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Lexxxy · 05-10-2011, 09:08 PM

Sorry if this is a no no topic, still feeling my way around the site.
I was just thinking about this. I have realized that I have never had a request, question, or someone initiate rough sex from WNY on this site.
I was wondering why. Maybe Buffalo and the surrounding areas are only into passionate GFE?
I love everything from sweet pampering GFE-wild kinky PSE- naughty roleplay-Dom-sub-Mistress............ I just really go wild and get SO into hands squeezing all over my body, having my hair pulled,ass slapped, and rough K9 as well as other things. Am I the only one that likes a hot wild handsy lustful romp around here?

offshoredrilling · 05-11-2011, 01:36 AM

read my signature line. I think my ATF asks for it by stopping. It has turned in to a game. Some times all I have to do is move my hand. other times one than one spank is needed.

Others I see or have seen do not like it. Spank Hunter she will snap at you. Hanna mmmmm its a death wish. But some others seem to love being spanked.

You know that time when they are on top of you in a 69, they rise their head for air and make sounds of joy. Ya Spank them, they need to get back to work ae.

Biomech · 05-11-2011, 07:11 AM

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I was just thinking about this. I have realized that I have never had a request, question, or someone initiate rough sex from WNY on this site.
I was wondering why. Maybe Buffalo and the surrounding areas are only into passionate GFE?

It's certainly something I have enjoyed with girlfriends, but have usually been reluctant to request from providers, and it is definitely not something I would just initiate.

In relationships I think it can evolve naturally because trust and respect levels have already been built up... you learn what each other's boundaries are and what your partner likes and doesn't like. This allows it to just be fun for both.

In a situation where these levels haven't been built up yet, or you don't even know each other, I think you need to err on the side of respectfulness first.

So unless the provider makes it know that she likes things a little rougher, I have to go on the assumption that she doesn't, because the last thing I want to do is something that makes her uncomfortable or she finds disrespectful.

It can also naturally evolve when you become a regular of a provider, because again... you've had a chance to get to know each other a little and establish some level of trust and comfort.

That all being said, I really like what you posted here, Lexy, because it lets us know that this fantasy can be fulfilled by someone who actually enjoys it. That's a very good thing to know, because for me, rough sex is ONLY fun with a woman who loves it.

So... a provider might agree to some of the things you mentioned, if I asked, but does she really like them? Well... I need her to, or I am not interested in doing them.

offshoredrilling · 05-11-2011, 08:33 AM

Lexxy
I'm not sure that this would in line with rough sex. maybe it is. But does leave me with a "?" for all the providers. I have never been able to cum before with a girl in CG. Till one time I grab her(atf) by the waist or thighs and help her move back and forth in a sliding motion as fast as we can get it going. And this does make me cum. However it looks to do more than make her O. She becomes light headed, dizzy, and looks about to pass out. Yet after sitting on my face and 69 as of late she will go to that and ask me to move her with my arms. She complains of the feeling dizzy. Yet begs for it.
I'm not sure if this is fun or nuts? And I know nuts. Should I be worried? Any provider please and thank you

Biomech: good post I have found that is why I keep seeing a few. Time to time I will see others. Found one I think I would love to repeat. But I keep going to the few I all ready know all to well. For reason you posted.

LynnT · 05-11-2011, 09:07 AM

Lexxxy · 05-11-2011, 11:07 AM

Hmmm, I was thinking about this because I LOVE it and I know that if I were a Gent I would ask about limits and rough sex. I know that every girl is different but let me tell you, hard k9 feels AMAZING!I can understand some Ladies not feeling comfortable with it but you never know until your ask.
I know it sounds silly but I'm not comfortable with top or speaking Greek. Top sounds silly but I am really tight and angled so top is very uncomfortable/painful and sometimes it makes me tear and bleed like I was stabbed. Therefore I avoid top as much as possible.Speaking Greek freaks me out, I am a clean freak (in every aspect of my life, my hygiene, my apt, my hotel rooms, my car, my office....)and don't want any discomfort there. When it comes to pm or strap on that is fine,I actually enjoy doing those things because I don't have to feel it or feel gross. *Giggle*
My most recent rough date was in Pittsburgh. It was with a new Gent that I had discussed everything with so he knew my limits and I knew his so we were able to just go with the flow and have hesitation free fun. It was so hot, the second he walked in the door he pushed me against the wall and started kissing me grabbing my chest while I took off his suit jacket and fumbled with his buttons on his shirt stripping him at the door. Then we moved to the bed where he shoved me back and pulled my panties aside and ravaged me with DATY and from there is was really wild intense animalistic pleasure for the both of us. Like I said, ask and you will most likely receive.

