when do you tell them

[sue_nami]

If you use swinger sites, sex hookup sites and dating sites to find FWBs, at what point do you tell the other person about this hobby side of yourself? never? first date up front? play it by ear and tell them before u have sex? tell them only if it gets serious? do your causal play partners deserve to know about this side of your life?

[lovelyevelyn]

Do husbands usually tell their wives they're seeking swers?

[Treetop78759]

Keeping secrets will def reduce the chance of either person being outed.

If a dude is cheating on the person who is supposed to be the most important person in life the female should also lie.

[SweetKimberly]

Honesty is the best policy. Tell them upfront. If it turns out the two of you end up liking each other, he will be glad you mentioned it at the very beginning of the relationship.

And if he has a problem with it when you tell him in the beginning, he's not worth it, and you can both part ways.

Good luck!

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by sue_nami

If you use swinger sites, sex hookup sites and dating sites to find FWBs, at what point do you tell the other person about this hobby side of yourself? never? first date up front? play it by ear and tell them before u have sex? tell them only if it gets serious? do your causal play partners deserve to know about this side of your life?

NEVER

In a quid pro quo exchange the benefit in play is currency for the exchange and the only thing "owed".

Keep your personal life separate from your hobby life or be prepared to lose both....

It's plain vanilla.