How to communicate a fetish or fantasy to a provider ahead of time...

[MichaelClayton]

This is something that's going around in my mind constantly. I am pretty new, but it is exciting to think I could have some fantasies and fetishes come to life with a provider.

BUT, the closer I get to it the more I don't know how to make it work...

What I'm looking for could be considered relatively easy to do or fairly elaborate I suppose - I do not know what would be harder for a provider - to have a session with a man who wants to do every thing in the book - or to dress a certain way and pretend to be a withholding secretary from the office!

Is having a provider dress in a very specific way and do light role playing something you must develop over time? Or can you just ask and have it happen if you know the right one or how to communicate it?

Also, some providers on my short list (I have a fetish for a certain look too) are with agencies so I'm not even sure if you are able to contact them ahead of time without going through an intermediary.

Thanks for any help. I'd like to hear from providers what it's like from their side - in my mind it seems you are probably busy enough that when you get a guy wanting a lot of specific things you probably think great it's one of those pain in the ass guys again - can't he just show up and do his best porn star imtation like all the other guys? (this is what most reviews I read sound like the guy wants about 95% of the time).

And from guys who may have a similar fetish - (to be more specific, I have a thing for a skinny, smart looking, sexy co-worker with stockings, skirt, button up blouse, heels, hair up, glasses, etc. And alternate fantasies of women with chearleader outfits or catholic school girl uniforms. Lately I've had a tight fuzzy sweater/cardigan fetish that really turns me on.

Sometimes the fantasy is having to to their house to pick something up left from a work lunch, and then having a glass of wine, and then things getting out control. And with the schoolgirl stuff - I'd love to pretend I was younger and have the experience of 'teen age love' like where neither of you knows exactly what they are doing and there is a lot of heavy petting, over the clothes touching, groping, maybe some good old dry humping even To do it in the back seat would be phenomenal!

Anyways - yes - if you have had luck with this sort of thing, it would be great if you were to post or PM me tips or tricks to make this sort of thing a reality.

Or if I'm barking up the wrong tree, and I need to go some other route I welcome the feedback also!

Thanks
MC

[Ms. Athena]

I always ask if there is any preference for outfits and toys. And yes if its a kink session, then I prefer they give me as much information and details as they can on their fantasy/fetish. The better prepared and geared up I am, the better I can make that fantasy cum true. It is about the Mind Fuck for me, so yes the better I know the client and can read them, then the better we will play together...........Pleasure is our goal....

[Eccie Addict]

P411 makes it easy to communnicate what you like with their profile feature....

[JacobJ]

Originally Posted by MichaelClayton

I have a thing for a skinny, smart looking, sexy co-worker with stockings, skirt, button up blouse, heels, hair up, glasses, etc.

This is right up my alley. When you find a girl in Austin that does this well, let me know.


I have a fantasy that I want to try that is a little unusual (nothing extreme at all), but I'm waiting until I get settled with a "regular" provider before I ask, since it involves her letting her guard down a bit.

[sweet4fun2003]

Sounds like fun!

I think that when a provider puts anything "Fetish" related in their showcase you should be able to just ask them point blank if they are into roleplay etc.. that is, if they havn't already asked you that in the first email or two. If they do not have anything about fetish on the showcase maybe just a "hey! do you do any requests by chance?" I think some providers may charge more for that. But never hurts to ask... Just don't wait til 30 min before your set appt time to make the request. Good luck!

- Anjel

[MichaelClayton]

Thanks for the replies all, yeah p411 might be the way to go, I'm sure providers on my list are on there and perhaps I could contact them directly before.

Jacob, sure, I'll PM you and we can stay in touch about any success in this quest

I have a related question - if you wanted to buy clothes for a provider - I wonder how to give them to them before the first session? (assuming they were cool with doing this.).

[Addison Blake]

I agree with the other ladies.. I love fetish sessions but most men either don't or are afraid to ask. I love when a client asks me prior to meeting and explains what he is into so that I can try my best to do the things you like.

I have had a couple of clients buy me clothing before we met but brought them to the session and gave them to me at the beginning of the session for me to wear. I don't think I would want to meet to get them before hand but I live about 30 minutes from my incall and at least 30-40 minutes from where most clients would probably want to meet so it would take a bit of time out of my day just to meet someone for that. Other ladies may have a different opinion about this.. You can always ask the particular lady what she thinks about it.

[JacobJ]

I haven't done this, but seems like meeting for coffee a few days out would be good. Have the goodies wrapped (discreetly).

