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Hobbyfun · 06-30-2011, 07:00 AM

Sometimes I have a hard time staying hard or getting off all together, and for the most part ladys have been very understanding and we work together and I get off but sometimes we spend the entire hour trying but nothing happens.

I DO NOT blame the lady's because they try hard but nothing and I'm fine with that, it's my fault not theirs.

I found out I have diabetes and am now on medication and hopefully that will help, only time will tell.

What I have a problem with is I have seen a few ladies and it took a while for me to get fully hard and sometimes I get off and sometimes it goes limp before we finish.

I don't abuse the hour time I payed for if it don't happen I leave after the hour and I pay for the hour no matter what happens

I have had women get upset because for what ever reason it did not get hard for penetration or if it does get hard I just can't get off.

If a man pays for the hour and it just don't happen why do some Lady's get upset or angry because we were playing the entire hour.

I have found to stay away from most young Lady's because it seems they want you to get off and leave or get off rest a little then get off again and then leave what happen to staying most of the full hour.

And why get upset if it won't get hard I am paying you for the full hour, whats up with that.

Ladies some man have the same problem and maybe they just want to kiss and stoke you or just like the championship why get upset I just don't understand that.

For the most part the ladies have been great about the problem, I have just run into a few that got a bad attitude that's what I don't understand.

Lana Warren · 06-30-2011, 07:33 AM

Some women may take it pesonally, thinking that they may not have turned you on! But, as we all know, that isn't the truth at all!

Age, medication, and some health problems can cause a man OR a woman not to be able to finish, but that doesn't mean it's still not enjoyable!

I look at it this way, you have come to see me to enjoy my company! It is my goal to make you feel as good as you possibly can! If you finish, fantastic! If you don't, that's okay, too! I still had a good time and I hope you did, also!

Damn youth! LOL!

vnurse · 06-30-2011, 07:38 AM

Couldn't have said it any better Lana!

Getting mad or upset? Wow...

OldGrump · 06-30-2011, 09:04 AM

Ask your doctor to recommend an ED medication. Many have samples you can try before you buy. If you are just beginning to have problems, the pills may be just the thing. Even when the pills quit working, there are other options, but that is another thread. Don't give up.

If you had a lady get impatient, that would be enough to flatten the ego & erection without additional health problems.

The mental aspect is a big part of it. If you feel appreciated and encouraged, it may enhance the situation without medication. From their posts and reviews, the two ladies who just responded would be very good at that.

Lil Oral Annie · 06-30-2011, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Hobbyfun

I found out I have diabetes and am now on medication and hopefully that will help, only time will tell.

Hobbyfun, I know someone who had the same issue - he had diabetes and after years of that problem, finally started getting acupuncture. It supposedly helped a lot in that department. Might be something worth trying?

Hobbyfun · 06-30-2011, 10:10 AM

I know Vicky is a sweet heart I have seen her before True lady, I would love to go see Lana, she sounds like a nice lady.

And most are aware of problems older men have and I have only encountered this problem a couple of times.

I'm not jumping on younger women but the couple of times the women got upset was with ladies under 30, it seems like the over 35 to 40 ladies understand and are more caring and willing to turn it into a great session anyway.

The ED meds is the next step.

Just venting a little here.

Lana Warren · 06-30-2011, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Hobbyfun

I know Vicky is a sweet heart I have seen her before True lady, I would love to go see Lana, she sounds like a nice lady.

And most are aware of problems older men have and I have only encountered this problem a couple of times.

I'm not jumping on younger women but the couple of times the women got upset was with ladies under 30, it seems like the over 35 to 40 ladies understand and are more caring and willing to turn it into a great session anyway.

The ED meds is the next step.

Just venting a little here.

