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ThaAries · 11-26-2017, 11:58 PM

Single male here, curious about MFM experiences. I have always wanted to try this out in the real world, an I was looking for some insight from those that have already experienced this. What should I be aware of? Questions I should be asking?, etc. Thanks in advance people

Mature210 · 11-27-2017, 06:04 AM

You need to make sure that everyone is looking for the same thing in the encounter, they can range from vanilla, to extremely kinky.

You also need to know the sexuality of the other male. Some men like to make it all about pleasing the woman (two mouths, two cocks, four hands, etc). Some men are bisexual and want the cock, just as much as the pussy. MFM (as opposed to MMF), generally refers to two men pleasing a woman, with no male to male sex, though incidental contact does happen. MMF is anything goes, no holes barred.

Yes, I've had some MFM experiences, and will most likely have more.

Mature210 · 11-27-2017, 06:04 AM

You need to make sure that everyone is looking for the same thing in the encounter, they can range from vanilla, to extremely kinky.

You also need to know the sexuality of the other male. Some men like to make it all about pleasing the woman (two mouths, two cocks, four hands, etc). Some men are bisexual and want the cock, just as much as the pussy. MFM (as opposed to MMF), generally refers to two men pleasing a woman, with no male to male sex, though incidental contact does happen. MMF is anything goes, no holes barred.

Yes, I've had some MFM experiences, and will most likely have more.

John4229 · 11-27-2017, 06:30 AM

It’s going to be weird and awkward – but it’s worth doing if only to check it off your to-do list. A few bits of advice:

Embrace the weird. It’s just going to feel strange and wrong trying to get off with another guy in the room. If you do DP, you’re going to be rubbing balls. Even if you can avoid genital contact, there will be incidental contact between you and the other dude. Accept it’s going to happen and try not to freak out when it does.

Pair up with a stranger. You’ll probably get the opposite advice – to pair up with a friend you know well and it will be a “bonding experience.” In my experience it’s quite the opposite. You’re going to have trouble looking each other in they eye afterward. It may be the end of your friendship, or one of those things you never talk about afterward. It’s better if it’s someone you won’t see again in your daily life.

Plan a routine. While I generally prefer to go with the flow of things, in any multiple-participant situation there needs to be a plan – you’ll deviate from it, but should have a script to fall back on when there’s an awkward pause and nobody knows what to do. That will happen a lot. In FFM sessions, the providers generally run the show – but MMF means the lady will be busy doing and won’t spend much time directing, or if she does it makes for a choppy and awkward experience.

Find someone experienced with MMF and enthusiastic about it. I’ve never done it in the hobby, but in non-hobby situations my best (least awkward) MMF were with a woman who had experience and was into it, rather than someone who’d never done it before and felt weird about it – just another confused and bewildered individual trying to sort it out on the fly.

And to end where I began, no matter how much you try to plan and orchestrate, it’s going to be weird and awkward – expect it and accept it. It will be a “life experience,” maybe not as great as you hope for, but an experience nonetheless – worth doing for the sake of having done it.

ThaAries · 11-27-2017, 07:25 AM

Thank you guys for the advice so far there's a few things you brought up that I hadn't fully considered yet. I've been offered a real world experience recently, but our schedules haven't lined up to move forward yet.

Mature210 · 11-27-2017, 07:58 AM

I've had only one hobby related threesome. Real world ones are generally much better.

ck1942 · 11-27-2017, 08:19 AM

Might even explore the "swinging" scene, including a swingers' club possibility.

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DallasRain · 11-27-2017, 09:12 AM

I have several mfm reviews here...they key is comfort level
I have a guy available for these..and usually prefer to do with clients I have met before..that makes it more comfortable..but if it happens to be a new client then upfront discussions about needs,desires and expectations is essential.

Willen · 11-27-2017, 10:06 AM

ThaAries,

Based on my personal experience, you've gotten really good advice here. The only thing I'd add is that these are difficult to set up even in cases in which the two guys only focus on the lady. Lots of guys seem to back off when confronted with the prospect of incidental contact.

ThaAries · 11-27-2017, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ck1942

Might even explore the "swinging" scene, including a swingers' club possibility.

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The swingers scene does seem very enticing! I will look into it more and try to attend some socials

ThaAries · 11-27-2017, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Willen

ThaAries,

Based on my personal experience, you've gotten really good advice here. The only thing I'd add is that these are difficult to set up even in cases in which the two guys only focus on the lady. Lots of guys seem to back off when confronted with the prospect of incidental contact.

This is very true, and sometimes it's just hard to get commitment at all.

ThaAries · 11-27-2017, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

I have several mfm reviews here...they key is comfort level
I have a guy available for these..and usually prefer to do with clients I have met before..that makes it more comfortable..but if it happens to be a new client then upfront discussions about needs,desires and expectations is essential.

I think upfront discussions for first timers is key in anything new tried. There has to be some level a reassurance so that its fun and keeps you wanting more. Also we need to play at some point, but I keep missing out on opportunities due to a hectic work schedule. I will keep an eye out for you though

Dr Grey · 11-28-2017, 12:25 AM

I've attempted two mfm in rw instances. Just heat of the moment asked a girl if she'd bang me and a friend i was with. Girls hanging out that I just met. Couple of them over the years thought it'd be hot, and asked if i was serious or into that. So once she was committed, the person I knew was down once I told them. Can't say I've ever planned for it in rw in advanced, just seemed awkward to me. Personally, I'd overthink it. Sure, there was a time one girl thought it was gross, and a couple who said maybe and ended up one on one, but never know until you ask. If the situation arises, go for it. My friendships haven't ended. We laugh and say, damn dude, remember when we banged that chick? Yep, just don't be weird about it and it's all good.

Threesome with two girls has been much harder to come by. Have usually had to schedule those here.

ThaAries · 12-20-2017, 09:48 PM

Very insightful, and I apologize for getting back to you so late. Downside of taking a break from hobbying, no premium benefits...

Anyways, I'm very much down to experience this, and will try my hand at both RW and in the hobby.

Thanks all for the tips and also for the invites I look forward to the fun times and memories!

mitch p · 12-20-2017, 10:08 PM

I personally had a mfm in the recent past. It's like watching a porn but instead of jerking off you get a real bbbj and all the other good stuff from the provider. Do a two hour and spend a little time to get acquainted first. I would do it again with a provider I feel comfortable with. I would like to have a mfmf in the near future, I have a provider I want to set that up with soon. Anyone interested?