Well, Lookin4, I'm here too state that the little risk in which I engage in the hobby is almost too much risk. You see, if caught, I would almost certainly lose my wife, my job, my family.
That is a high price to pay, which is why I try to reduce the risk as much as possible before seeing any provider.
In my case, the element of risk is NOT an attraction, but rather a deterrent to regular hobbying w/o tons of research and some certainty. And also controlling the environment as much as possible. I do only outcalls which limits the field, but I can control quite a bit this way.