How many guys become emotionally involved with providers?

[Owlman]

There have been quite a few comments posted about relationships involving providers.

I am curious as to how many guys become emotionally involved with providers and also how many providers become emotionally involved with hobbyists.

Of those who do, are they more mature or younger? Do many get married?

It seems to me that sophisticated, mature escorts meet lots of businessmen. As they get closer to retirement, a meaningful relationship becomes very worthwhile.

[Nick11796]

I married a lady who was a fulltime provider when I met her. I met her socially, and she told me about being a provider when it looked like we were starting to get serious. I am an over 50 businessman with lots of business clients and connections. She is 15 years younger than I am.

Our lifestyles were very different, which required each of us to make a lot of adjustments and compromises.

A major issue that jeopardized our relationship occurred when my former wife, a lawyer, received some data and pictures of my current wife as a provider. My former wife distributed this information to many of my business clients and associates, to my family, including grown children, and to my current wife's family who did not know about it. This caused major emotonal trauma and some business losses.

We are still trying to overcome things. The emotional drama caused my wife to have a lot of anxiety and depression.

Despite the problems, I still look at my current wife as worth it.

[boardman]

Fuck 'em and leave 'em works best for all parties involved.

[AdventureAdams]

Originally Posted by Nick11796

I married a lady who was a fulltime provider when I met her. I met her socially, and she told me about being a provider when it looked like we were starting to get serious. I am an over 50 businessman with lots of business clients and connections. She is 15 years younger than I am.

Our lifestyles were very different, which required each of us to make a lot of adjustments and compromises.

A major issue that jeopardized our relationship occurred when my former wife, a lawyer, received some data and pictures of my current wife as a provider. My former wife distributed this information to many of my business clients and associates, to my family, including grown children, and to my current wife's family who did not know about it. This caused major emotonal trauma and some business losses.

We are still trying to overcome things. The emotional drama caused my wife to have a lot of anxiety and depression.

Despite the problems, I still look at my current wife as worth it.

That is cold blooded, I can't believe someone would go to such lengths to try and hurt someone. I hope you guys are still together and haven't let this tear you apart, if you guys can get through this ordeal you guys can conquer anything.

I make it a point not to get too emotionally attached to clients or date them, I don't plan on getting into a serious relationship until I am done escorting ( I know falling in love isn't something you plan or look for but I am trying hard as heck to avoid it lol). No matter how liberal and progressive our country is there will be too much of a stigma and I would feel like I would be sharing the burden of my secret life on that person.

[Nick11796]

Originally Posted by SkylarCruzWantsYou

That is cold blooded, I can't believe someone would go to such lengths to try and hurt someone. I hope you guys are still together and haven't let this tear you apart, if you guys can get through this ordeal you guys can conquer anything.

I make it a point not to get too emotionally attached to clients or date them, I don't plan on getting into a serious relationship until I am done escorting ( I know falling in love isn't something you plan or look for but I am trying hard as heck to avoid it lol). No matter how liberal and progressive our country is there will be too much of a stigma and I would feel like I would be sharing the burden of my secret life on that person.

Like you said, love is not planned, and sometimes it happens in unexpected situations. My wife did tell me about being a provider. She serviced mostly businessmen because her prices were high. We thought that there might have been a chance of running into one of her former clients at some business function, but were not real concerned.

The widespread distribution by my former wife really hurt. My grownup daughters are reluctant to bring their kids to our house. My wife's family is very religious and conservative. They are now very uncomfortable with my wife. I have always been looked at as a conservative and cautious businessman. Suddenly some business clients are questioning among themselves how I could leave a successful and respected lawyer for an escort.

We are trying to get through the mess.

[dearhunter]

I get very emotional when they don't get the fuck out quickly enough......ijs

[jimmycz]

DH you crack me up!!!!

[snowballpeter]

Lets be honest once you pay a woman for sex the likelihood of her ever respecting us on any different level is highly unlikely. I get emotionally detached when she doesn't kiss,offer msog and doesn't swallow cum. Thats the extent of the emotions

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Owlman

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It seems to me that sophisticated, mature escorts meet lots of businessmen. As they get closer to retirement, a meaningful relationship becomes very worthwhile.

Insightful. I agree. I would be interested in more input from the ladies but it seems that as they approach the age/time for retirement, it might be natural to "fall in love" with an ATF client.

[Guest100318]

From reading these boards, a lot. Still much better than ASPD where they were killing each other for a pair of tits.

[NIKKILOVE]

Originally Posted by snowballpeter

Lets be honest once you pay a woman for sex the likelihood of her ever respecting us on any different level is highly unlikely.

I don't feel that way. My respect, or lack of, does not come from knowing you are hobbying...... why would that make some one think less of you? If you have a SO, married, dating, etc...your still paying her for sex in one way or another.

I am a very personal person, I know if most of my clients have SO or not. When you know things like that, you always know that you should not put your self in a situation to have feelings. We may be providers, but I still believe who you are as a person, is who you are not matter what your doing, so I would never want to come on to a guy who has a SO. You coming to me in the hobby, is different. (If that makes any sense) We are human, not robots, and im sure there are quite a few men who ladies have really liked. It's just kind of an unspoken "rule"==you don't go there. Every one is different though. To each their own.

[Guest071514-1]

Attraction can happen at any time. Some look at us as cum sucking sluts, and some look at us as just having a job that involves sucking cum and respect what we do to get by. I would not take things to another level, but I am very close to many clients, and concider them "friends". If I need a Dr.'s opinion, I can just call and ask, if I have a legal question I can just call and ask one of my lawyer clients. I have some I'm really close to though, so I just try not to think about it. In the end it feels good to be cared about "truelly". Even though I am great at those other things, like Nikki said we are not robots! I have better friends in this business than in real life, cause we tend to be more "real" with no secrets!

[junglemonkey]

What's funny is once you are in this god forsaken relationship, it will still be YMMV and CBJ.

[NIKKILOVE]

Originally Posted by junglemonkey

What's funny is once you are in this god forsaken relationship, it will still be YMMV and CBJ.

Lol, UNLESS, you hook up with me or AMY! IJS

[Raquel Ryder]

Iv been talking to a guy i met two years ago when i first started. he just divorce and new to the hobby world. and hes been seeing me alot lately about three times a week. and now wants to go out of town for the weekend. i like him but cant get emotionally involed. i like having a good time and luv roll play. i think hes never met anyone like me and mainly just in lust. i just was his maid Maria, tonight. lol he loved it. Bottom line not ready to stop playing this game so im not getting emotionally involved.