There's a research paper I read not long ago that gives some fascinating perspectives on why men choose to see escorts.
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/...97184X12452148 (also attached to this post)
Boiling it down, the paper categorized motivations for seeing escorts into these:
- Some have difficulty finding a partner for a conventional relationship
- Some are unsatisfied with their current partnered relationship
- Some patronize sex workers in order to bolster their masculinity
- Some seek to abuse other people and target sex workers because they are viewed as accessible and unlikely to report victimization to the police
- Some are looking to fulfill a fantasy with a person who will engage in desired activities (such as role playing or sadomasochism), someone with a desired physical appearance, ethnicity, or cultural background (often based on stereotypes of other nationalities), or someone of a different sexual orientation (e.g., heterosexual men experimenting with gay or transgender individuals; heterosexual women seeking lesbian experiences, etc.)
- Some buy sex because they find it risky, thrilling, or sporting (calling themselves hobbyists)
- Some wish to avoid the obligations or emotional complications involved in a conventional relationship
- Some seek a limited romantic or emotional connection in addition to or instead of a purely physical experience
I expect that some responses to this will be along the lines of "bruh, don't get into all that, just have your fun and leave". That's certainly a valid perspective and is essentially what #7 means, I think. But why would GFE exist if there wasn't something more to it than that for some of us?
I suspect that lots of guys would not fall neatly into these categories, but a combination of them. I think of myself as parts of 8, 6, 2, and for something like doubles, 5 occasionally. I also think it can be a different list for me with different providers.
It would be interesting to hear others' perspectives on this - clients and providers alike.
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