Need some advice on a threesome

[EastBeast504]

I need some advice, but I'll explain why.
My wife does not know that I have been in the hobby (as I'm sure most of you guys wives are). I have actually not been too active in the hobby within the last year because of all the heat that LE has put on the Shreveport area. So that has actually made me be more sexually active with my wife.
Lately she has been getting more and more "kinky" in the bedroom. She has been talking about us having a threesome, but she just doesn't have any idea who we should do it with. I don't know what to say about suggesting a provider from here, because she has no idea I've been in the hobby (and I'd like to keep it that way).
Another thing, she also wants to have a MMF threesome, and she suggested that we have one with her ex BF from 15 years ago before we got married. She is friends with him on social networks, and occasionally chats with him. So now my wife wants me and this dude to run a train on her. I'm not the jealous type, so if that is what she wants, I guess I'm fine with it, I mean hell, I have been basically cheating on her for a while with providers in the hobby, so I guess now its her turn.
So I need some advice on two things. How should I suggest an ECCIE provider for us to do a threesome with? How can I even explain that I know about the hobby?
And how would you guys react to your wife wanting to have you and her ex BF do a threesome on her?

[destinydevine]

Ive done couples

[OldGent]

Escorting isn't exactly a secret in today's world. You might suggest the possibility paying an escort and letting her research and letting her find someone she finds pleasing or acceptable. If she askes how you know about the hobby. You might say you did some research because she showed interest in a threesome and you don't know anyone civie that might be into that. As far as adding another guy make sure you are really comfortable with that and won't harbor any resentment if it happens. I did that for a previous wife for her birthday and it was a really great experience for both of us. Something really hot about watching your partner fuck and get fucked. Destiny who just responded to you would be an excellent suggestion for a threesome.

[EastBeast504]

Originally Posted by OldGent

Escorting isn't exactly a secret in today's world. You might suggest the possibility paying an escort and letting her research and letting her find someone she finds pleasing or acceptable. If she askes how you know about the hobby. You might say you did some research because she showed interest in a threesome and you don't know anyone civie that might be into that. As far as adding another guy make sure you are really comfortable with that and won't harbor any resentment if it happens. I did that for a previous wife for her birthday and it was a really great experience for both of us. Something really hot about watching your partner fuck and get fucked. Destiny who just responded to you would be an excellent suggestion for a threesome.

A threesome with another guy wouldn't bother me "too" much, provided that no homo stuff is involved, and she does NOT develop feelings for the other guy. But what's got me thinking is why does she wanna do it with an Ex? She makes me think that she still has feelings for this guy. Once I agreed to it, she had him on the phone within hours asking if he wanted to do it. I'm cool with maybe a one time deal, but if she wants to start fucking this dude all the time now, I'm not so sure about that, unless I had a side chick that we did threesomes with on a regular basis, so we can "even the playing field" so to speak.

[OldGent]

Maybe she chose him because she would rather it be someone she knows and is comfortable with instead of hooking up with some stranger. Exploring an open relationship might be an option, but you have to start from a really strong and secure relationship. If there is any doubt or insecurity involved it can lead to disaster. Start with the threesome and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse about it. How was it? How are you both feeling about it? Etc. It can be really enjoyable and make your relationship even stronger. Again only with open and honest communication.

[sketchpad]

Originally Posted by EastBeast504

A threesome with another guy wouldn't bother me "too" much, provided that no homo stuff is involved, and she does NOT develop feelings for the other guy. But what's got me thinking is why does she wanna do it with an Ex? She makes me think that she still has feelings for this guy. Once I agreed to it, she had him on the phone within hours asking if he wanted to do it. I'm cool with maybe a one time deal, but if she wants to start fucking this dude all the time now, I'm not so sure about that, unless I had a side chick that we did threesomes with on a regular basis, so we can "even the playing field" so to speak.

The issue with the Ex could be several possibilities.

1. It might just be that it's someone she is familiar and comfortable with. It's is simply easier to talk yourself into having sex with someone that you've already had sex with before.

2. It might be that she knew that this is something that he would be okay with.

3. She might still harbor feelings for him as you're already concerned about.

4. All of the above.

I wouldn't worry too much about number 3. Sure, it is possible. But if she were secretly still carrying a torch for this dude she probably wouldn't want to bring him into an MMF experience with you. She would be much more likely to hide that. If it is really something you're worried about sit down with her and have an open and candid conversation with her about it. It is also important to remember that whatever there may have been between the two of them in the past, there is a reason that she is with you now and not him.

