NCNS

[bluegrana]

My first NCNS yaay lol

I never thought I would write one and I really hate that I am doing this.

So I contacted Dahlia Urban about two weeks ago to set a date for last Monday at 11:30 pm.

On Sunday we confirmed the meeting and the time via text.

On Monday I texted her at 10 PM to make sure that we are still good to meet at 11:30. She said yes and gave me the general area. So she confirmed 90 minutes before the meeting time.

As I was heading out to that area, I sent her a text around 10:55 saying that I am leaving my house and would like to know the location, no response. I sent two more texts 10 and 20 minutes later, no response to either. I drove around for another 15 minutes and then called her, went to VM. So I gave up and went back home.

About an hour after the meeting was supposed to start I get a text from Dahlia "are you still wanting to come over?" I said No. She said sorry she just got checked in. lol

Now I had last minute cancellations before, they suck too but i understand that life happens and emergencies happen too. But at least you know the meeting is canceled or postponed. NCNSs are much worse

It's really a shame that this would happen from a good provider.

But look at the bright side, I don't have to put off buying the PS4 any longer lol

[Dr. Vanity]

Smh. (rubs and hugs) lol

[Urban Dahlia]

I did text this man while I was driving to Wichita telling him (and apologizing) that I was not going to be able to do our 11:30pm appointment on time. I asked if we could move the appointment to a little later. He did not reply to my text. I was not able to text him again until midnight (30 mins after the appt was to begin) to ask him if he still wanted to come over? He said "no". I apologized profusely again, thanked him and told him to have a good night.

In my initial text while driving I explained to him about my family emergency which caused me to leave KC very late. I will never feel guilty about putting my family before the hobby world.

There is not much more that I could have done, but to text him to explain my situation as I did while I was driving to Wichita that our appointment would not be able to start on time. When I don't get a reply saying that is okay, I just assume they have decided to look elsewhere for another provider instead of waiting for me. You would be shocked at how many guys do this to us girls so I take it with a grain of salt, and keep moving forward until I hear back from them.

My family will Always come before any appointment. Maybe, just maybe, he can muster up a smidge of Grace for me allowing himself to forgive me for not being able to see him on our initially scheduled time due to a family emergency that pushed me way back for that day's visits.

I can only apologize so many times to a person before I must surrender to that situation, and simply move on.

[JS42]

So let me get this straight. You had a provider drive to Wichita clear from KC, she was running late and you bailed on her for being an hour late? I can understand the frustration, but man, it's obvious you really wanted to see her and can't understand why you gave up so quick. You're a tough crowd my man..lol.

Not picking sides necessarily, but if I wanted to see someone that bad, and getting a text 30 minutes past the time explaining why she was late, I would of cut her some slack and headed back over to her incall. It also kinda takes away the case of NSNC since she did contact you in a reasonable amount of time. Some providers never give you that respect.

[bluegrana]

That is not the truth. The texts in my OP is what I got from her. I never got a text asking to postpone or cancel the meeting. there was no mention of family or emergencies either.

I think members with PA could be interested in reading her last review in Wichita lol

Yes family always comes first, that's why the time that I can use to hobby is limited.

Dahlia, I don't think this report will affect you, this will be completely forgotten soon coz guys here really like you lol. You are a good provider that's why I really wanted to meet you.
But there is no excuse for not sending me a text to let me know you cannot make it or that you want to postpone. I would have happily waited. There is a also no excuse for not telling the truth.

We both know that what I said is what really happened.

[Urban Dahlia]

Ummm, no it's not lol.

Shit happens. Family First! I got into Wichita late, and others were nice enough to move their appointments back. You didn't even reply to that text to tell me yes or no. Everyone else sent a reply, but you.

Also me texting you again 30 mins after our appointment was to begin to see if you still wanted to come see me was in NO way a NCNS. You know that, and everyone else knows that.

You are just angry that you didn't get what you wanted, and now you are out for blood.

Just admit it, forgive me and move forward.

[bluegrana]

Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia

Ummm, no it's not lol.

Shit happens. Family First! I got into Wichita late, and others were nice enough to move their appointments back. You didn't even reply to that text to tell me yes or no. Everyone else sent a reply, but you.

Also me texting you again 30 mins after our appointment was to begin to see if you still wanted to come see me was in NO way a NCNS. You know that, and everyone else knows that.

You are just angry that you didn't get what you wanted, and now you are out for blood.

Just admit it, forgive me and move forward.

I see a few contradictions now lol. I am not gonna even point them out coz I don't care anymore.

I forgive you Dahlia

I am done here

[Urban Dahlia]

Thank you. I very much appreciate your forgiveness.

- Shalom -