Daty Rules: If ladies offer advice will guys get upset?

[Guest051115]

Even though I get caught up in the moment and will certainly do it, can't say that I'm a huge fan of Daty. I wonder though since Daty is mainly for the woman's pleasure do guys generally get upset if they're corrected on technique mid session or is provider advice on how to properly stimulate a big no no in the hobby world?

Here's a decent summary for the reluctant or even seasoned Datyist:









http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/eatpussy/

[Guest032117]

Cute illustration. No flicking for me. I like consistent broad strokes up and down and circling my clit. Firm tongue pressure. Do I sometimes offer a direction? Absolutely, but usually if I do, I'm pretty comfortable with that person already. I can tell when a guy is just going through the motions because he doesn't want to feel like a selfish lover. I don't bother correcting them because they want to get to the main course anyway. But if the guy is genuinely into it, and I can tell he truly wants me to enjoy it, they accept my suggestions enthusiastically, which takes the whole experience up a notch.

[CarolineDavenport]

Agreed. Gents are usually very receptive to direction, if I offer any. As Ms. Marie said, generally I can tell if he is doing it for fun or obligation, and the ones doing it for fun are very open to being informed on what will make me start climbing the walls. :P Very few seem to just be doing it out of obligation, though. Most times if they aren't that into doing it, we'll just skip the activity all together. I find it very encouraging how many men just love it. I don't think I've ever had a gent get annoyed at a little suggestion. Different women like different things. Helping him eliminate some of the guess work is good for everyone involved.

[citizen44]

[Guest032117]

Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

Agreed. Gents are usually very receptive to direction, if I offer any. As Ms. Marie said, generally I can tell if he is doing it for fun or obligation, and the ones doing it for fun are very open to being informed on what will make me start climbing the walls. :P Very few seem to just be doing it out of obligation, though. Most times if they aren't that into doing it, we'll just skip the activity all together. I find it very encouraging how many men just love it. I don't think I've ever had a gent get annoyed at a little suggestion. Different women like different things. Helping him eliminate some of the guess work is good for everyone involved.

True, if it's not their thing, we just skip it, but I have no expectations for it. I just make sure that it's a tasty experience if they decide to take the southern voyage.

[Mr. GPop]

To toss in my 2 cents worth - I have noticed that all ladies all have a "general" area of fun.

Each differ slightly but if you get good at giving Daty, then for the most part you will be well within the ballpark (no pun intended) for others - that is when they need to give personal instructions as to how they like it. DO remember this info as it might work with others..

[Trey]

Is eating pussy and fingering not considered pornographic here? Ijs

Other then that I don't eat provider pussy so they don't ask.

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by YummyMarie

But if the guy is genuinely into it, and I can tell he truly wants me to enjoy it, they accept my suggestions enthusiastically...

Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

the ones doing it for fun are very open to being informed on what will make me start climbing the walls.... I find it very encouraging how many men just love it.

yay yay yay. daty daty daty. Since I'm always looking for a humorous angle I'm thinking kids at a circus carnival for the first time, you ladies got me over here

[oilfieldscum]

Originally Posted by Trey

Is eating pussy and fingering not considered pornographic here? Ijs

What he said ^^^

I'm offended by this pornographic cunnilingus cartoon illustration.

All gals like different things and direction is okay as long as it doesn't make the session too mechanical.

[Prime Time]

Note to self: never put my mouth where hundreds of dicks have been.

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by Prime Time

Note to self: never put my mouth where hundreds of drum sticks have been.

^ fify

[Luvagoodmassage]

Suggestions from the lady to do things to her that she likes are welcome with me. I want her to have a good time too.

[Texas Playboy]

Every woman is different. There are really some who don't like it at all, and would rather just lube up and start pounding away. They should just say so. I am an enthusiastic daty-giver, but it's exasperating to go down on a woman who is pretending to enjoy it out of a sense of politeness. Or, even worse, just lays there like a deadfish, with the session clock ticking in her head.

Y'all screen us for any number of things, what I am mostly looking for in reading these reviews is whether the provider truly enjoys and is open to being pleasured and having a good time. If they don't, I will avoid, and certainly won't repeat that kind of session (and I just had one of them last week btw).

On the other hand, if a provider is truly GFE and is the right mindset to have fun, then I consider it my job to pay attention to her body language and figure out what things I am doing that she likes ... and do those things a lot. Personally I would prefer to be given at least a chance to figure it out myself, and then to be corrected sweetly if I am missing the mark. If I walk in the door, discreetly leave the donation, and then I get a verbal "user's manual" to how to please her, well to me that is just reinforcing that I am with a pro, instead of creating the illusion of real world "I'm getting lucky sex" that I am seeking.

Does that make any sense? Once I drop the gift, I want it to be just like any other date that ends up in bed. Part of the mystery of a woman is how to please her -- no two are ever the same. A lot of the fun is figuring that out.

[Out_of_Bounds]

Receiving verbal instruction is accepted and helpful and will not be discouraged. But I usually go with her body language and moans of pleasure on what works for her.

[ICU 812]

Well its gotta be good for her . . .so if she wants it a different way its her call.