Why I partake in this

[guest092614]

I am in my mid thirties, never have had a problem getting a date or talking with women. I'm far from overweight, in good shape, have all my hair, and very rarely if I do go out to a bar or something do I not get hit on. right now my ex wife had gone on drugs and took off leaving me with our 2 children. I love my kids more than anything and would lay down my life for them. Given this and the fact that the mortgage, bills, etc will not pay themselves I do tend to work quite a bit. What free time I have is spent with the kids, homework, meals, playtime, outings and all that. It wouldn't be fair to have a GF right now given the schedule situation and I'm not going to have my children seeing daddy with a bunch of different women who I would date. I have dated in the past of course, and they say they are understanding with the schedule and my kids....right up until they realize that when I said I have very little time that it's true. I will NOT have someone I am dating make me choose between them or my kids, they will ALWAYS lose.
I do take care of business myself lol, but sometimes having someone else help you with that and just to have another persons touch means the world...even if its for a very short time. I guess what I'm saying is my children are my world, but sometimes I do have an "urge" that my hands just don't fulfill and I don't want to lead a woman on or just make it seem like she is a booty call given how little free time I actually have. I LOVE a busty woman, but going out, courting, taking time to get to know each other would be great, I just don't have the time to do it and it wouldn't be fair to her. Under the guise of this site, everyone pretty much knows what is wanted or expected, ie; playing nice, safe and fair. So I guess on that note, be nice to these providers, they are someones daughter, mother, sister and friend. They are not playthings or targets for your pissed off and lousy life. Be safe all :-)
breakofdawn2

[RedLeg505]

Seems as sensible and logical a reason to hobby as any other I've heard.

[joesmo888]

relationships the sex gets boring.

. i love my gf and she is great to spend the night with, wake up next to, go travelling, go out, have dinner, etc. but she is atrocious in the sack and selfish. she fails to satisfy my fetishes even though i satisfy hers.

honey can we do CIM? yuk!
facial? yuk!
blowjob? my jaw hurts!
threesome? your kidding right?
shower play? I have to wash my hair, lets just go to the bed
cowgirl? no it hurts my knees

gf's are great companions and providers are great to fuck. so its a good balance and keeps me happy.. a provider is gonna do what I like and satisfy my fetishes.. honestly i wish i had gotten into this hobby when i was younger i think i would of avoided a lot of bad relationships and broken hearts. i don't feel the need to jump into relationships anymore because I think with my little head and not my big head.

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

... i think i would of avoided a lot of bad relationships ...

The relationship you just described sounded pretty bad. Maybe your the common link?

[joesmo888]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

The relationship you just described sounded pretty bad. Maybe your the common link?

I was making a joke. if I was really in a relationship like that I would of left a long time ago. however it is true that it gets boring pounding the same pussy for more than a couple months

[Nicolet]

I can relate, breakofdawn2. As a child, I watched my mother go from boyfriends to husbands many times over the years. When I found myself as a single parent, I chose to raise my kids alone. Which is why I entered the hobby so late in life. I waited until my kids were grown, I did not date anyone or have sex for 13 years.
I love what the hobby has to offer, I can share my energies with a gentleman with no strings attached. And the financial benefits are wonderful too, no denying that.
And I have met some truly wonderful men in the hobby.

[VIP Mya Michelle]

Originally Posted by RedLeg505

Seems as sensible and logical a reason to hobby as any other I've heard.

+1
Yep

[mississippifunguy]

I'm in it cause I'm not allowed to do certain things. Yeh, I get BJ's and then her on top and Mish on occasion. Bout it. No Spooning and What's this Doggie style I keep hearing about AHHHH Pretty much her way or no way. Oh, and can we have sex on the coach, the washer, out at the pool? NOPE, BED only GRRRRRR

[Cpalmson]

While I'm still in a relationship, I hobby to have my needs met. If my relationship ended, I'd probably keep hobbying-- for most of the same reasons as the OP. While, I'd probably have more time/opportunities to date traditionally than the OP, I'd not be wanting to rush into another "exclusive" type of relationship. I'd be more drawn to a FWB, NSA or fuck buddy type of situation. Casual friends and a fuck would be what I'd be seeking with the knowledge that if I can't get from a civie, there are plenty of providers for me to play with.

[loboy]

I, for one reason, hobby because my work and life consumes too much of my time, and for another reason that only providers know lol

[Rogue_Gent]

I hobby 'cause I'm an old fart and I can't get turned on by women my own age. Another thing is that several providers I have seen are so good in bed.

[pyramider]

I am just a tainted individual looking for BBCR action.

[LoneStarDieselCar]

Whats bbcr?

[reef50]

Us older guys who keep fit sometimes have wives/partners who do not keep fit or lose interest in sex. But you still love 'em, and would never leave. I have friends in long time relationships that have decided that their sex life is over, and partly because of physical condition that is OK with them. I can't accept that yet, I guess. After some soul-searching, i decided I did not feel at all guilty about getting intimacy elsewhere. I haven't taken the plunge yet, but I'm going to. Only problem now is getting verified if you are retired. BP is to dangerous, at least here in NM

[livn2do]

Because I can.