Providers setting your bar high for civilian women

[hobbyprojb]

Guys: Have you set your bar high for civilian women when it comes down to looks,personality, & performance in the bedroom. Would you consider dating a civilian woman that was attracted to you..but she does not measure up to all of the beautiful providers that you have been with. How has the hobby changed your outlook on dating/relationships with civilian women.

Ladies: How do you feel about guys setting their bar real high once they have plenty of great dates with providers? Do feel flattered when guys use you to set the bar in their civilian dating life?

[Alyssa Nicole]

I am flattered whenever I see some of the OK's given by some of the most beautiful women I have ever laid my eyes on...flattered and a bit intimidated but more flattered than anything. As far as the civilian dating I have no comment.

[Still Looking]

I try to keep the bar LOW! I like being happy!

[Eccie Addict]

I don't compare them. I have a different outlook on ladies outside of this...

[adult146]

The bar is higher for me. Things I do with providers are things I've always wanted to do with civilians. I have had a few civilians keep me interested, we're usually now compatible otherwise.

I think if I were in the market again, I would be hard pressed to settle for less.

[whitechocolate]

The top providers like Alyssa Nicole in Dallas or Holly of Houston set the bar exceeding high for civilian gals to match. Of course, with civilan gals you are operating under different expectations and ground rules.

[Eccie Addict]

WC you are talking about for yourself right?

[Mojojo]

Idk I have the bar set about the same..... probably a bit higher with providers do to the fact that there's a fee involved. However I know what i like and what i want so thats what sets the bar about the same for civilians and providers.

[LynnT]

Hmm I was just as sexual as a "civi" before I started this.. now its rolled into a business.. and sure I do some things for clients I could care less about in the "civi" world but in general Im the same.

[Old-T]

I think several of the replies missed the intent of the original question--or maybe I did.

I don't think the question is "Do you set the bar higher for providers vs non-providers" as much as it is "Has your experience with providers raised the bar you used to have for non-providers?".

In my case, yes it has--especially in the area of personality. I find the ladies here are generally more knowledgably outspoken, better read in a broad set of topics, and more confident when put into new circumstances. And I have found that I like those things.

Once I get to know a lady--and she gets to know me--they are far more attuned to my mood and are much better at adjusting how they resopnd to whether I am tired, happy, frustrated, etc., when they arrive. This is probably the biggest difference--civilian ladies don't seem to pick up on clues about what kind of mood I'm in.

Looks and performance expectations on my part have not changed a lot.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by Old-T

I think several of the replies missed the intent of the original question--or maybe I did.

I don't think the question is "Do you set the bar higher for providers vs non-providers" as much as it is "Has your experience with providers raised the bar you used to have for non-providers?".

In my case, yes it has--especially in the area of personality. I find the ladies here are generally more knowledgably outspoken, better read in a broad set of topics, and more confident when put into new circumstances. And I have found that I like those things.

Once I get to know a lady--and she gets to know me--they are far more attuned to my mood and are much better at adjusting how they resopnd to whether I am tired, happy, frustrated, etc., when they arrive. This is probably the biggest difference--civilian ladies don't seem to pick up on clues about what kind of mood I'm in.

Looks and performance expectations on my part have not changed a lot.

Could it be providers care more than civilians?

[samantha thom]

After having been in the business for approx. 9 months, I find that it has affected me in my personal civilian dating life. :-( I don't want to get too deep though. Sigh!

[gimme_that]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

After having been in the business for approx. 9 months, I find that it has affected me in my personal civilian dating life. :-( I don't want to get too deep though. Sigh!

I wish you expanded on that......is it more a trust issue. Civilian perhaps?

I know you ladies tend to see married men and men cheating continuously...surely to some degree this may affect trust in just people being monogamous in general. I'm probably totally wrong but I figured Id take a guess......

I will definitely say after hobbying just strickly sex wise......the bar is much higher for me when dating civilians. But sex is usually the easy part of relationships and I haven't encountered issues. I generally don't date while I'm hobbying though.

[samantha thom]

Dear Gimme That,
I'm so used to 'entertaining' men so a lot of times, with civilian men, I feel on auto-pilot and start treating them like clients....trying to 'provide' the perfect GFE. Then I realize that I'm not working and I can just relax and be a bit more myself.
I'm always afraid to get too deep and too close to someone cause I'm doing this. I don't want a relationship to take my time, my energy from doing what I do. I LOVE what I do! Plus how can I have a meaningful relationship when I'm hiding something?
And also the trust issue, too....but it's not as bad as the issues I just mentioned above.

[TexTushHog]

I think the hobby has caused me to set the bar higher in terms of "performance in the bedroom" for civilian girls. Looks and personality, not so much. But BCD skills in the civilian world just don't seem to stack up very well, IMHO.

So some of my civilian relationships have become less about sex (occasionally to my partner's annoyance). You can't really say, "You know, if you were better in the sack, you'd get fucked more often." but you sort of wish you could. C'est la vie!