The Best? The Most? The Ultimate?

[Tiffany Cums]

I see these phrases often as I cruise through the provider ads, and the Welcome & Introduction forums...Are they really:

The Best?
The Most?
The Ultimate?
Like no other?
Incomparable?
Unparalleled?

Gentlemen:
What do you think when you see words and phrases like this in an ad? Good Advertising? Signs of Drama? They must be the best? Higher prices?

Ladies:
Do you use words and phrases like this? Do you know if it helps? If you don't use them, how do you feel of others who do?

I myself would love to type up an ad telling everyone of how wonderful I am, but perhaps it is due to not having high confidence about myself. I only use words and phrases that has been posted by the hobbiests in either a review, or in an open forum. For example, in my signature line it claims that I am 'GFE to the MAX!!' That was posted in one of my reviews.

I honestly do not know if the ladies that post in this manner is doing so thinking that they really are the best, or if the gentlemen have called them the best and they are playing off of it, or they are just trying to convince everyone else that they are the best?

Is it false advertising? Does it matter in which manner she is posting it? Or when they use terminology stating that they really are better then all the other girls, is it false advertising then? Or just smart wording for advertising?

I don't know, you tell me....it does seem to be a rather harmless practice, I just wanted to get a feel on how others feel on this.

This was not meant to offend anyone, and I would very much appreciate it if this stays as an open minded discussion. Thank you!

[Paige Hunter]

ok lol so im knew to this provider thing and i was posting the best not because i thought i was the best just really thought it was a good way to grab attention lol so didnt work lol i stopped posting it

[Carrie Hillcrest]

Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

I see these phrases often as I cruise through the provider ads, and the Welcome & Introduction forums...Are they really:

The Best?
The Most?
The Ultimate?
Like no other?
Incomparable?
Unparalleled?

I kind of want to use every single one of these terms in my next ad title...

They make me roll my eyes a little, especially when coming from a newbie provider. (Dear, you just started. No one's the best when they first start.) Even when from someone established, they're pretty unoriginal. One might even say that using standard superlatives actually forces one to be "paralleled" with the rest of the crowd.

However, phrases like these can work, especially when the audience has reduced blood flow to the brain. Repeatedly refer to something as "THE ULTIMATE" or "THE MOST BEST INCOMPARABLE LIKE NO OTHER" or whatever enough times and the reader's brain starts to subconsciously agree.*



*Take this statement with a grain of salt; I have only a rudimentary education in psychology/brainwashing.

[Maggie McNeill]

I prefer the "soft sell" myself; if my pictures, bio and posts can't "sell" me no amount of bragging and hype will.

[pjpenner]

I think any gent who has been in the hobby for any time at all recognizes a provider's profile for what it is: an advertisement compiled by the provider. And like any other advertisement, we understand many (or most) claims have been "augmented" for the purpose of having the client spend his money with the advertiser instead of a competitor. That's why most experienced gents rarely rely on the content in a provider's ad for making a decision to secure her professional services.

I'll use myself as an example. I prefer the very intimate GFE from professional, classy, educated, well-mannered providers. Consequently, I measure the "product" of the sales pitch by:

• Evaluating the ad's language, structure, grammar and readability
• Evaluating the professionalism of the photos
• Evaluating the professional attire and grooming of the provider in the photos
• Evaluating the provider's reviews posted by hobbyists I know and trust
• Evaluating the provider's screening and business practices
• Determine if the provider is concerned with the safety of herself and the client as evidenced by her utilization of a professional verification service like Preferred 411 or Room Service 2000

Please keep in mind that WALDT -- We All Like Different Things. Many gents are totally turned off by the things I think are important. It's that diversity in the hobby that makes it so appealing to a broad segment of potential customers in the marketplace.

Personally, I think it is a "Best Practice" for a provider to market herself:

• Truthfully based on her experience, skills and personality
• To the market she'll attract based on her experience, skills and personality

That doesn't mean a provider can't improve her current stature or base of clients. However, the improvement is earned as evidenced by her reputation in the hobby through reviews and the recommendations of experienced and trusted hobbyists and her provider peers.

[John Bull]

No question that those phrases are over used and likely incorrect.

The ones that drive me up a wall though, are the ones extolling the providers education and intelligence... with God knows how many misspellings and how much bad grammer.

[Gryphon]

I typically ignore nonspecific claims of excellence; they're so widespread as to be meaningless. I agree with Tiffany (it's really hard to disagree with someone that agreeable! ) that statements based on client feedback are much more worthwhile. The way an ad is written tells me some things about the provider, but I'm going to look at other sources of information. The few times I've taken the plunge based solely on an ad have not gone well.

[elghund]

Originally Posted by Carrie Hillcrest

However, phrases like these can work, especially when the audience has reduced blood flow to the brain.

Speaking as a man (and for my fellow hobbyists, I'm sure).....


I have no idea what you could possibly be referring to here.



elg......

[Laurentius]

Oh my! Phrases like this are silly and useless -- at least for me.

Actually, they are worse than useless as they sort of lead me to believe the lady might be the opposite. General approaches to marketing have long ago immunized people to this sort of phraseology.

Not long ago, cars were routinely advertised as having "The best X in it's class." The key was that everyone quickly figured out that each car was in a class all its own, so it was also the worst in its class. LOL

Nowadays, good advertising bypasses the critical factor and directly appeals to core emotional drives.

Critical factor bypass can be achieved in a variety of ways to convey what are -- on the surface -- utterly preposterous notions.

If I buy a new big truck, I will be more masculine and desirable. The ad doesn't SAY that. If it did, I could evaluate the statement as horse-poop. Instead, it conveys the idea in a few subtle ways. The voice over in the background from a guy with a smoothly deep voice, the visual of the truck being used in a stereotypical masculine way, the dominance imagery of it being on top of a forbidding landscape. The beautiful woman getting into the passenger door.

Obviously, I am a connoisseur of fine manipulation and appreciate it greatly.

When an ad proclaims a lady to be the best, most impressive, yada yada it is almost garish.

[charlestudor2005]

Generally speaking, I am skeptical of all ads. About the only thing I read in great detail is the FAQs page, which is where most providers relay their most important priorities. And I try to meet them.

OTOH, being the cynic I am, I assume all ads have one purpose: to get money. If I'm unlucky in choosing a provider, it'll be a slam-bam-thank-u-sir kind of session. IOW, a quick pop and she's gone.

If I'm lucky, she'll stick around for the full session.

If I'm super lucky, she'll stick around for the full session and the session will be pleasant.

Twice, I have been super, super lucky, and the session has very good.

[Tiffany Cums]

Very good responses everyone, thank you for taking the time.

What about the flip side? Who is pro "the best"?