3sum help w/ my XSO, ya'll!

[SuthrnSam]

so. after a disastrous r'ship, I dated a HS friend for a couple months.

before we even got together, I said I'd be down for a 3 some, it's been YEARS since I've done it. He even countered with, "you do her, we can get another guy for you". He ain't bi by any means. He's freaky, and so am I(we hicks like some crazy stuff !)...anyhow...now, we ain't together anymore, BUT we're exclusively physical(in personal life, for me). At any rate, last couple of days, we been retalking the 3 some thing. Well, I'm still down for the girl thing. But I guess because I have some feelings for him, I'm not into another guy.

He says it don't bother him, and even though there is talk WAAAY LATER of us maybe getting back together, it is something we BOTH agreed on.

I asked straight out, does just the idea of watching another guy pound me turn him on? He just sent me a , but wouldn't answer directly.

now, he ain't endowed by any means. but OMgoodness, the man can lay it down. because of the small endowment, I guess I'm worried that if I get a little more into the other guy, he'll be offended. And he's not into other guys, so it's not like he could really enjoy it, ya know? As with another girl, I could get into it, and we both enjoy it.

What do ya'll think?? yeah, last place I should be asking. But our friends are on 2 sides of the fence. either hell NAW, it ain't in them to do this, or hell yeah, and I should just do it. and it ain't like I can just get on facebook and be like "hey ya'll, me and X wanna get dicked down with another couple, what ya'll think?" bahahaha!!!

[alexandriajuly]

I think you should hire another provider to be your partner so there is no drama later. I have done it that way and it was great. We walked out of the hotel after it was over both smiling and happy with no worries of someone interfearin our The great thing about girls like us is we cumm and then we go...no strings attached. I have had 3somes in my RL relaionships and WOW they can be fun but the trouble comes when u have a 3some with your RL friends (or so u thought they were) I say go for it if it is something u both really want to do. We all know sex with no feelings attached is possible, fun & exciting.

[tracer]

Read Penthouse these days or any of the erotic stories sites on the web and tell me if you don't notice something most of them have in common. Most of them have more stories about guys getting hot watching their girl with another guy than any other theme. He is probably looking forward to that more than he is comfortable admitting. In most aspects of my life I am such a Type A personality that admitting that to an SO or anyone else in my real life would be very hard to do. My point is that maybe you shouldn't be too quick to judge what you think he would/would not 'get something out of' based on your preconceived notions. He might just be kinkier than you are giving him credit for!!

[Guest071514-1]

I would say do it with a complete stranger. Someone you won't see again. At least if he gets mad he will know you won't be seeing that person again. And he will get over it

[pyramider]

Does he know you are a provider? If he does why would he be concerned about another's package?

[txswing99]

Amber...

Its best to understand your friend's MMF 3some fantasy as simple voyourism...basically, he wants to see u get f*cked and then join in. Its like watching porn in 3D with the participant being someone you know.

I encountered my first couple whose hubby liked to watch during my college days. I met a female professor at a hotel bar, we hit it off, and went back to her place. She was in full deep BJ on her couch when i noticed some movement in the corner of my eye.; her hubby hiding in a dark corridor watching us. Well a confrontation ensued and he convinced me it was all right by hime and simply wanted to watch. So i had him sit on the chair facing the sofa. I was a little bit pissed, so i went into full grudge f*ck mode and pretty much did it all with his wife. I got rather frequent invites back after that.

i had a GF who asked me to videotape me banging her friends on a table and then rating me at the end...that was fun. We did about 7 of those.

My recommendation is that if he wants another guy to participate, he should round up the other guy -- with your final approval.

As for bringing in another girl, hiring another provider is a great place to start. I've had girlfriends that pick up girls while we're out on a date -- surprisingly easy -- so at that point the expectations are fairly clear if they go home with us.

Enjoy..

-T

[Darkerside]

Amber,

I play with couples where the men are like yours in that there is no MM play. It all focuses on pleasing the female.

There are many men that like to watch their partner being pleased and used by other men. Even if you "get into" the other guy, he may enjoy this even more. There are also men with smaller endowment that like to see their women take on larger men.

I agree, find a stranger. Just make sure that they are respectful of you as a couple.