Retiring providers

[Guest030824]

I have found several ladies that I have had outstanding times with are no longer providing. One of my favorites got married and some others just disappeared.

[yitzchak]

We all know that!!!

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by tucson

I have found several ladies that I have had outstanding times with are no longer providing. One of my favorites got married and some others just disappeared.

Life goes on. I am always glad for them when they can leave on their own terms.

I have had a few I knew for a long time just just disappear, and i often worry about what happened to them. I also have a few I have stayed in touch with for years afterwards.

Originally Posted by yitzchak

We all know that!!!

Wow. With your great and oft told lack of experience I am shocked you would know that.

[FLReWrite]

Originally Posted by Old-T

... I also have a few I have stayed in touch with for years afterwards.
...

As have I. Good post. Generally speaking, those who just disappear without fanfare, if they do come back, seem to have an easier time reintegrating. But over the years, those who make the big, bombastic retirement announcements seem to always reemerge to face a storm of skepticism.

[ck1942]

Inexperienced trolls aside, the normal RL cycle continues.

Just as many people in the "normal" economy cycle into new careers and life patterns (marriage, divorce, children, death) the "hobby cycle" is more or less the same.

Perhaps the "major" difference between hobby and normal might be age factors.... provider concentrations of younger than normal age distribution and somewhat older in the hobbyist age distribution.

Over the decades I have known many a hobbyist and provider to cycle on, retire, un-retire, disappear, and "end of life cycle" too, due to age, disease, accident, and other causes.

But, life goes on!

Still seeking more gingers to add to my "portfolio," too.

[squashhead]

When they retire and you keep in touch with them, do they then become Friends with Benefits?

[yitzchak]

Originally Posted by Old-T

Wow. With your great and oft told lack of experience I am shocked you would know that.

He talks about it a lot. I think he loves them. I love one, but she would never treat me like she would him.

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by squashhead

When they retire and you keep in touch with them, do they then become Friends with Benefits?

Some yes, most no.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Very rare.
Need to have the "connection" thing that actually servived the various classic perspective issues from when she was hooking.

[Guest030824]

No I figure they have a reason for leaving the hobby and I will honor there wishes. The one that got married was a sweet lady and I hope she has a wonderful life. If one were to contact me I would not question her about her choice.

[yitzchak]

May I ask, how do these ladies find love and get married? I'm sure most clients wouldn't mind dating an escort, but if they do not date clients, how do they find someone who is okay with their profession? Do they lie about it? I know that a lot of these girls are so hot that they can find a hot guy to date no matter what, but I suspect that it would be harder for them to find a quality man, in terms of being genuine, faithful, loving, intelligent and positive role model for their children.

[Old-T]

Most guys are willing to date one, but not marry one. Their double standard gets in the way.

I suspect they meet guys at any of numerous places, just like any other women. They don't go into hibernation when not seeing a client.

I suspect mist stop working here when they marry.

Finding a quality guy us not unique to the ladies here. It is a universal problem for women. Many are in this business precisely because a guy got them pregnant and then dumped them.

[Guest030824]

These girls do have private lives out side the hobby. I can think of three that would not have a problem finding a husband. She sure won't tell him she was an escort but can you imagine his surprise when she winds him up and blows his mind. If I was much younger and had the money there are two that I would want for SBs.

[FLReWrite]

Originally Posted by tucson

... I can think of three that would not have a problem finding a husband. ...

Agreed. They were goal-oriented (and that proven over several years), pretty quiet and humble and very real. And curiously, damn fireballs in bed.

[gentlemantoo]

From what I have seen, it is difficult to retire as the money is plentiful and easy. Many have gone and come back, where else do you get $5000 in a weekend? Most successful family businesses do not have profits of that magnitude. It is a life style that is most undesirable and most women feel forced into this line of work from desperation. Another poster alluded to this fact.

I do not think most men would date one I think most men would fuck one, but not look for a serious relationship. Not due to a double standard but because sex workers generally, not all, but most have problems with intimacy, bonding, and being connected. Most people both men and women want a monogamous partner difficult to trust a prostitute as we all know prostitution is built on deception. How does one trust a woman willing to sleep with married men knowing these men are betraying their wives, lying to them for sex. Providers are not known for their integrity, hard to trust one as it is hard to trust johns too.

Read a book, research an article or two, read some studies, we all might learn something about each other and ourselves, instead of each of us thinking we know it all and spewing out words as if they were verifiable facts. No double standard, not most men date.

If we reverse it most women would not date a man that pays for sex either, no trust, no honor.

I am glad for those that can leave the life style and live happy lives, the ones that just disappear may do so to get as far away from this life as possible because it was misery for her.