If you fear the police then this is the wrong hobby. Being cautious is one thing, but guys literally fearing a cop is waiting on them is annoying. Sorry (not really), that's just how I feel.
Now, I don't care where I go meet a guy as long as it isn't a car or behind an alley. I have guys asking for the lollipop special and requesting I meet them at a truck stop in their big rig. I'm not a Love's or Pilot hooker. Big rigs scare me and truckers scare me even more.
If it makes you feel better, I'll rent the hotel room right next door to the police station that's across the street from the National Guards, that's down the road from a local high school