Okay BIG Question regarding PHone calls..

[Sydney Pure]

Let me begin by say this is a co-ed discussion and would like alll of us to share out input...

OKAY..Here Lateley I have a few clients that have starting calll me almost to the point of where I'm wondering "what's going "....I mean over 6 calls in 45 minutes....another 9 calls in 12 hours I"M a working girl (nevermind for another thread)............

My first feeling and question is "what the F*ck???"

Paranoia begins to arise and then my fight mechanisms began working and I go on the proll ...

Traveling as let me to odd encounters---oops other thread...


Both Men and Women I want you in put " if someone is blowing your phone UP does that scare you or do you find that Normal and I'm the freak ~i mean I know I 'm a freak HELP!!!but its driving me craxy !!!

Almost to WOW!!

[joea08]

Blowing up your phone like that is disrespectful (I believe there was something about respecting providers in another thread). I know that if someone calls me and I'm too busy to answer and yet they choose to try repeatedly in a short time, I won't be answering that number unless I feel like it (which might be days later). I'd say people doing this should practice common sense, if the lady doesn't answer the phone she's not going to in 5 min, wait an hour or so, if you reaaalllly want to get a provider then you should have a second choice in case the first isn't available.

[sparkey027]

As I totally understand the paranoid thing.... Sounds like either the feelings are a bit too strong and the idea of gf/bf is being wrongly assumed, or it is the beginning of a semi obsession. Either way, it may be time to find some new " friends" to replace those two... Just my opinion...

[guest031513-1]

That shit is wierd unless there ends up being some emergency that makes it understandable. Someone that nutty is hazardous.

[Guest032514-1]

Sweetie, sorry to hear it. Doubt you are missing good clients by not picking up.

[Ginger Doll]

Assuming you knew & had casually 'dated' the guys that were blowing your phone up...It's probably time to refer them to a friend.

I have had experiences with casual 'dates' where after a couple of dates, they start getting overly familiar and personal...some have even offered marriage proposals. When that happens, I cut it off entirely. You have to. Anything else is perceived as a mutual desire for something more in that persons mind...and if their mind is twisted, you definitely don't want to encourage anything.

It could be dangerous for you if you let the connection continue...any connection, no matter how insignificant...the longer it goes on, the bigger the dissapointment for them and the subsequent reaction that follows.

Now, if you don't know these guys..and they're being that persistent...one might listen for the sound of sprinkles falling off of the donuts on the other end of the line...

[Mr.Chan]

OKAY..Here Lateley I have a few clients that have starting calll me almost to the point of where I'm wondering "what's going "....I mean over 6 calls in 45 minutes....another 9 calls in 12 hours I"M a working girl (nevermind for another thread)............

Client who call six times in 45 minutes to make appointment is obsessed, make exit from potentially volatile entanglement.
Client who call six times in 45 minutes to chat is likewise obsessed, make similar exit.
Nature of client provider relationship must be clear at all time to both parties. At heart of professional relationship exist necessity of distance at appropriate time. Have provider, who is also personals friend, I do not call her unless to make appointment. Lady does not call me unless permission by text elicited first. Mutual respect much appreciated by both parties. Rarely I have friend in hobby who is seen in non-working hours for non-working activities. Even though we have been intimate on many occasion, I do not kiss her, or embrace even in friendly manner. This is due to respect for professional status. Western mind not perhaps as clear as other cultures.
Suspect illustrious one who start thread very aware of answer to problem, and perhaps would like assistance of thread to express politely nature of discomfort to those who need to hear. If so, glad to help.
Would also add that infatuation while uncomfortable to beautiful lady, most understandable by humble servant.

[MrGiz]

Mr Chan touched on it... but perhaps you need to have a discussion with these individuals and politely explain the professional nature of your acquaintance. I almost used the word "relationship" in place of acquaintance.... but apparently, they already have a problem with that understanding.

It all comes down to the "Golden Rule" .... Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Within the hobby... I have always considered phone usage to be the least used form of communication.... except on the day/night of the date.... as it is intrusive upon the persons' personal world. How many threads have we seen about guys bitching about girls calling them at inappropriate times? Golden Rule , people.... follow it!!

Giz

[bluffcityguy]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

Mr Chan touched on it... but perhaps you need to have a discussion with these individuals and politely explain the professional nature of your acquaintance.

Trouble is, we're talking potential-stalker behavior here, and in my experience often these types don't listen to reason, because they're not rational.

Caller ID can be a blessing sometimes. If you recognize a number as being one of these guys, don't answer, don't return voice mail, don't acknowledge his existence any further. If we're talking a normal guy who needs to work through an infatuation (been there, done that, got the t-shirt, read the book and seen the movie), he'll get the message and find another provider.

If he's a stalker, you've got big problems, bigger than any of us can help you with, most likely. Probably best to consult a lawyer... but because these types aren't rational... Well, let's just say this has potential to not end very well.

Best of luck to you.

Cheers,

bcg

[urhuckleberry]

Maybe arrange to have a burly man type pick up the next time PIA calls... answer the phone "Marine Corps Recruiting Office"
(or something even more creative)

H

[Lily Blair]

I think what she means by "paranoia" is that when a client she's known for a while suddenly starts doing that, he might have started hanging out with that girl Ellie.

But I've also had people to be a little rude about the phone calls. I think it's best for the gentlemen to remember that we are professionals who work hard to pay our bills. If we want to and can see you, then we will. One call and voicemail/text is all it takes. And the respect comes in realizing that we have other clients and we may be engaged at the time you call. Calling over and over like that is a definite red flag. I would immediately assume that you and your girlfriend Ellie had ulterior motives or that you are a crazy stalker.

[romou]

I was looking for a girl this week and you can find there phonenumbers on different sites, and I still did not call them. It felt like I was stepping over a personal boundary. I prefer the email method, even if its not being returned. No way I'm going to call if a simple email isn't being returned. But that's just me.

[Lily Blair]

Understandable--and I definitely answer emails, but at the same time I won't actually set an appointment if I can't talk to you over the phone.

[Mr.Chan]

Originally Posted by randomuser

That shit is wierd unless there ends up being some emergency that makes it understandable. Someone that nutty is hazardous.

Perhaps emergency exist requiring escort be called with same urgency as ambulance, but escape humble imagination. Nature of hobby is that of luxury item, not requirement.
Wise man once say, "it's pu$$y, not heart medication."
Perspective is everything.

[Mr.Chan]

Originally Posted by romou

I was looking for a girl this week and you can find there phonenumbers on different sites, and I still did not call them. It felt like I was stepping over a personal boundary. I prefer the email method, even if its not being returned. No way I'm going to call if a simple email isn't being returned. But that's just me.

If phone number advertised most acceptable to call. Some lady's notoriously bad at answering email. Inbox always full. No pun intended.