Because this topic comes up literally all the time, I'll explain why meeting in public is often off limits for a first-time meet, from my standpoint as a provider.
Meeting in public for a first date is very tricky to pull off from a discretionary perspective, and here's why:
1. You never know someone's manners.
The last thing you want, as a discreet provider, is a client who starts asking inappropriate questions or saying inappropriate things in public.
For instance: "How long have you been an escort?" or "Do you enjoy being an escort"? or "You look hotter in person!"
or "Can I interview you for my book on escorts?" (That one happened, too!)
2. There may not be a discreet way to handle donations in public.
As we all know, escorts/companions require a donation upfront before a date has begun.
Well, slipping an envelope is not necessarily "discreet" because let's face it, there can always be someone in the vicinity who's privy to the "envelope."
And restaurant staff probably know what it means as well
Granted, a CashApp prepayment could be a workaround for this, but we all know the trust issues surrounding prepayments.
3. Oftentimes we don't know what each other looks like.
Most of the time, an escort does not know what the client looks like, and many escorts hide their face in photos for discretionary measures.
Well, it's already a bit nerve-wracking to meet a stranger for the first time. (No surprise!
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And it further compounds the natural nervousness we have on a first date if we meet in public, since:
We don't exactly know WHEN each other is showing up.
And we are scanning the room, wondering, "Is that you?"
4. There is always that person who just wants to see who the escort really is, no intention on having a date.
If a provider agrees to meet in public, they run the risk of the client looking to see who the mystery lady is and then leaving before the provider sees who they are.
This scenario simply makes it EASIER for a client to do this; it could happen in any situation.
I think we can all agree not even booking a room and simply saying, "Meet me for a coffee" is less of a commitment on the client's behalf; therefore, the cards are against the escort.
(If you don't think this actually happens, a client just wanting to see who the escort is, it does! ...not to me, because I don't do this
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5. Often, clients are not okay paying for an escort's time on a public outing.
This scenario looks like this:
Client: "Can I take you out for coffee?"
Escort: "Oh, absolutely!"
Client: "Great! How's Starbucks?"
Escort: "Love Starbucks!"
Client: "What time shall we meet?"
Escort: "Before we talk about Starbucks, I just want to be sure
you're familiar with my donation..."
Client: "Oh, geez, that's one expensive cup of coffee!
I'll get back with you later."
(End of plans...
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And thank you, Yourprivatedr, this thread was inspired by your thread "Off limits or not." 
5 Reasons Meeting in Public is Often Off Limits
