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daltxm4f · 06-10-2010, 09:07 AM

I have a friend that is a girl who loves everything about her boyfriend except he will not go down on her. She was really upset about it talking to me yesterday. She does it for him all the time. I know she was probably trying to get the male perspective but since I love to do it I probably was not much help. I was going to suggest maybe counseling or sex therapist. Does anyone know of a good sex therapist?

Hobbyfun · 06-10-2010, 09:55 AM

I will be a therpist if she is hot. I love going down for some DATY

Lana Warren · 06-10-2010, 10:37 AM

I hate to say this but, I'm not for sure sex therapy would help! If he loved her like he should, there shouldn't be a problem of him going down on her! I would almost bet that there are other issues going on with him!

daltxm4f · 06-10-2010, 10:50 AM

Yeah she was really upset. She was was going on about how she has never had a yeast infection, great personal hygiene, etc. I was trying to tell her it doesn't sound like a problem with her. I suggested maybe try when going down on him to move herself to the side more towards his head and he will maybe get the hint. I don't know.

txcwby6 · 06-10-2010, 10:50 AM

Sounds like he needs therapy and her some DATY.

WarlockAahz · 06-10-2010, 10:58 AM

I'd have to go with Lana on this. You desire all sorts of things about the one you love that you might not even like on others. And what wouldn't you do to please the one you love?

Jasser · 06-10-2010, 11:00 AM

Maybe things are rotten in Denmark? No offense to your friend, she may be clean as a whistle, but I've met a couple ladies in my time that I know were clean individuals, but just weren't fresh down there.

On the other hand, some guys just find that disgusting. I have a buddy that refuses to DATY, regardless of who it is. When Santa Fe Cabaret was still open, we were having a beer and this subject came up. I asked him why he was against it and he said "dude, blood flows from there monthly for one. Also, some women wear a pad so all that shit is just marinating until it's swtiched. Are those enough reasons"?

I guess some think about these things, but I don't. I love DATY, but WALDT.

Lust4xxxLife · 06-10-2010, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Jasser

Maybe things are rotten in Denmark? No offense to your friend, she may be clean as a whistle, but I've met a couple ladies in my time that I know were clean individuals, but just weren't fresh down there.
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Good point. I had a few encounters with a friend who paid great attention to personal hygiene but for some reason was uniquely 'ripe' down there. I figured it was just due to unique body chemistry because it wasn't an issue until she got turned on.

Like a lot of guys here, I love, love, love DATY. But having said that, I'm not one of those who misses the days of a face full of pubic hair, and that would just about ruin the experience for me, so maybe that's it. Who knows.

We're all just speculating here, but there is one important bottom line: these two people don't seem to be communicating effectively, otherwise she would know more about what's behind him not wanting to dine at the Y. That is problem numero uno to get fixed, IMHO.

Sawyer · 06-10-2010, 11:16 AM

He may feel about DATY the way I feel about DATO. No matter how clean you get it I just can't forget what comes out of there. I do DATY not because I enjoy, but because my partner enjoys it. So with most providers I don't bother because I know they most likely aren't into it (illusion of passion) and It's all about me for that one hour anyway. This dude must have had a nasty experience at some point and decided never again. The relationship is destined for her to go out and get licked by some guy in the very near future. If you are a friend of his ask him how likely he'll go out and get a BJ from someone else if his GF stops performing that service for him?

WiLsOn · 06-10-2010, 11:19 AM

"Friends don't let friends go without daty!

daltxm4f · 06-10-2010, 11:54 AM

We have beens friends for years. She has a very cool personality, but we never got together because we just never clicked that way. I have seen her naked and she does shave down there so I don't think that is the issue. Maybe the guy just had a bad experience or whatever. I have talked with the guy but don't know him well enough to start a conversation about it and I don't think she would want me to divulge her conversation she had with me.

Gonzo DFW · 06-10-2010, 11:56 AM

I'm with hobbyfun, sign me up! I think the basic problem is the chick needs a man, and Gonzo stands ready...well, you know how it goes.

ElisabethWhispers · 06-10-2010, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by daltxm4f

We have beens friends for years. She has a very cool personality, but we never got together because we just never clicked that way. I have seen her naked and she does shave down there so I don't think that is the issue. Maybe the guy just had a bad experience or whatever. I have talked with the guy but don't know him well enough to start a conversation about it and I don't think she would want me to divulge her conversation she had with me.

I wouldn't do this while working, but if it was a dating situation, what's good for the goose is good for the ... you know. And if he didn't do something that was important to me, then I would address it in a more firm manner.

The last time I dated, which has been a very long time ago, the guy was really young. And he had this "thing" about kissing after I worshiped his penis and went down on him. Even without orgasm, he wouldn't kiss me.

We really liked each other but I told him that if he wouldn't kiss me, I would stop doing what I was doing. Period. Interesting. He started to kiss me afterwards. He was brave. He didn't DIE. He practiced.

Then, as soon as he started to kiss me after the full blown experience, my work was done. We broke it off. But it's my sincere hope that some of my TRAINING with this sweet man benefited the next woman that he dated.

Personally, I would tell your friend to break up with him. And when he asked tearfully "why", tell him. But I have little patience with a man's crap on a social level, which probably explains why I don't date.

She sounds nice and sweet. She deserves better. And if she is worried about smelling "ripe" or musky (which some men love, btw), tell her to use repHresh. It's excellent and when she starts to use it, she will have no scent at all. http://www.rephresh.com/Main/Default.aspx

Elisabeth (the dear fucking Abby of escorting)

P.S. I'm being moody this week. Can you tell?

Fiero · 06-10-2010, 07:28 PM

Has she asked him why he won't? Trying to non-verbally work through a sexual incompatibility is a real intimacy train wreck. I may have learned that the hard way.

Guest062124 · 06-10-2010, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

And if she is worried about smelling "ripe" or musky (which some men love, btw), tell her to use repHresh. It's excellent and when she starts to use it, she will have no scent at all. http://www.rephresh.com/Main/Default.aspx

Great stuff!

People that are closed minded just aren't fun in bed. I am moody too, Elisabeth!