What to do with a lush?

[oden]

How do you handle a high dollar rendezvous with a lady that is obviously in the sauce before you meet? Do you owe her something for showing up or do you just say no thanks. And for the ladies, how do you handle a situation like that.

[pjorourke]

Run into that situation a couple of times. Kind of like walking a high wire -- either a hell of a thrill or very painful.

[discreetgent]

Personally, never happened to me. I would feel that in that scenario I wouldn't owe her anything, however, since she did set aside the time I would probalby leave something anyway.

[atlcomedy]

Although I think you are referring to alcohol*, even worse is the stuff we can't talk about on this forum...

...in either case send them on their way...if giving them a little something for carfare gets rid of them probably not the worst thing in the world

desperate people with addictions will do some bad stuff.

*assume we are talking about wasted...not just had a drink or two at happy hour....it is still non-professional if she has had so much I notice, but not that big of a deal.

[shorty]

I don't mind her having a couple of drinks before I get there. Sometimes the ladies need something to calm there nerves before the date. Just don't want to smell it on her or her speech is slurred. However, I've known some ladies that are hornier when they've been drinking for awhile. So, if its the first time meeting her, then No. I wouldn't go thru with the date because its very unprofessional of her to be drunk before the session started. If I know her and seen her a couple of times, then it might not be as big an issue for me but I would question her before the session began to see if I wanted to continue or not.

Now drugs are a no-no to me. If I suspect her of using, then I'm out the door with no compenstation to her.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by oden

How do you handle a high dollar rendezvous with a lady that is obviously in the sauce before you meet? .

Shit, I usually try and catch up!

[Valerie]

I would never show up inebriated to see a client, but if I were the guy, and was paying good money, I would tell her to leave, and no, I wouldn't compensate her because it's her unprofessional behaviour (showing up hammered) that created the awkward situation...

As far as gents showing up at my flat drunk (it's only happened a few times) and it was in London, I opened the door, took one look at them and told them to go, I would never put myself in danger by letting a drunk male I don't know in the same room as myself...

[Wwanderer]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

Although I think you are referring to alcohol*, even worse is the stuff we can't talk about on this forum...

I once ended up in the room with a P4P partner who was incredibly...and literally...HOT, burning up with fever and barely able to function. Something we can talk about here (I assume) and which was (to me at least) much worse than someone showing up drunk (which I've also seen, of course).

-Ww

[FatBastard]

I let the lady lay down and go to sleep while I sat on the sofa and read, worked or watched TV. I am not gonna throw anyone out in bad shape. Got chewed out once as one the girl expected compensation for the duration spent. Also had another get messed up over dinner and literally threw up in the restaurant. I think she was sick too or had an allergic reaction as well. I just put a bunch of money down on the table and picked her up in a firemans hold and carried her out quietly....if there can be such a thing. I guess I am different...if they are with me, they are my responsibility and I will take care of them until they are lucid.

[discreetgent]

Getting sick is different. I have had that happen a couple of times - fever, flu. Made tea, sat with them, with no question of asking for the donation back.

[ClairJordan]

Wow, these are tricky situations for everybody. Seems some of you gents have been placed in very ackward situations and behaved quite graciously. Thank you for that.

This is a weird world we live in, almost like a parallel dimension. Alcohol does help me ease the nerves; I most def indulge in a couple glasses of wine during a date but it's each persons responsbility to know their limits and maintain, out of respect for all parties, including themselves. Sometimes, tho, drunk happens. Then, to me, it would be completely acceptable for a guy to take a pass.

Getting sick is just no fun at all!! I can't believe she wouldn't give a heads up. I don't want anyone around me when I am sick. I believe we, as companions, have an obligation to offer you our very best selves. As much of a bummer as it would be to sit in a hotel room sick, I would cancel.

I was just in this exact situation. I was in Philly 2 weeks ago and came down with a bad head cold.
I had a dinner date with a regular and he was very cool about it.
Then I went to NYC for two days, but I cancelled my appointments because we hadn't met before and I just didn't want to engage when I wasn't at my best.

It's February in the Northeast. This stuff happens. But again, thanks for looking after us. You know we need it!

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

Personally, never happened to me. I would feel that in that scenario I wouldn't owe her anything, however, since she did set aside the time I would probalby leave something anyway.

What a gentleman.

Originally Posted by Valerie

I would never show up inebriated to see a client, but if I were the guy, and was paying good money, I would tell her to leave, and no, I wouldn't compensate her because it's her unprofessional behaviour (showing up hammered) that created the awkward situation...

As far as gents showing up at my flat drunk (it's only happened a few times) and it was in London, I opened the door, took one look at them and told them to go, I would never put myself in danger by letting a drunk male I don't know in the same room as myself...

Ditto. If a guy is paying to be with me why not be professional and show him some respect? Well said Val.

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

Alcohol does help me ease the nerves; I most def indulge in a couple glasses of wine during a date but it's each persons responsbility to know their limits and maintain, out of respect for all parties, including themselves. Sometimes, tho, drunk happens. Then, to me, it would be completely acceptable for a guy to take a pass.

I abstain from alcohol for about 24 hours prior to a date and don't resume until after the date. At my age, it affects performance, and don't want to pay for time when junior is impaired.

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

Getting sick is just no fun at all!! I can't believe she wouldn't give a heads up. I don't want anyone around me when I am sick. I believe we, as companions, have an obligation to offer you our very best selves. As much of a bummer as it would be to sit in a hotel room sick, I would cancel.

This was the subject of a thread not long ago (the search button is your friend). As I recall, the consensus of people in that thread was that if either party is sick, the date should be canceled.

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

Getting sick is just no fun at all!! I can't believe she wouldn't give a heads up. I don't want anyone around me when I am sick. I believe we, as companions, have an obligation to offer you our very best selves. As much of a bummer as it would be to sit in a hotel room sick, I would cancel.

it!

Why? I'll suggest a combination of: needing the $, not wanting to dissapoint the other party & not wanting to get a reputation as being flaky.

I've run into a sicko once. Was more than kind of awkward. She had a nasty cough and runny nose but told me she was fine. It wasn't a real good time....

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

I've run into a sicko once. Was more than kind of awkward. She had a nasty cough and runny nose but told me she was fine. It wasn't a real good time....

...eww!