One Way Communication & Expectations

[MisterWonderFun]

Why is it that on all of these sites, there is only one way communication from the man to the woman. Has any site tried opening it up where the escorts can reach out to you?

How did it work out?

Do you prefer escorts not being able to directly reach out to you on sites like this? If yes, why?

Would you prefer escorts being able to reach out to you? If yes, why?


Also I'm curious about your definition of GFE. For me GFE includes the intimacy of a real date. And, some basic activities like DAY, BBBJ, Kissing. But I am seeing a lot of providers who say they are GFE, but only offer CBJ, no DAY etc.


Are you seeing this too, and what is your expectation of a GFE encounter?


Looking forward to a lot of good replies! This should be interesting!

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[Lewisnclark]

I agree with the things you consider to be GFE experiences. As to providers reaching out to hobbyists, I would rather not get unsolicited messages.

[Kilgore.Trout]

Originally Posted by MisterWonderFun

Why is it that on all of these sites, there is only one way communication from the man to the woman. Has any site tried opening it up where the escorts can reach out to you?

How did it work out?

Do you prefer escorts not being able to directly reach out to you on sites like this? If yes, why?

Would you prefer escorts being able to reach out to you? If yes, why?


Also I'm curious about your definition of GFE. For me GFE includes the intimacy of a real date. And, some basic activities like DAY, BBBJ, Kissing. But I am seeing a lot of providers who say they are GFE, but only offer CBJ, no DAY etc.


Are you seeing this too, and what is your expectation of a GFE encounter?


Looking forward to a lot of good replies! This should be interesting!

A

I think them reaching out would put them in danger of a sting operation just like we are in danger when we reach out to someone we don’t know.

That being said, I have several whom I have seen who reach out on a regular basis, especially those that travel. Also locals who are trying to fill in the calendar or need to generate some income. Many will offer deep discounts when they know you are safe, respectful, and not an asshole.

GFE seems to be widely undefined term even amongst the most seasoned of hobbyists and providers. Most commonly, I have found it to the kissing, cuddling, non-sexual components. Some even include texting in between in that definitions. I haven’t known the use of covers to be part of that definition. My regular is wonderful at the parts of GFE I defined but does everything covered.

For me the kissing and cuddling part is critical. One of the most beautiful providers I have ever seen, Khloe Love, has defines it as a no kissing or touching above the neck. I found it to be kind of sterile. No GFE is a no go for me.

[MuffLuver]

From one monger's perspective and my experience, GFE typically includes DFK, BBBJ (CIM usually but not always), DATY and some post play cuddling. I think that definition should be obvious, but it definitely is not consistently applied. If a provider doesn't want to partake in those activities, then don't claim to be GFE. I greatly appreciate those providers who state they are not GFE, it really helps those of us who are looking for more than they provide. Again, just my two cents.

[BigDeal]

One thing you never know in this hobby is the rare but very possible chance they have been compromised by a pimp, LE or someone else.
You have to be careful messaging with even the most reputable provider

[MuffLuver]

Sage advice BD, sage advice

[MisterWonderFun]

Thanks for the input guys. Looking forward to many more responses.

Another issue that ties in directly, is when there is no indication of what is on or off the menu. When I'm dropping $1,000 for two hours with a new provider, I don't think it is too much to ask to understand what I am purchasing. With that said, I know that it is dangerous for the provider to talk about services.

So I was thinking, very dangerous activity, that if we put our likes, dislikes, deal breakers etc in our profiles, then we could ask a potential date to check our profile to see if we are a good match instead of trying to dance around discussing services.



Your thoughts?

[CatMan4u]

When i select and decide on who to see i want to know what i can expect if said provider doesn't do what i want that's fine it's her choice but its my money and my wants no hard feelings on myside but i simply move on. I don't see alot of providers but normally repeat if we had a good session

[MisterWonderFun]

Anyone have any thoughts on....

Another issue that ties in directly, is when there is no indication of what is on or off the menu. When I'm dropping $1,000 for two hours with a new provider, I don't think it is too much to ask to understand what I am purchasing. With that said, I know that it is dangerous for the provider to talk about services.

So I was thinking, very dangerous activity, that if we put our likes, dislikes, deal breakers etc in our profiles, then we could ask a potential date to check our profile to see if we are a good match instead of trying to dance around discussing services.