BDSM is more of mind control than it is physical.
I personally have experience as being a switch,
though with age and past experience, I have found
that trust and chemistry play a major role in true submission.
I have joined fetlife.com though only participate when I
have real energy for it. I have met many Domes with various
experience levels and each are different to me.
I like for you to get in my head before any level of submission is reached for me.. and not the typical scripted kind.
In other words.. Just to write something kinky, is not what will turn me on.. FYI.
![Munch H4h](https://cdn-w.eccie.net/images/smilies/modern/munch_h4h.gif)
It takes a certain level of communication.
It is a process that I do not believe can be reached with short notice appointments.. so I personally choose to be contacted in advance without any commitment to actual appointment taking place. It is strange for me to advertise something that I can not commit to without previous knowledge of someones experience.
Once I see your hands shake during appointment, I can sense your nervousness and am automatically turned off by the whole ordeal. lol.
I choose to Advertise as Dome.. because reading ones body is what I do for a living. It can include stimulating the mind, pain or no pain , edging , as well as tease and denial.
I do it the way I would like done to me.. though
I always suggest an open form of communication with notice as well, to actually get the experience you are searching for.
To be curious and to know what you want is two different things..
In a nutshell.. with the right dome or sub.. It is the perfect mixture of pleasure and pain as well as total tranquility.
To me it is like an out of body experience and a natural high when done properly.