brad118 · 05-11-2011, 11:52 AM

WOW Lexxxy. that got me going, to bad your not in Buffalo I would deff get or time in sync and possibly teach eachother a few things..

Lexxxy · 05-11-2011, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by brad118

WOW Lexxxy. that got me going, to bad your not in Buffalo I would deff get or time in sync and possibly teach eachother a few things..

Rawr

Now that thought has me going....tease

HlavinKitheri · 05-11-2011, 01:13 PM

My sometimes take-out dancer says she likes her hair pulled, but not too hard. I don't think that counts.

Some GFs, on other hand, have liked being tied with old silk neckties; and one in particular preferred scratchy rope, eventually graduating to speaker wire. Thus disadvantaged, she appreciated being "used" in ways other than our usual fun, and WITHOUT me asking nicely. Rather than passively receive oral, for example, I might kneel astride her collarbone and fuck her in the face.

I'm guessing bondage/force fantasy that leaves temporary marks on the wrists and ankles would qualify in most people's minds as "rough sex." I had a friend who liked it *really* rough, but she was taken, and I never had the pleasure. :-)

brad118 · 05-11-2011, 02:00 PM

Lexxxy PM Sent

SweetElizabeth · 05-11-2011, 04:52 PM

Rough Sex? Show of hands?

Not even on a personal level for me.... Just not my thing.

Ladies, play safely out there!!

My suggestion for anyone interested in BDSM/Fetish/Kink is to do your homework until you are blue in the face, have someone allow you oxygen again, then study some more.....

buttlover7777 · 05-11-2011, 06:06 PM

For those interested in this sort of play, here is my favorite site for ideas.
http://www.sexandsubmission.com/site/shoots.jsp?c=1
I have been lucky enough to find a provider who really enjoys this kind of play. We don't play quite as rough as shown on the site though. I have built up an assortment of toys, ropes and gear to tie my partner down. It can be quite fun but I completely agree with Biomech, your partner must truely be into this type of play or it isn't fun for me either. Are any of the Western NY girls interested?

Guest012413 · 05-11-2011, 09:12 PM

All depends on your definition of "rough", for my wife & I, hair pulling, ass slapping, hard-drilling K9, is just another way to mix it up, it's not an everyday occurance, and wouldn't like it if it was..........Some genuine providers can take the "rough" scenario to a whole new level, by being just that, "genuine".......we/I can always spot a "performance", I appreciate a woman who can switch into that role effortlessly, without alot of limits. Like anyone, or at least anyone worth their weight in salt, NO ALWAYS MEANS NO. Of course it is always better to talk about it well in advance.

So, short answer, YES, longer one, I'm comfortable in many roles and scenarios....being that my wife and I are swingers, we frequently are involved with many different sexual facades, and have "had" to adapt, and in the process enjoyed the living hell out of our sexuality and that of others.

pineappleguy · 05-11-2011, 09:41 PM

I think it's a YMMV thing. I have to have a clear indication from the woman that I'm with that that sort of thing is a turn-on for her. If I get that, then I am good to go. Slapping, biting, hair-pulling, ripping clothes, hands around the throat, face-fucking, pussy-pounding, etc. A level of trust needs to be established before I can go down that road with a woman - meaning that I have to believe that she trusts that I will not go too far, but I am free to push the envelope.

incognito isis · 05-11-2011, 09:50 PM

I hate rough sex. Mostly because one of my ex boyfriends used to beat me up, so I just don't like anything that revolves around pushing or hurting someone. Not only was he a beater, but he was into rough sex also. He was just a lost, tortured soul. I think any man who gets off on pushing a woman around is a little odd. I don't mind being on top though. I have the energy for that, and not too many people do!!!!!!!!!!!!!