I've never been in your exact situation. But I do have an Ex who is now married to another dude and they live in another state. She has expressed interest in having sex with me again and he has said that he is okay with it (she took a screenshot of them texting each other about me having sex with her and sent me the screenshot to prove to me that he was okay with it. Sounds strange, I know but that's just my life... one long strange trip). So there might be something similar happening in my future. Who knows?

On the issue of choosing a provider or letting her know what you've been up to in the past, I'd suggest walking a bit more softly here. Admit to nothing until you're sure that she is cool with it. Maybe suggest it as a possibility that you've heard of.

Say that "your friend Sketch knows this girl Destiny" for example. (I really don't... yet. But she is on my list) Or something along those lines.

The most important thing there really though is that you should let her choose the girl. At least the first time that this happens. You can talk to her about the types of girls that you like or whatever but in the end, she should be the one who chooses the girl. Just my opinion but here is why. She'll be more comfortable with it if she has control of the decision. She will also be less likely to get upset at you for wanting to fuck another girl. It isn't just about you, it's about her too. In fact, if I were you I'd make it mostly about her as much as possible.

Those are just my thoughts.
And on a side note... If the two of you ever want a complete and total stranger in your MMF scenario, hit me up.

[cowboyup1960]

Destiny is a good choice. Especially since she is accustomed to threesomes with the likes of Majic and Kiki. Only thing is 1) wife might discover she REALLY likes playing with girls and 2) if you include an old BF I imagine it is because he is a good fuck nit he wasn't she would not bring him up.
Just sounds like a 'pass play' in football. There are 3 possible outcomes, 2 of em are bad.
Lotsa luck. Let us know how all that pans out.

[destinydevine]

The one threesome i did with the wife she didnt know I was an escort . Everything went smoothly, she even asked me to join the two of them fir dinner after. Cowboy thanks for the recommendation sexy.
XoXo Destiny XoXo

[EastBeast504]

Well, now me and the wife got into a huge argument so all threesome's are off now. Sumbitch.
She got all mad because I kept "pressuring her" because I kept talking about finding a woman to do the threesome with. Now that I look back it, I honestly think she was just looking for an excuse to do a threesome with her ex and she had no intention of following through with MY threesome. She was more worried about planning hers, but was getting upset whenever I mentioned finding the right woman. Fuckit, I think it would have probably ended badly anyways.

[cowboyup1960]

Well now! In THAT case East, I suggest YOU do a threesome with the best pair you will ever encounter. If, and that is a Humongous IF! Your heart can stand it and you allow ample recoup time before attempting to drive away.
That OBVIOUS pair would be MMM& DD. Warning! Warning! WARNING! You will NOT be able to 1) walk stable 2) think clearly for an hour post session.
But, if a threesome is your infatuation, there ya go. Cowboyup! Getter Done!
And, you can thank me in your review.

[EastBeast504]

Originally Posted by cowboyup1960

Well now! In THAT case East, I suggest YOU do a threesome with the best pair you will ever encounter. If, and that is a Humongous IF! Your heart can stand it and you allow ample recoup time before attempting to drive away.
That OBVIOUS pair would be MMM& DD. Warning! Warning! WARNING! You will NOT be able to 1) walk stable 2) think clearly for an hour post session.
But, if a threesome is your infatuation, there ya go. Cowboyup! Getter Done!
And, you can thank me in your review.

A threesome per say isn't exactly an infatuation of mine, but a threesome with my wife IS an infatuation of mine. Yes, even though I do cheat on her sometimes I do very much live my wife and I wish we could have the best sex life EVER, but the reality is that we just have an average sex life. But I'm a horny freak, so to the hobby I must go...

[OldGent]

Then just drop it for now. You push that issue now and you headed for disaster. You relationship obviously isn't ready for that. Find other ways to spice things up. She might not be fixated on her ex as much as wanting to spice things up. So have a open and honest discussion about what you can do to freshen things up a bit as a couple. Don't make assumptions. There is that whole ass/u/me thing with those. Lol

[cowboyup1960]

Man, O G! You ought to be a counselor. Good advice.
My ole dumbass just decided 'if she don't want to fuck no more, go find somebody who will but it's way less complicated when you just 'pay to play' than get all emotionally involved with a third party.
So, Yall listen to him instead of me. I'm just a horny ole fucker looking for some strange ... Preferably most of the time with Big Ole Titties!

[cowboyup1960]

Man, O G! You ought to be a counselor. Good advice.
My ole dumbass just decided 'if she don't want to fuck no more, go find somebody who will but it's way less complicated when you just 'pay to play' than get all emotionally involved with a third party.
So, Yall listen to him instead of me. I'm just a horny ole fucker looking for some strange ... Preferably most of the time with Big Ole Titties!

[OldGent]

I'm always up for the BOT myself cowboy. There is never enough lol