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discreetgent · 01-21-2010, 10:04 PM

Just following the wishes of a lovely lady [ame="http://eccie.net/showthread.php?p=62475#post624 75"]Compliments - Page 7 - ECCIE - Your source for escort reviews[/ame]

Ever fall in love with an escort? a client? would you run away and scream in horror if it was happening or go with the flow and see what happened? Would you date an escort if you met outside of the demi world? As an escort would you be upset if your SO saw escorts?

Ansley · 01-21-2010, 10:12 PM

I will have to wrap my head around this one and come back a little later.

guest041110 · 01-21-2010, 10:28 PM

Did I fall for an escort? Yes and it was a serious mistake as well as a waste of my time and energy which cost me dearly.

Would I do it again? Absolutely not under any circumstances if she is an active escort.

My recommendation: Don’t do it... period. If they are still active as an escort it is just not worth the heartache or trouble. In general, I have found that situation to be far too difficult due to the deceit from the escort who always seems to have a great many personal issues. I also found that I was always wishing I had not made the mistake of falling in the first place. Hindsight is always 20/20 or better, trust me on this.

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Would I date someone who had been an escort or was leaving the business? Absolutely I would without question because I have an open enough mind to realize that people change. Plus the experience I have from my past mistakes of dating active escorts will allow me to be someone who will understand her while not holding what she did before against her. I now know what to ask and how to ask what is required so I don’t get bamboozled like I did before while making sure she is priority number one.

Anyway, you asked DG and that is what I have to contribute to your thread.

LynetteMarie · 01-21-2010, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by discreetgent

Just following the wishes of a lovely lady Compliments - Page 7 - ECCIE - Your source for escort reviews

Ever fall in love with an escort? a client? would you run away and scream in horror if it was happening or go with the flow and see what happened? Would you date an escort if you met outside of the demi world? As an escort would you be upset if your SO saw escorts?

Yes, I have fallen in love with a client.

I am open to it happening again, but this time I hope it only happens with an unmarried man as I am a single woman.

I have dated men outside of this little world who found out (whether I told them or they figured it out) that I was an escort. One was okay with it but I only dated him for about a month. The others pretended they were okay until one too many drinks and the "talk" came up.

As for my SO seeing escorts, I will need to have an open enough relationship with my mate that we can talk about anything and everything. I have had this in the past and I know I can find it again.

If my love saw an escort behind my back, yes, I would be hurt and feel betrayed. But I have been given many second chances and I realize I have no right to judge when I have been forgiven by the ones most important to me in life. I would accept his apology if he were to ask my forgiveness.

Falling in love with a single client is, in my mind, the ideal situation and I do so hope it happens one day. As in the past when my client and I were in love, I stopped working as I wanted to be true to him and he wanted to be true to me. I plan on doing the same again whether I find love in or out of this little world.

But then again, others in this world have called me a complete romantic idealist who has already lived a bit of a fairy tale, so "my views are skewed" (this is others speaking, not me!).

Yes, I'm still waiting for the happily ever after, but I am mature enough to know I can find it through other ventures than just falling in love and getting married. Heck, perhaps this beautiful life I'm living now IS ALREADY my happily ever after?

guest051510-1 · 01-22-2010, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by LynetteMarie

Yes, I have fallen in love with a client.

I am open to it happening again, but this time I hope it only happens with an unmarried man as I am a single woman...

I am open to it happening, but I hope it's with a married man. I too am a single woman; but as I stated in the other thread, I've been married 4 times. I've been through 5 divorces, because one of my ex's got crazy and decided to drag me through the mud again.

I will NEVER marry again, or at least not until I'm old and retired and my kids are all grown. I would rather be in love with a man with no string attached. I would be faithful and true to him, but not because I had to but because I wanted to. But, if things went south, I could leave.

Also, I like living alone and don't want another adult in my house. I run it fine all by myself. I often joke with my best male friend that I could marry him if we kept separate homes.

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Originally Posted by LynetteMarie

...Yes, I'm still waiting for the happily ever after, but I am mature enough to know I can find it through other ventures than just falling in love and getting married. Heck, perhaps this beautiful life I'm living now IS ALREADY my happily ever after?

That's it for me, I am living happily ever after - ALL BY MYSELF.

guest012511 · 01-22-2010, 07:04 AM

I've had two wonderful experiences.
Both lasted a total of 4 years-
Both happened accidentally.

For me, I can not be a paid Companion and a girl friend at the same time...conflict of interest.
In each instance, I've "retired" from this world to pursue matters of the heart.

The demise of each relationship was based on "normal" factors (one a compulsive liar and the other a control freak...)

If my SO was seeing escort(s), I would NOT be happy about it. In that matter, I would kindly suggest a bit of roll playing---
I the escort and he the client....

