New to the hobby, what should I know?

[Smatt69]

New to the hobby
Hi everyone, I'm new to the "hobby" and have my first session scheduled for tomorrow afternoon. Looking for any advice to make sure everything goes smoothly. Any major do's or dont's I should know about to make sure it's a positive experience for all involved?

What can I safely discuss and what is better left unsaid? what's the best way to deal with the donation? What am i just not thinking of that should be obvious?

I'm already using a burner to communicate with the lovely lady (based on advice from another discussion).

Thanks!

[Chica Chaser]

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=178982

is a good thread to start with

And another

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=449909

[plainjoe]

Good advice - remember to think with the big and not little head. If things do not seem right, walk away...
Take other precautions. Hobby phone is a good start - use a throwaway e-mail account too. Access the account from home (not work - can be monitored) using TOR (see other threads) or other anonymous accounts.

The threads state to do your research to (1) ensure that they are reputable providers (use this site or P411 or other sites to verify); (2) ensure that the provider that you see meets your expectations, desires, etc.

Good luck, have fun, and be safe...and as one of the threads stated, repeat, but be careful - don't get lazy and complacent...

[Smatt69]

Very good advice, thanks.

[rogerdodger]

speaking from memories of my newbie days ... try to set lower expectations and let the experience speak for itself. i ruined (for myself) several of my initial experiences by building them up in my head to unrealistic proportions and then allowed the slightest thing to make me regret the experience.

now, i recognize it for what it is and after i do the research and set the appointment, i let it go until i get there, and find i have a much better overall pleasure. have FUN !

[Summer70s]

A provider that screens rigorously can be a safer bet than one that will see anyone with little reference necessary. If she's safe with you, she's safe with others. Also, you pay for what you get. A low donation can denote high volume.

[okccannon]

Don't use backpage. It can be tempting, but 90% of the girls are using fake pics. Also, it is very risky as law enforcement often use BP when doing stings.

Use well reviewed girls on here or P411. They are real, and often are very good at what they do.

[SexyCassandra]

Not all on bp are bad just do a little research here first, as far as reviews.

[plainjoe]

Sexy makes a good point - BP is not ALL bad, just mostly bad; there are a few gems on BP. Just need to do your research after the initial viewing on BP.

Treat the lady with respect and treat her right - she will reciprocate. A little gift goes a long way...

Get verified on one of the services (this site is good), there are others...

Stay safe, have fun!

[Gotyour6]

I love Backpage and use it all the time for a new treat.

I got burned a few times but who cares.

I do the half hour deal for a first meet and its fun.

But I am a hunter .

[Guest061613]

If you do travel a lot, you will want to get a P411 account. You have to tailor your hobby to your lifestyle. Have fun and be careful. I personally never touch Backpage.

[Guest032213]

BP is a no no , I started there as a newbie , and I refuse to go back, fyi: low donations can result in high volume ladies, can be a risk- Gl OP!

[Fiore]

I agree, disposable phone and email is great.
I also agree with the donation, the higher, the better.
You get more out of it, and a better classy discreet provider.
Especially if you tip and are very kind. Open minded is key, not too demanding.
The less demand, the more comfort and fun the provider will have.
Leaving you with more you originally asked. And a great big smile.
I wish great pleasure and fun for you, and maybe with you!
XOXO <3 fiore

[Tantalizing Tia]

All the advice here so far is valid...although I recommend not listening to generalities like " all photos on BP or all Providers on BP" Just do your homework, use the correct head, and look for ladies that you feel are lower volume or charge accordingly to be lower volume. ALSO P411 is a great investment...

ALSO...Doing and saying the right or wrong thing can totally effect how things go...

Here is a valuable tool: Good Etiquette For Seeing An Escort

I also love the advice about expectations....very sound advice...for Hobbying and life in general..

The only advice I don't agree with is the 30 min appt...I feel you are for more likely to get a real connection and real experience if you choose a provider who is in no hurry.

Otherwise have fun...play safe!

[bankai]

New as well, backpage girls, some are cheap but I went to see one and she said she had guys as security for her in her house so I declined her offer and went home.

How do you deal with incall in a strange area when alot of providers have guys as drivers and bodyguards? It was like 3am and I didn't feel safe so I took off.

Also alot of workers are asking 60 for 20 minutes, goo deal