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MissLady35 · 06-24-2015, 09:36 PM

I haven't really taken many appointments lately for good reason..... i am confused as in why some read the ROS on a provider an believe that the provider has to be the the same with all..... i have established relationship with my regs an each experience is different. .... Am i wrong for this ?? An when I deny a service... especially when I have never offered that service and a client keeps on trying to do it during the session... is it my right to terminate the appointment? Like I have stated many times I am fairly new to the hobby an still learning! So I am asking cause I definitely do not want a bad name bit at the sametime i kinda feel violated when this happens!
Thanks Raven

gbs13 · 06-24-2015, 10:05 PM

I'm sorry you had that experience. It is your right to deny a service, especially if you're not comfortable with performing it or it just isn't on the menu. Maybe establishing in some manner could help? And have established a rep with regs I'd think in that case (YMMV) would come into play. Regardless the individual is a dbag to not respect that. I wouldn't think that would give you a bad rep at all. If anything that individual could get a bad rep, which would limiting their hobbying. In my opinion at least. I hope you have better luck and have fun

Cheers

ChantalStoneNYC · 06-24-2015, 10:05 PM

Y'know, I was actually thinking about this earlier today. It's why I have a problem with the term YMMV. Duh. Of course it will. If you've built a relationship with certain clients that allows you to be freer in terms of service, then every Tom, Dick and Harry shouldn't expect their experience to be the same. You may not feel comfortable doing certain things with certain people, point blank period. Especially if a guy is pushy and doesn't respect your boundaries.

You're not wrong for denying a service, eff that! It's YOUR body, YOUR rules. In my humblest of opinions, you should terminate an appointment if you feel uncomfortable.

How can you be expected to provide a quality, desirable experience if the whole time you're thinking, "God, I don't want to be here right now." That, in and of itself will lead to poor reviews. So you may as well save yourself the headache. Don't let anyone try to take advantage of your newness, or you as a person and what you have to offer.

MissLady35 · 06-24-2015, 10:28 PM

Thanks for the advice an some good advice.... i like to please an enjoy myself but at the same time there has to be respect! If they request a certain service before the appointment i always make it clear if I offer or agree to it. Just some want to bring things up in the middle of the appointment or just try to do things an when I have said no or stop them in action them seem not to get the point! Anyways this had made me feel better to get this off my mind!

tintuf · 06-24-2015, 10:59 PM

Sorry that sucks! I tell you I'm a big guy, not crazy big but mid six feet and 3 bills? And I always ask the lady before we start if she's okay with all my manness! Lol.

MissLady35 · 06-24-2015, 11:08 PM

That's how it should be or so I thought. ...

Cpalmson · 06-25-2015, 05:39 PM

That is why we have the term YMMV. Experiences are different with each provider and client. Misslady35 has the right to do somethings with certain clients while refusing to do it with other clients. Some guys just want to get their rocks off and push limits without even trying to know the lady. Those are bad clients. I always ask a lady what she will and won't do. It is a courtesy. I also communicate with the lady ahead of time and read her reviews and what she has posted. If one does this, there should be no surprises. Misslady35 is pretty clear in what she expects. Show up showered, clean, non-stinky breath, etc and guess what? More maybe available. Show up in a drunken stupor and smelling like a fish market, and it will be a very perfunctory session. This isn't rocket science. Rule #1, treat a session like a real date. Would you want to go on a date with your dream girl while smelling like the inside of an NFL player's jock? Probably not.

Enchanterlingum · 06-25-2015, 07:59 PM

My advice would is to be as nice as you feel is necessary about correcting problem behavior, and do it just once. If they persist in being a douche bag, just end the session. This is exactly how I would expect to be treated, and I believe it is completely reasonable. So I am not holding anyone to a standard that I wouldn't be held to.

It is not worth compromising your safety or comfort over what someone "might" say later. I would say your reputation is fine, and dickheads tend to out themselves quite readily. If there is any fallout to deal with later, a calm, reasoned, and dispassionate explanation of the situation will probably suffice should it ever even come to that. People see what they want to see, and if you keep your head, you won't have anything to worry about.