2 Questions for Providers

[saltydog1a69]

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1.If a "hobbyist" post a negative review of a provider, do you all take a negative view of the hobbyist?

2.Do You have any insight on why a provider would do the following; Note I have seen this provider on numerous occasions with occasional NCNS.
Saw provider early July her BD was coming up, gave her a radio CD player and other small gift told her had other gift would give to her the next week.
When I showed up the next week she was having personal problems that were affecting her; her response ranged from crying, to for want of better term "spacing out." We tried 2 to 3 times on some activities and she would stop almost like she was falling asleep. I told her she needed to sleep and we would make it up another time. I left her the donation with the understanding we would make it up. I hold also given her a $100 gift card for her BD. 2 days later I get a text she is in trouble Ex BF had found her beat her up and stolen the money and gift card, could I help her? She was in a motel in Maumelle I made arrangements to get her $300 saying we would work it out with the previous donation. (Yes I Know How STUPID and Gullible I am).
A week later we make arrangement to meet. I show up and NCNS 3 hours later I get text how sorry she is could I come now, I say no and sob story start, stupid gullible me says I'll be there in an hour. I get there, she's out of money for the room so I help her again. We make arrangement to meet the next day. She has checked out. Numerous attempts to reach her over the next 10 days have been futile.
Now regarding the repayment; we had agreed on (4) 2 hour sessions, so she would always have a donation for expenses, I would make an hr donation and the 2nd hr would be attributed to the advances; which she said was fair,I also gave her numerous opportunities to alter this if she didn't feel comfortable with it.
The actual Question (Yes I know overall it was over $800 and that is very tempting), but over the time I've seen her, monthly donations have been $400 at the least up to $800, so in the long run she's going to come out way behind; that's not good business sense ( $800 short term gain but long term lose $3 to $4000) Why would she do that?

Guys I'm not going to name her till I do a review so don't ask. You should already know who it is by previous reviews and where I have defended her in the past. Her skills are great and she is the almost perfect physical type for this old man's bucket list fantasies. I don't need comments about how STUPD I AM I already acknowledge that.
I am asking for answers to the 2 questions from the providers.

[Guest102419]

Well just so you know. Me personally. I would write it off as a gift and move on. Had I done that. But we will let the ladies give you their opinions. As you asked for.

On another note. If you do a review of her and it is a NCNS type of review. It will be moved to COED. as per ECCIE guidelines. To allow the provider to give her side.

St. Searcher

[Danielle Reid]

Just because one provider does something like that doesn't mean we know why she did it. I could be wrong, but I'm no mind reader and no fortune teller. If that were the case I'd be a billionaire right now.

Anyway there's nothing you can do at this point but learn from your mistakes. I don't ask guys for money. If they give it to me, then so be it. But I'm not going to beg anyone for anything. I'm not going to ditch someone either unless they NCNS on me (yes, guys do it too...shocker!)

I haven't given anyone a bad review, I have no idea how to. Personally if I deserve a bad review then I at least expect the guy to be man enough to tell me before he writes it. You want me to suck your dick? Grow one! Man the fuck up!

Anyway...that's my $0.02

[Ginger Doll]

1. If a "hobbyist" posts a negative review of a provider, do you all take a negative view of the hobbyist?

There isn't a black and white answer here... If the hobbyist is one that seems to steadily dole out no's, or seems to be excessively picky, then yes. Providers would avoid him because they wouldn't want a no themselves. But if it seems to be a situation with a provider that has a history of problems similar to what you're reporting, everyone would probably just consider it par for the course.

2. Do you have any insight on why a provider would do the following?

Because she can. She's already done it to a bunch of hobbyists and yet y'all continue to go back. She probably feels that there are no ramifications for being dishonest. And as long as you continue to allow her to take advantage of you, she will.

I can think of countless ladies here who would truly appreciate your company... And would never do anything like that. Count it as a loss, walk away, and give a different provider a chance to treat you right.

[notequiteatroll]

it is so crazy how easy it is to fall into that.
don't i know.
man.

[saltydog1a69]

I know she is going through a rough time right now, but I at least expected a response from her. I actually care for her as a person not just my ATF provider.

[saltydog1a69]

Thank U for the responses so far. I guess unless she tells me I will never Know why.

[Selena25]

I think hobbiest should write honest reviews I mean why would you give her a good one and you had an awful time and then other clients book based on your review and waste money on a bad time I Believe alot of clients are scared to give well known providers a well deserved no because there scared the provider will start drama or tell the other girls not to see that client what the clients have to understand we are hookers we are not your wife/so our options don't mean squat we are here to provide a good service that is paid greatly for if we fail to provide what you paid for then yes be honest tell it like it is don't be scared to say what really happened because at the end of the day we go on with our real lives and leave the fantasy one behind

[Guest100816]

I know who youre referring to. she don't give a flyin shit about you or youre feelings,or anyone elses.,she cheated you plain and simple..you can be replaced so can she...shes become a bit high headed due to her popularity..Move On..theirs lots of ladies,who don't play that away...sorry for loss..

[Jack Hammer]

Im not a provider, but its a familiar scenario. In short, she does it bc she has realized she CAN do it with you. That you will just give her money. For nothing more than a promise, which she never intended to keep in the first place.

As for you fairest question - why risk $3000 - $4000 long term dollars for $800 short term dollars? Doesnt sound like good business sense does it. The answer is bc a lot of people, especially in this business, can't see beyond the short term. And it sounds like you found one of em. Just give her the 800 today... she'll worry about getting that extra 2-3k from ya tomorrow.

[Guest030317]

I recommend you give her all the money you can, she's hurting and I can tell by the way you've come here looking for help that you care for her. Give her as much as she needs

[saltydog1a69]

Mary Beth, Ginger Doll, Selena You all are always CLASS ACTS!!!!!!

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

"Give her as much as she needs."

I know you were joking. She will never stop needing. To the OP, it's way past time you moved on. She is playing you and, as some have pointed out, she is doing it because you have proven to her that she can. There are many ladies here that want to give you your money's worth because their reputations matter to them. This is not rocket science - see ladies that think that way, and only ladies that think that way. As for the provider who was the subject of your post, karma is a bitch.

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by saltydog1a69

Mary Beth, Ginger Doll, Selena You all are always CLASS ACTS!!!!!!

😍❤️😍

[ndark]

Sometimes it is called "turning tricks".