Comfortable in my skin

[psmith5011]

I may not be a size 4 or even 14, but I love myself and my body and I focus on the parts of me that are just absolutely astounding. I can understand that super BBW‘s only have a certain number of suitors, but I think you’d be surprised how big that number is. I’m considered a small BBW or voluptuous or curvy. Either way you put it, I’m overweight. But in my mind, that should not have anything to do with booking a date with me. I once spoke with a moderator on ECCIE and he told me that the men on ECCIE were talking about me and branding me because I was the best BBBJ in Kansas City. I knew I was good but I didn’t know I was that good! So does a client forgo an overweight woman just because she’s overweight but who happens to be the best in Kansas City at what she does? I think that’s pretty shallow. I don’t think you have to be a size 4 to be a good provider. And besides that, I’m 51 so I am the 30-year-olds bucket list and the 60-year-olds diva. I appeal to all ages whereas the 20-somethings definitely don’t get the 60-year-olds. And let me tell you, those 60-year-olds are very generous. I love what I do and I’m good at what I do. I don’t always love my body but I’m comfortable with it. And I think that’s the most important thing I can say here, be comfortable with who you are and don’t take the reviews on this site that seriously because after all, they are all from men who may or may not be intelligent enough to know a good provider.

[dgc92]

It's not that nobody cares about skill. Men just care about looks more. Which, yes, is very stupid. I'm with you. Lots of pretty girls are stuck-up bitches because they've had their asses kissed their entire lives. And lots of hot providers think being pretty is a substitute for being good. Why try hard when you'll have a line of men knocking down your door no matter what?

Still, while we can all agree it's stupid to judge a woman (or man, probably) on looks, it's instinct and you can't get rid of it by talking to it logically. If you're not pretty by a man's definition, he almost definitely won't have sex with you. Doesn't matter how nice, how funny, how out-of-this-world skilled you may or may not be.

[Phoenixx]

Originally Posted by psmith5011

I can understand that super BBW‘s only have a certain number of suitors, but I think you’d be surprised how big that number.

wtf is super BBW

[dgc92]

..... Dude.

If you know what a BBW is, you can guess what a super BBW is. Don't be a fucking troll.

[psmith5011]

If you think of a BBW as starting at size 16 Venice super BBW would probably start at 26. They are definitely big girls, but there is a calling for them .

[geezer1948]

I don't think it's strictly a matter of size. Most of us want to feel a connection of some sort with the providers we see, even if only for our time together. It's hard to say what will make that connection happen, but physically attractive attributes definitely help. It all ties in with the illusive IOI or IOP.

I'm an older guy well past my prime. Size and appearance are less important to me, but I still need to feel that connection, like we could hang out for a while if we weren't on a date. Beyond that, IOI, plus skills and patience. A tough package to find for a guy that rarely gets out.

That's just me, but I'm sure I'm not alone