Unfortunately, this is one of the risks of being an escort and a story I've heard one too many times. Even when we put our best "Spidey Senses" to work and use our intuition to feel out our patrons during our time together, almost anyone can put on a "good act" to make a positive impression.
This is all common sense and I know the ladies here do a good job at screening and protecting themselves but as a reminder, there are additional little things to keep in mind to protect yourselves. ****I just composed a list here and deleted it fearing that a potential wackadoo stalker will take notes and find ways to work around them. Ladies, DM or email me if you would like those additional reminders.
We as sex workers are vulnerable to stalkers who realize that many of us keep this part of our lives a secret to friends and family. A number of us also have "day jobs," children, leadership positions etc... A predator will keep all of this in mind and use it against us if s/he is triggered to do so for whatever reason (as Naomi mentioned, she was blackmailed.)
Keep in mind the same goes for the gentlemen. I'm sure we've all heard stories about gents who have been outed by escorts or blackmailed etc...
Even just being a single person in the dating world carries dangers of attracting a stalker. How do you know the person you're meeting from a matchmaking site is really who s/he says s/he is?
Bottom line is I have a feeling that most of us have a stalker story to share from some point in our lives. The key is to not let them win. Stand up for yourself, contact your attorney (or hire one if you don't have one) and let her/him know what is going on and how to handle it. Carry pepper spray. Do not engage in emails or phone calls with your predator, even if that person is calling you 50 times a day leaving nasty vms. Change your number if you can or save the vms as evidence against the stalker. If you are a sex worker, contact your local
SWOP chapter for help or call their national hotline.
Stay strong and be safe!
Client stalker
somehow he also got a hold of my private FB. creepers, eh? I seriously DON`t want to know what goes on in some guys heads....
) end as to how to handle the situation. I finally took a risk & reached out to her best friend, told her what was going on (with examples) and asked her to have a heart to heart with the stalker. It worked. I never heard from her again. I few weeks later I got a note of apology delivered by the friend*.
