I can't be the only one that's wondered about this...

[Dharma]

I look in the ISO section and I see all these threads like:
BNG WANTED PM me or
MASSAGE and L2 WANTED, PM me
and etc.

The thing is, these seem to be started by newbies or people with few posts and most have no reviews ( I think one or two have a review out there). I feel nervous when someone says "I want to penis a vagina for X-dollars" or "Oh yeah, so-and-so will put that in her ***** for $$".

Am I the only one who wonders or am I just being overly cautious? When it's a member with some history it doesn't bother me so much but lately, some of the threads look a little suspicious. Well, that's me isn't it. Still, I'd rather be overly cautious and look a little foolish than not be cautious and look slightly confused in an orange jumpsuit.

I certainly don't mean to offend anyone and if you're one of the newbs, I'm a very cautious person. Very cautious. And I wonder about just about everything. Please, don't think I'm singling anyone out, I'm not. This post is the result of several weeks of watching the ISO section and it's on my mind.

I know what someone is going to say, "if it makes you nervous, don't respond", there, now you don't have to say it. What if someone recommends provider "A" and she doesn't provide the requested service?

Guys and gals, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this.

[LazurusLong]

Too many people forget that only 8 months ago, ASPD Houston had a very unfortunate time at a social hosted by CK1491 when over a dozen people were arrested and one escort ended up being deported.

No, you are not being overly paranoid.

These kinds of threads make me shudder also.

BUT, never forget the length of membership, number of posts, OR review counts means zero with regard to personal safety.

[Jules Jaguar]

no i feel the same way! sometimes i want to type "what happened to discretion" but i just skip those threads. i understand this is a adult site but that does not mean you have to be tasteless with your search.

[wolfeman]

I think the same can be said with the ads. Personally I am not turned on by the ladies who post explicit ads. I am much more intrigued by the suggestive ads that are done in good taste. The ads placed by the mostly younger ladies that literally say "come over and fuck my brains out" are not nearly as alluring to me as a sensuous, suggestive ad. I think that many times, good taste and class is a learned attribute that comes with age.

[Dharma]

I hear you, Wolfeman. But when it's in an ISO, I always want to start a post with "Gee *fficer, (insert appropriate response here)"

[Tony Gambino]

Originally Posted by 214JULES

no i feel the same way! sometimes i want to type "what happened to discretion" but i just skip those threads. i understand this is a adult site but that does not mean you have to be tasteless with your search.

I think the most important thing is...Jules...wow nice butt!!!, what were We talking about?

[Dharma]

That's because her butt is home grown and 100% organic not, no wait, that's a different thread.

[smartguy420]

When I post in the ISO section its usually pertaining to a certain type of provider that I like to see. Example L1 only provider with great massage. I always do my research, before making a post. I can understand where you are coming from with new people asking stuff like "where can I get a full service provider in dallas>? or something similar.. I agree with wolfman about the provider posting explicit ads. I kinda wonder if its a LE Trap, or a problem waiting to happen. I like to be discreet and those ads just don't do it for me. Sure I might ask that she is a L1 provider or L2 but I am not going into detail and be explicit on the posts. Usually from there the conversations continue on through PM, to be discreet. On another note, if my posts I create have ever offended anyone please PM me, I will not bash you or hate you for it,and will welcome your constructive criticism. I am somewhat new to this hobby, but I do have a mind and tend to use it. I try to be considerate to all people when posting, as I never want to insult someone. I consider myself a nice person , and I like to keep that image.

[Dharma]

@smartguy~how could anyone be offended by someone who so selflessly saves kittens?

You know, god doesn't really kill a kitten every time you .... well, we all have our belief systems

Back on track here, legally, is there a problem if someone answers an ISO and says a provider will perform such-and-such when she does not? I've heard of cases being put together based on reviews and posts by people other than the accused so what problems can arise from that?

[smartguy420]

I would check the validity of the provider and see if she is a ymmv. I tend to take everyone's suggestions with a grain of salt. What works with one hobbyist doesn't work for another hobbyist. We all have our own opinions and way of doing things. Its nice to be able to look up a provider, like yourself Dharma and see the 10+ reviews on you. For one I am going to be able to get a general idea of what is offered and how the experience will be, based on the common info shared amongst the reviews by different providers. If provider is getting frequent negative reviews, thats a red flag, but if your getting raved reviews and nothing but good things, then obviously we have a winner. Assuming that the review is legitimate. I think for the most part, any YMMV provider will show, assuming the hobbyist is sincere and straightforward with there reviews. Guys will be quick to let others know about a negative experience. Although some go about it the wrong way. I was told a provider would offer a service and when I went to the person, I did not receive that service, and I pm'd the person who recommended the place. I was disappointed that I lost my money, and can say it was one of the worst services i ever had. The place did not have any reviews, maybe just one. A lesson learned from me. if 13+ people say this provider offers this in their review, I have a good chance that would be the case for me. Unless there is a issue with the provider or provide-e. There are so many variables to why a provider may choose not to provide a service to someone. One of them, being a huge no-no in my personal opinion is not being clean with bad hygiene. This is why some providers do not openly advertise some services because of the clientele they may run into. (Ex: swallowing) If a hobbyist chooses to post something other then a review in regards to the provider in a way that can be poor taste. No need to take cheap shots at a provider. Now if the provider has done you wrong, and you feel its "Alert Worthy" by all means share it with us in a respectable manner. I just do not see why someone would want to go after a provider because a service was not provided. Get over it! It happens, first thing is you need to tell yourself did I cause that problem myself? Or is this provider simply just not a good provider. Or is she a YMMV type provider? I can not express enough that reviews are important way to allow new hobbyist to get a "feel" on which provider is right for them. You can have the fanciest ad in the worldwide web, but If I can not get any reviews or info on the provider I am going to pass them up. Hope this info helps.

[lisa.lisa0302]

Yes the ISO section makes me nervous....what happen to discretion. Does everyone need to know you are looking for B & G right now.

[Jules Jaguar]

there is a right way and a wrong way to go about it period!!

and thanks tony and dharma

[Randall Creed]

I just wanna be under Jules.

No, wait. On top. Or behind. All three.

[bigdog0311]

I understand Dharma's thinking in this and I honestly think that discretion in this business is "out the window". I have guys that PM me about my reviews, some do not have premium access, but others that do can spend a whopping 20 bucks and get it, and those guys ask me to tell them more details, ect. than what I put in my review. I have been to some massage studios that look as if they are just different girls that massage in different rooms and split the rent. But when you happen to be waiting in the waiting area or even on a massage table getting a quiet massage, you cannot help but to hear the moaning and such, because the rooms are so close together and the walls are paper thin. That is why I hate studios! When I do an ISO, I usually just post, "Does anyone have any info on this girl?" Or if I am looking for a particular type of session, I do a search on here, again, the discretion is minimal. Do not get me wrong, I love this site and it has given me valuable info, but I wish that we could have a way to verify without putting someone at risk of being caught by their SO or worse yet, by law enforcement. I tend to go with trusted members on here for the info I seek.

Sorry I tend to ramble!!

[Jules Jaguar]

no that was a good ramble bigdog

and rambro stop "u aint ready" LOL