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boxxer · 07-01-2011, 12:07 PM

Had a provider I have seen call me today to ask for a loan. Said she was not going to be able to make her rent. Thats a first for me. Im a softhearted guy but it was no for me. Anybody else have this happen? I was surprized. What do ya think?

Brooke Wilde · 07-01-2011, 12:09 PM

DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER!

Brooke Wilde · 07-01-2011, 12:10 PM

Ahhhh, I just noticed you said no. You made the right choice and never second guess that.

Guest102513-1 · 07-01-2011, 12:17 PM

Yea, although this is not true for all providers, the phenomenon of being asked for a
"loan" is not an unusual one at all.

Of course a lot depends on the length and nature of your relationship with any given provider, which MAY (not always) change my thinking...but never "loan". Way too many times all it ends up being is trouble. If you think of it as a gift...ok, but loans are a slippery slop to problems.

Let's face it, if you were going to see a provider on Tues...but don't have the $$$ available until Friday....do you think she will go ahead and see ya with the promise that you'll make good on a later date???

Can't blame the provider for saying no....but flip side, can't blame the hobbist for saying no to loan

Sweet N Little · 07-01-2011, 12:40 PM

Unless you know she is trustworthy -don't -anybody that does this and can't make rent has serious issues!

guest043013-2 · 07-01-2011, 12:45 PM

Been there - done that.

One time, it worked extremely well. The second time, resulted in a loss of a friend. She has since contacted me to make amends, but we have yet to get together.

I suspect that a search on "loan" in most any of the different cities (at least in Dallas) would bring up several threads cautioning against a loan. If you truly feel sorry for the lady, and want to make an outright gift, do so. But don't count on repayment in cash or sex.

I know, a lot of ladies would never take advantage of a hobbyist (most would never ask), but sadly, many of these ladies would have no qualms.

Interestly, I haven't seen one of these loan threads in a long time, these usually surface about every 2-3 months. Would expect them to be more frequent with the economy. (Maybe there are more guys asking ladies for loans these days?)

Chica Chaser · 07-01-2011, 12:51 PM

Hummm, end/first of the month? Yep, happens to guys every month, right about this time, imagine that!
Like others have said, don't do it. If she need to raise some cash, she can run a special for a few days. Just like any other business does.
Now if you want to just give her a gift with no expectation of repayment in cash or services.....well then that just makes you a good guy! And a good one that she can go back to again and again when things are tight.

Like the Master said above, if you were short of cash would she give you a session today on the promise that you would pay her next week?

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Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

Unless you know she is trustworthy -don't -anybody that does this and can't make rent has serious issues!

There is sometimes other expenses and commissions that have to be paid SnL. Those can take a big bite out of the budget.

burkalini · 07-01-2011, 02:02 PM

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

samantha thom · 07-01-2011, 03:14 PM

Don't do it! How could a provider not able to pay rent? Maybe lack of ability to budget or saving money??

LVSFR · 07-01-2011, 03:19 PM

Yeah, go ahead give the provider a loan. If they would ever make a movie about your loan, the title's already been taken-"Gone with the Wind"!

incognito isis · 07-01-2011, 03:50 PM

Alot of guys have asked me for free dates/time/sex. Maybe I oughta ask 'em for free money to pay my rent? LOL

guest010313 · 07-01-2011, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Brooke Wild

DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER!

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Chica Chaser · 07-01-2011, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by incognito isis

Alot of guys have asked me for free dates/time/sex. Maybe I oughta ask 'em for free money to pay my rent? LOL

Wrong crusade.

But I would like to hear you defend the lady doing the asking.

Still Looking · 07-01-2011, 06:11 PM

Rent on the PIMP mobil perhaps!

Guest021213 · 07-01-2011, 06:17 PM

I am softhearted too ... Ive done it 5 times ... yes 5
Only once I got it back ...
The other 4 ... I lost a relationship

Once someone asks for a loan, the relationship is over:
If you say no ... she's gonna be bitter cause you didn't support her
If you say yes ... she will never talk to you again thinking that you're trying to collect the money

If you want to help and you can, give it as a gift

My .02