WTF · 01-22-2010, 07:17 AM

How does anyone know what they will do in the future? Especially in matters of the heart?

Now matters of the hearton is a whole nother story. Plenty of past behavior to get a fairly good read on my future behavior!

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Originally Posted by Hanna Darling

If my SO was seeing escort(s), I would NOT be happy about it. In that matter, I would kindly suggest a bit of roll playing---
I the escort and he the client....

LMAO!

Sisyphus · 01-22-2010, 07:31 AM

Ever fall in love with an escort?

Yup!

Ever fall in love with a client?

Yup! Oh.... that one was probably for the ladies.... (never mind)

would you run away and scream in horror if it was happening or go with the flow and see what happened?

Well the more hypothetical the questions get, the more likely the answer does little more than expose one's ability to delude oneself but....

I would be willing to explore it to see where it led. If I was interested enough to procure her companionship in the first place.... why not???? Yeah, yeah, yeah... there's that whole "...paid to leave" thing but if there's enough of a mutual on-going attraction for the issue to even arise that's a pretty unusual connection.

All just "spit balling" for me though. Even if I had such feelings.... I'd never bring them up. She'd have to make the first move & it would have to be unambiguous. It's just not done here. To you, they're feelings. To her, they're most likely you forgetting the way things are supposed to be here. What's "special" to you is more likely to be "creepy" to her.

Would you date an escort if you met outside of the demi world?

Really, REALLY depends. Does she tell me herself or do I find out some other way? Fairly early on???

Prior to becoming a hobbyist, my answer would probably have been:

"Not no way, not no how!"

To not date an escort now would be absurdly hypocritical. Lots of logistical stuff to work through but if there's enough of an acknowledged mutual interest to WANT to see where it leads then dating is how you figure out what the connection really is & how deep the connection really is.

Guest112113-3 · 01-22-2010, 07:47 AM

Been there...done that..

I am with Ansley on this one....except I'm not touching this topic.

laserface · 01-22-2010, 08:11 AM

Yes, I have. And she had similar feelings for me, too. Though in general, we were both mature enough to understand that it wasn't viable outside of the limited context of the provider/client relationship (particularly since she was married). It sure made sessions a lot more fun, though.

For the most part, we were both able to accept our feelings, and just enjoy them for what they were.

Whatever inclination we may have had to extend the relationship, we were both snapped back to reality the one time she invited me to come over to her place to play, one evening when her husband was working late. We could not have known that his work would be slow that night, and his boss would decide to send him home early... Lucky for us the front door was chain-locked. I never imagined I could get dressed so quickly, in the process of making my escape out the side door... We decided it'd probably be a good idea to never try to do that again.

WTF · 01-22-2010, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by laserface

Yes, I have. And she had similar feelings for me, too. Though in general, we were both mature enough to understand that it wasn't viable outside of the limited context of the provider/client relationship (particularly since she was married). It sure made sessions a lot more fun, though.

For the most part, we were both able to accept our feelings, and just enjoy them for what they were.

Whatever inclination we may have had to extend the relationship, we were both snapped back to reality the one time she invited me to come over to her place to play, one evening when her husband was working late. We could not have known that his work would be slow that night, and his boss would decide to send him home early... Lucky for us the front door was chain-locked. I never imagined I could get dressed so quickly, in the process of making my escape out the side door... We decided it'd probably be a good idea to never try to do that again.

Damn brother.....you raised it to a whole 'nother level!

Guest112113-3 · 01-22-2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by laserface

We could not have known that his work would be slow that night, and his boss would decide to send him home early... Lucky for us the front door was chain-locked. I never imagined I could get dressed so quickly, in the process of making my escape out the side door... We decided it'd probably be a good idea to never try to do that again.

Don't worry laserface you're not the only one that has thought with the little head instead of the big one during the moments of Illusions of Passion

Happy Diver · 01-22-2010, 10:13 AM

Fell in love, married her. Annulled the marriage. Big mistake. Enough said.

Nicolette Morgandy · 01-22-2010, 10:18 AM

Don't think I'll cross certain lines in this hobby.

discreetgent · 01-22-2010, 10:29 AM

A few quick thoughts.

If it was clear that there were feelings on both sides I would give it a chance. Hopefully, with a clear eyed view that how we met could be a real factor in going forward.

Since I have been in both open relationships and monogamous ones how we proceeded on that front would only matter in that it was consistent. If the lady decided she wanted to be monogamous that would be fine. If she wanted to continue working that would also be manageable, however, it would have to give me the right to play if I chose. The argument that "for me it is a job" would not fly.

It has been years since I booked a 1 or 2 hour appointment so the odds would be pretty good that the gal would be a low volume escort. My only real condition would be the same as in a more usual open relationship: if she is going on a date that she tell me she is - I don't need any more information unless she chose to tell me for safety reasons - and that if I chose to spend time with an escort that I tell her.