Also might want to consider a gift card to your favorite brick and mortar (Victoria's Secret, etc.) or online shop (Lover's Lane or similar); that way she can be sure it fits well. The great thing about buying yourself though is you can make sure it is what you want--and you can ogle the sales girl

Now I've gone and gotten myself worked up. Have to schedule soon.

[Krunkman]

The best way to do it is once you find a provider you think you might click with, send them a short, polite email generally outlining the things you are interested in. Be sure to be circumspect about some activities, as anything that may be incriminating generally gets deleted and they will not communicate with you in the future because of risk.

If you have certain outfits, or whatever, there's no harm in making a request. they may, or may not, be able to fulfill your request. If it's super important to you (like they be dressed as a secretary) then make sure you emphasize the most important, and leave the rest as 'really like'.

If you can, maybe right a very short story, no more than a page (be respectful of their time) that outlines the highlights of your fantasy. If they respond and you are able to set up a date, at that time its okay to be a little more specific about your fantasy. Be sure to ask them how creative they like to be during a session. Some will get insulted if you try to direct it down to the last detail, others will welcome it. Find out early how much they like either path.

Then show up clean and ready to play (if you want certain activities on the menu, make sure you clean yourself inside and out). If you guys click then you know you found someone you can return to in the future for more enjoyable playtimes.

[MichaelClayton]

Thanks again, very insightful information.

Jacob - yeah I thought having a quick meet up before hand to hand off a package would be great, but I imagine providers who work by the hour might be wary of a 'free' meet up. I know when I worked hourly I didn't want to stop for lunch sometimes - just human behavior/economics I suppose. Not that they are working all day, but still going to meet a client is more like work than it is play I'm sure.

But, I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

Addison thanks for your input - that is kind of what I figure that if it takes any time out of your day, you probably wouldn't want to do it.

Krunkman, good stuff, thanks. Along with the story - I wonder how providers feel about videos or pictures. I have a collection of some pics and links to videos of 'naughty office' and such are available online. Is the OK to send in an email?

A funny thing is that while the fantasy may seem elaborate, I think the actual session would be less "work" than what most guys want. Not interested in PSE, more like a real life experience.

[Guest032514-1]

Luvs ya Krunk, but I'm gonna disagree(ish).

My (short) experience in TX has been quite an eye-opener. Esp RE screening. Just dayum. Or maybe the "she screens ultra hard" really is true? Whatever the case, any unsolicited "activities required" type of list - no matter how generic - gets a delete from me. Any type of "Do you...?" out of the blue = delete. May be harsh, but well dont expect me to apologize for my ways. They work really well for me.

AFTER I have screened you, I will inquire @ any particular requests. That's the time for you to speak up. To send before I ask just screams idiot or LE to me.

If fetish or roleplay is something a lady is into, she'll put that info out there. Get screened then ask. That's my opinion (and we know @ those right?).

[Krunkman]

Everybody has their own screening method's Babee. I agree with ya... do what works best for YOU, not what works best for everyone else. After all, it ain't their ass on the line if da shit hits da fan!!!

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by babee

Luvs ya Krunk, but I'm gonna disagree(ish).

My (short) experience in TX has been quite an eye-opener. Esp RE screening. Just dayum. Or maybe the "she screens ultra hard" really is true? Whatever the case, any unsolicited "activities required" type of list - no matter how generic - gets a delete from me. Any type of "Do you...?" out of the blue = delete. May be harsh, but well dont expect me to apologize for my ways. They work really well for me.

AFTER I have screened you, I will inquire @ any particular requests. That's the time for you to speak up. To send before I ask just screams idiot or LE to me.

If fetish or roleplay is something a lady is into, she'll put that info out there. Get screened then ask. That's my opinion (and we know @ those right?).

You are quite right as always Babee. I never refer to anything until after I have been screened and approved. Even then it is tricky. Never, ever, ever, and I repeat, EVER talk about money. You either accept the rate or you don't.

As far as activities are concerned: use the method of communication the provider approves. Some don't care; others are very particular, so find out which it is. Then be blunt, be very blunt about what you want. You may be disappointed if you kind of "infer" what you want because you're too shy to say it up front, and she doesn't get the hint. And you may have to purchase some items if she doesn't have them in stock.

And you are right about "opinion" too, Babee. This is my $.02.

[Doc_rob]

I agree, there are many so called PSE types out there that are a bit misleading. The ones that attract my attention have something like "Open Minded" or "Fetish Friendly" in thier profile. That usually means the door is open and time to start asking questions about her fetish options and menu. I enjoy, greek & light BDSM, toys, some bondage, and watching porn together. If they do too, then we will probably "click".

[larry696]

would asking for a snowball be considered a fetish or something to ask about before booking an appt? some ladies do not want to discuss specifics over the phone or in emails