Help me understand

[Jessica4stacks]

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

[Goodbuddha]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

Maybe not so hard to understand. Some people are assholes and can't help themselves. Their minds are filled with negativity so it comes out their mouths/keyboards. The anonymous aspect of the keyboard makes some people say things they wouldn't say face to face. One of my favorite sayings is "Always speak the truth....just don't always be speaking it."

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by Goodbuddha

Some people are assholes and can't help themselves. Their minds are filled with negativity so it comes out their mouths/keyboards. The anonymous aspect of the keyboard makes some people say things they wouldn't say face to face.

Current events may have eased up on that atmosphere for awhile at least.

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

Why do women on this site comment of men negatively? What happened to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the hobbyist.

[Guest041417]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

I recently posted something about this same issue..its like i thought this was an adult site!!;/
Some guys are just that..DICKS!

[swarley69]

People hide behind a keyboard , most people wouldn't be so bold to act like that in the real world. And people are assholes .

[lurkerdude2]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

You already know this, but the anonymity of typing through the forums makes it easy to say stuff you wouldn't face to face.

That, and the fact that a review board/forum would get pretty boring, dull, and useless if everyone avoided negative comments. Sure there is plenty said that is a bit beyond.... but that keeps us lurkers entertained here.

[Dorian Gray]

1. Sie uns sagen, wie lange Sie ein Neger waren
[1st tell us how long you've been a Negro]

[Guest020719]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively

It is not just the men, but yes mostly. Many reasons, basic psychology. my top two would be; 1. transference 2. loneliness.


1. transference : They hate themselves and project this inner distain to the outer world in an effort to feel better about themselves.

2. loneliness: a person can become so lonely that any attention is welcome. They may have tried other avenues that perhaps failed so they moved into instigation and hatred. At least with these people will respond to them, albeit negatively, and they are receiving "attention"

both of these, sad but true.


Advice, pass over the hate, pity instead, and do not respond. Never take anything written on a public open forum like this place to heart. No one here truly knows you and most likely ever will. You are responsible for the lady in the mirror. She is your judge. Get to know her and what she thinks.



and yes oilman, before you say it.

[Guest123018-4]

Most are dumbasses that cannot help themselves often stating the obvious in a less than friendly manner.
With these types they have issues with everything in life and fail to understand that often their opinions do not matter to anyone but themselves. Actually the have a need to express themselves because they do believe it matters as if they have some sort of self importance on a SHMB.

Now on the other hand, there are those of the other sex that invite this sort of "attention" by spamming the board with inane posts just so they can believe they are relevant.

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by Goodbuddha

The anonymous aspect of the keyboard makes some people say things they wouldn't say face to face.

Originally Posted by swarley69

People hide behind a keyboard , most people wouldn't be so bold to act like that in the real world.

Originally Posted by lurkerdude2

You already know this, but the anonymity of typing through the forums makes it easy to say stuff you wouldn't face to face.

Whole bunch of people who have never spent much time around me in real life...

[Biggie_Smalls]

Keyboard warriors in the finest form is all I am going to say. I even see it in the guys area as well. I mean come the F*CK on, I would assume we could all act like grown ass men and women and not be butt hurt by some words over the net. (unless it's meant to be)

Then again, the softness of people has increased dramatically over the years.

[rayg07]

Originally Posted by Jessica4stacks

Why do men on this site comment of a lady negatively because of her don'ts, or responding to ISO, or on reviews saying negatives? What happen to if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything. Especially if you never met the provider.

Alot of guys on this site have forgotten it's purpose, information exchange. I don't understand all the negativity that comes from both girls and guys here. Why ruin your reputation on a site where you are trying to meet people. Doesn't make sense.

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Since when does favorable = information? If you have a rooted sense of self, either can provide information to you. It just depends on what information it is that you glean.

You guys act like the real world is all marigolds and rainbows. Nothing could be farther from the truth, in fact it is icy cold. It's usually a person that smiles in your face the most that gives you the most heartache. I thought we were all adults here?
IJS

[Guest123018-4]

I actually appreciate all of the comments that are made for many reasons.
If you do not understand the value of negative comments you are not looking at them with an open mind.
Negative comments are similar to BSC rants in their value to the provider as well as the john.
Think about it. You are receiving information but you may not understand the information you are receiving.
Censorship only hides the truth.