Sweetie,
You just vent all you want! That's what we're here for!

lark · 06-30-2011, 10:54 AM

Hobbyfun,
You're preaching to the choir with me, bro. I played hard in my younger days and about twelve years ago things changed a bit and I lost a lot of self confidence. I briefly jumped in the hobby a few years ago back in the AS*D days and my ego was shot down more after visiting a coupe of the younger gals. I find the more mature ladies 35 and up a more patient with the "romancing" it takes to me to give to get to center stage. With age comes wisdom, I guess there's a pill for everything else!!

Bobster36 · 06-30-2011, 11:57 AM

That's why I don't see ladies < 30 anymore.

massagemanusa · 06-30-2011, 12:41 PM

You also might consider getting your hormones checked. I was having issues and after a few doctors did virtually nothing I went to an osteopathic doctor who discovered I was very low of testosterone, even though I am only 37. So I get weekly shots of that and all is well. Plus you will feel much better in your overall health too!

vnurse · 06-30-2011, 01:17 PM

Hobbyfun...you, sir, are a doll! Thank you very much for the kind words and let me tell you...you will NEVER go wrong seeing Ms. Lana. She is a wonderful lady all the way around!

ElisabethWhispers · 06-30-2011, 01:24 PM

I'll parrot what others have mentioned. It happens a lot with my clientele at times and well, I will admit that sometimes I feel that I should have tried harder or I'm slightly bothered by it ... but that's just normal. Many women that I know in this sphere sincerely wish to make a man very happy during their time together!

With that being said, it might be helpful to just mention it casually during an appointment. You don't have to made a huge announcement or anything like that, but casually mention that sometimes the equipment doesn't work, or tell them you're on some medication or you sometimes have a slight ED problem. Whatever works for you.

That will REALLY take the pressure off of you AND the woman that you're with. A few times, a man has told me this and it helped me to breath easier and not be concerned that it was me that was causing him issues. (We all have our little insecurities!)

Good luck!
Elisabeth

Lana Warren · 06-30-2011, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by vnurse

Hobbyfun...you, sir, are a doll! Thank you very much for the kind words and let me tell you...you will NEVER go wrong seeing Ms. Lana. She is a wonderful lady all the way around!

Here's your twenty, V!

Prolongus · 06-30-2011, 02:09 PM

Good advice here, Hobbyfun...bet there isn't a single guy here that hasn't experienced this...and more than once. All ages, too. As for the girl getting mad...hasn't happened to me (yet!)
I've learned two things will get ya limp:
1. Vigorous pumping and stroking of Junior by the girls at the beginning, especially without enough lube...just makes ya numb.
2. Super tight condoms will choke the life out of Junior also...experiment with different sizes.
The testosterone might be my next try.

Luvyduvy · 06-30-2011, 02:37 PM

Not sure about your history or the medications Hobbyfun - here is what happened to me. A psychologist friend of my SO's was visiting (10 years ago) and as we talked she diagnosed me as 'moderately depressed' - I was 47. She prescribed Tri-something and mentioned it had the least side effects of the anti-depressants.

Two days later, I'm going at it with the SO but can't cum and I go limp. Friend tells us that is one of the side effects - now I'm really depressed... LOL - and the Viagra suggestion. I said, fuck no, no more drugs in me. Watch out for combinations, they will do something.

I lived with the depression. Years later I come to find out I have low testosterone - Andropause (male version of menopause). As above said - feel great with the testo therapy and no signs of depression.

Another thing for the erection thing is L-Arginine. At my age, I still wake up with super hard throbbing wood every morning. And I used to have condom syndrome - put it on and I go soft - a mental thing for sure as I thought I would not have enough sensation to maintain a woody, thinking that made it go limp of course - NOW condoms are not a problem - I stay hard as a rock from position to position.

If that interests you - must be a high grade L-Arginine - 5 grams a day and it takes about 2 - 3 weeks to kick in and you will know it... the good news is you now can have good wood anytime you need it. No pills. Just maintain the 5g/day. When I'm going to be hobbying, 2-3 days prior I kick it up to 5 grams AM and another 5 grams at night - it helps you sleep too.