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How Long Is Too Long?
I'd like to hear some opinions on how long is too long to be listing a provider as a reference. I received a screening request from a lady asking about one of the first few guys I had seen when I started in the hobby about 2 years ago. I didn't want to come across as being petty or unwilling to provide a reference, but I don't even have his number anymore so I couldn't verify him with that information. Generally speaking, I would feel comfortable providing a reference for someone up to a year, but not past that.
Ladies: How long are your references good for after an appointment and what is your reasoning behind it? Would you feel comfortable taking a reference from another provider if she hadn't seen the client in over a year or so?
Gentlemen: When you see a provider and she says she is reference friendly, do you have a certain expectation of how long you will be able to obtain references from her?
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02-20-2018, 06:49 PM
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Excellent question, Vannah. I just had an incident today where a gentleman that I had only seen once, 4 or 5 years ago, asked to provide me as a reference...
I would say that a lot depends on whether you still have his information and whether you still remember him. But even so... to me, references are part of the service that we provide. If a client hasn’t paid for our services in years, then maybe there should be some type of compensation. I have thought about charging a reference fee for very old references. I’d be interested to know everyone’s opinion about this idea.
My normal reference policy is six months. I have extended it up to a year but that’s only if the person had seen me regularly prior.
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02-20-2018, 07:12 PM
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Good question Vannah. I've wondered this myself and IMO i believe it all boils down to if provider still remembers client and has his or her info. My personal expectation is up to a year. Maybe more than a year if I have established rapport and a proper client/provider relationship.
Also I agree with pretty much everything Ginger just said in regards to a reference fee. Great idea!
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02-20-2018, 07:31 PM
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A reference fee huh? How would you plan to collect it?
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02-20-2018, 07:47 PM
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I feel like 6 months is a fair cutoff for providing a reference, at least for somebody you've only seen once. Depending on how often you see and/or interact with each other, you could have a longer cutoff, but that would depend on the provider.
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02-20-2018, 08:05 PM
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till death do us part?
i get the year sentiment. really all sorts of shit can happen in a year. (like getting sick)
i had 2 ladies give me references for a long time after and it was very appreciated. especially for a guy that doesn't get out to play all that much.
for that i would have paid a reasonable ref fee. though i really, really don't want a paper or electronic payment trail leading back to me.
can you make anonymous payments through the walmart money desk?
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02-20-2018, 08:42 PM
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Originally Posted by JdeHog
I feel like 6 months is a fair cutoff for providing a reference, at least for somebody you've only seen once. Depending on how often you see and/or interact with each other, you could have a longer cutoff, but that would depend on the provider.
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This is what I'd consider reasonable also. One year is stretching it, multiple years is ridiculous. Unless you'd seen them very frequently in the past, but in that case I think as a provider screening a client I'd wonder what changed to cause the gap.
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02-20-2018, 08:43 PM
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🦊Nicole Foxx🦊
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I dont blame you!! like recently I had someone who didn't want to see me agaiin but wanted me to give him a reference every week but when we tried to plan it was beat around the bush!!
so when it comes to situations like that ! or like gingers! than that is only fair to charge for a reference. Especially when they have only seen you one or two times and keeps using you as a reference. And if their older than a year for me !
i understand life happens as well!
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02-20-2018, 09:37 PM
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hmmn
Every lady has the right to set her own guidelines. I am long time member with a few reviews, but I struggle to maintain recent/current references. Several reasons, I do not play a lot any more, and I see more newbies and they get out of the hobby, and there are other reasons.
I am grateful to several unnamed ladies that helped me in the past, some I did not not even review, and had not seen in quite a while, but they were so helpful in providing a reference. And I do APPRECIATE THAT!
Question? How long does a review, last? Does it go away?
If a guy took the time to review you, would you just acknowledge it and provide a reference?
Thanks again to any lady that has given me a reference, I do appreciate it.
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02-21-2018, 02:37 AM
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A reference fee huh? How would you plan to collect it?
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There are prepaid credit cards, etc... It can be anonymous.
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...Also I agree with pretty much everything Ginger just said in regards to a reference fee. Great idea!
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Thanks. There is virtually no difference between my suggestion and the entire premise of preferred411... They just charge an annual fee to maintain records of references/ok’s.
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02-21-2018, 07:42 AM
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let's just be straight forward about it.
