In a
D/s relationship, that very special place the
submissive enters when he/she totally trusts his/her
Dominant, partner and totally immerses in an intense
scene. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.
It is the responsibility of the
Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dom's responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to "
vanilla space" after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, "aftercare".
Dom: "Sweetie?" Hey... it's time to come back. You made me very happy today, and I love you." <Kisses sub on the neck>
sub: "Sir? Sorry... i was gone for awhile. You know, in subspace. i'm so happy i made you happy. i'd really like to do that again sometime, if it pleases You".