my favorite are the girls who call you... ask if you want to see them BECAUSE they need X (which is usually $). That is SOOOO motivating, I mean I've told some providers here this:
You know I wasn't really in the mood until YOU texted needing something, wow that really gets me wound up! YES, this girl who doesn't even act like I'm anything than a withdrawal slip... she REALLY turns me on with her need for rent money...I find my ability to make your payment such a turn on (kinky roleplay notwithstanding, I mean that offer would at least make it fun right?)
sarcasm noted..
Try to ask me how my night is and at least pretend I'm a person... before you try to get my card. LOL
The worst is, Oh yeah, I need that upfront too... LMAO.
You can usually tell how close to deadline it is, because providers who don't return messages or keep appts suddenly become VERY concerned about when you might come give them something. If only they had that attitude when your time was the issue
A lot of providers now aren't trying to develop a relationship, its all about the hustle, and as guys here point out, the emphasis on NEED NOW GIMME, sometimes undermines a long term friend who wants to help with needs, but wants to feel appreciated doing so. I just laugh and move on.
but hey, maybe I'm just different
Here's a variation on an old saying found on old glass bottles.... Ask for Deposit, No return
Be safe everyone!