Any provider that does not want me to use them as a reference ever again, I understand. Please pm me and let me know. I am willing to comply. And I am not offended about it. I think this might be the best open honest policy. I would rather know, when I am doing some thing a provider, does not like, that is the only way I can correct it.
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02-21-2018, 10:24 AM
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Sexy Cat Lady
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Originally Posted by Ginger Doll
Excellent question, Vannah. I just had an incident today where a gentleman that I had only seen once, 4 or 5 years ago, asked to provide me as a reference...
I would say that a lot depends on whether you still have his information and whether you still remember him. But even so... to me, references are part of the service that we provide. If a client hasn’t paid for our services in years, then maybe there should be some type of compensation. I have thought about charging a reference fee for very old references. I’d be interested to know everyone’s opinion about this idea.
My normal reference policy is six months. I have extended it up to a year but that’s only if the person had seen me regularly prior.
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I think that would be a good idea, Ginger. And I'm sure that the clients that don't hobby often would definitely be able to appreciate it.
Since I remembered his handle, I was able to tell her that I had seen this member before and he was very nice, but with a disclaimer that it had been almost 2 years and I no longer had his number.
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02-21-2018, 10:37 AM
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Sexy Cat Lady
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Originally Posted by challenger340
Every lady has the right to set her own guidelines. I am long time member with a few reviews, but I struggle to maintain recent/current references. Several reasons, I do not play a lot any more, and I see more newbies and they get out of the hobby, and there are other reasons.
I am grateful to several unnamed ladies that helped me in the past, some I did not not even review, and had not seen in quite a while, but they were so helpful in providing a reference. And I do APPRECIATE THAT!
Question? How long does a review, last? Does it go away?
If a guy took the time to review you, would you just acknowledge it and provide a reference?
Thanks again to any lady that has given me a reference, I do appreciate it.
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That's totally understandable, Challenger. To answer your questions, I believe the reviews stick around as long as the provider's account has not been disabled, but I'm not completely sure so don't take my word for it. If someone that I remember wrote me a review and it was over a year since I had seen them, I wouldn't have a problem with providing a reference. I would however let the lady seeking the reference know that it had been awhile and let her decide if she's comfortable accepting a reference from that long ago.
From my stand point, the only reason I have concerns about giving a reference after a year is because things happen and people change. What if he lost his marbles since the last time I saw him and he did something inappropriate to the provider? Then that good reference would come back on me.
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02-21-2018, 11:23 AM
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Join Date: Nov 9, 2013
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Originally Posted by Ginger Doll
Excellent question, Vannah. I just had an incident today where a gentleman that I had only seen once, 4 or 5 years ago, asked to provide me as a reference...
I would say that a lot depends on whether you still have his information and whether you still remember him. But even so... to me, references are part of the service that we provide. If a client hasn’t paid for our services in years, then maybe there should be some type of compensation. I have thought about charging a reference fee for very old references. I’d be interested to know everyone’s opinion about this idea.
My normal reference policy is six months. I have extended it up to a year but that’s only if the person had seen me regularly prior.
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Here's where it will get interesting, hobbiest tries to schedule with Provider A, gives Provider B as a reference. A contacts B for screening, B says it's been too long, so I need a fee to confirm. Does A pay B? Does A tell hobbiest to pay B for a reference? Since that in effect increases A's donation rate, is A now priced out and hobbiest goes to Provider C? And who is A pissed off at now, B or hobbiest?
I hobby enough that I always have a few within 6 months that will give reference, but sit back and watch that drama unfold if references start coming with fees.
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02-21-2018, 11:30 AM
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🦊Nicole Foxx🦊
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Well I wouldn’t tell the girl ! I would tell him only lol
But it’s really for what ginger was saying if you seen him once 4 years ago and he still is using you as a reference !!
That is the situation we’re talking about not just get a fee for any reference no lol !!
Meaning if the guy only Has seen you once but use you as a reference constantly ! (And still won’t book with you) Than That is only fair for a fee!
But not for someone you see often or who tries to rearrange their schedule to see you ! We’re not talking about them guys gentlemen!!!
We are talking about the ones that see a girl once an use her as a reference every time but doesn’t plan to see her again!!
I love giving references cause I feel safer when I have one!
Recently I had to tell someone to stop using me as a reference cause he never wanted to book with me but every week he needed a reference! I told him to see me or send me something!
Situations like thAt & Ginger’s its only right on us!
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