You want me to say what?

[Still Looking]

Saying Nasty Things While In The Trenches is one thing but I mean come on!

I have spoke to no less than three providers in the last month all telling me similar stories! Apparently guys like ladies to say nasty thing while engaging in sex. OK I understand that! But calling a lady a "Fucking Cunt"? Asking her, "You like that you fucking whore?" Demanding she admit she is a "Fucking Slut". I spent over an hour listening to a young lady crying about how she was treated. It scared her to say the least. Also with this conduct also comes extremely aggressive physical behavior which I'll spare you.

I'll be the first to admit I've had some very vocal exciting sessions. Both on my behalf and the provider. I've heard things like "Fuck Me", "Faster", "Don't Stop", "Oh Yah" and several nonverbal sounds! I even had a provider make a sound like a tea kettle whistling LOL. And I've been known to do doggie and slap a couple of butts in my time. Always with permission and more often by request. But I think some guys are watching some pretty sick porn and are thinking this shit is the norm in real life.

Ladies, has this happened to you? How do you feel about it? (Guys pay attention!)

Guys what are your thoughts?

[Shayla]

Rarely happens but I have had it a few times where they've called me a slut. Who am I are to argue... really? :P
I don't care to be honest. If it helps them get off then whatever.

[gimme_that]

I read somewhere that when a man slaps a womans but it increases the brain tendency to help the vagina be in a more relaxed and aroused state. The shock of the slap and the after effect stimulates wetness, and other brain processes. I'm not gently smacking her on the ass for my benefit, its for her..........

[JHurt1968]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

I have spoke to no less than three providers in the last month all telling me similar stories! Apparently guys like ladies to say nasty thing while engaging in sex. OK I understand that! But calling a lady a "Fucking Cunt"? Asking her, "You like that you fucking whore?" Demanding she admit she is a "Fucking Slut". I spent over an hour listening to a young lady crying about how she was treated. It scared her to say the least.

I just went through this with my #1 ATF tonight. I showed up and it was obvious something was wrong. She tried to deny it and tried to start our visit but I wouldn't let her. She told me that the guy she saw a couple of hours beforehand really got to her mentally. I guess he struck very close to home with some of the names he called and things he said to her. The waterworks started in the middle of the story so instead of BCD we hung out and I tried to comfort her as best as I could. Ended up just going out for coffee and a cinnamon roll so she could wrap her brain around a few things.

Now I admit that #1 ATF and I do have some fairly rough sessions. She likes to be dominated yet I have never called her names or degraded her. It's one thing to dominate your partner, but the name calling, fear inducing...that's too much. I don't understand why some guys have to be total pieces of shit to women sometimes.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by JHurt1968

I just went through this with my #1 ATF tonight. I showed up and it was obvious something was wrong. She tried to deny it and tried to start our visit but I wouldn't let her. She told me that the guy she saw a couple of hours beforehand really got to her mentally. I guess he struck very close to home with some of the names he called and things he said to her. The waterworks started in the middle of the story so instead of BCD we hung out and I tried to comfort her as best as I could. Ended up just going out for coffee and a cinnamon roll so she could wrap her brain around a few things.

Now I admit that #1 ATF and I do have some fairly rough sessions. She likes to be dominated yet I have never called her names or degraded her. It's one thing to dominate your partner, but the name calling, fear inducing...that's too much. I don't understand why some guys have to be total pieces of shit to women sometimes.

I couldn't agree more! What the fuck is wrong with some of these guys? I'm hoping more providers will share there experiences and feeling so guys might learn something. I'm not sure these guys will care. But you never know! The one thing I'd like to share with them is this: Treat a lady the way you want me to treat your sister! Not sure if that will hit home either!

[nwarounder]

Almost a guarantee that it will escalate into much worse behaviior, as well. The more desensitized to this behavior they get, the more they have to ramp it up to get off. Ladies, might not seem like a reportable offense now, but do the next lady a favor and put it on the buzz.

[Guest011914-1]

There is a difference between dirty talk and being degrading and really it all depends on what the two people agree on...I have one guy get to rough one day and I turned it around and kicked his ass....he learned the hard way but sadly I had to cancel my dates that day due to no longer being in the Vixen mood...The lady should do an alert on him for the safety of others and hopefully she will learn she does not have to put up with that..NO ONE DESERVES TO BE DISRESPECTED

[john353]

Calling the ladies names and just verbally degrading them...has absolutely no appeal to me in the least; even if that's what she wants. Sorry, can't do it.

That's not why I seek their company.

Everyone has their idea of a fantasy and maybe these guys have that notion in their head. It's all just part of their individual fantasy I guess...but there comes a point when fantasy can sure lead back into reality. Some people can be very convincing and quite believable, and depending on the intensity of the degradation...the lady may lose sight of what may be a fantasy and begin to feel like he is assaulting her for real. Who knows...maybe he is!

Who really knows how mentally stable an individual is and whether or not he may be there for other reasons.

[Guest041413-2]

I've always thought, it's gotta be tough and dangerous out there for the fems. The ones that find their way to P411, ECCIE, etc. have a much better chance but even that's not guaranteed.

Now back to Shayla. I do NOT intend for our session to be mild and timid. There is something about Shayla that I want to treat her like a lady beforehand and definitely afterwards. But, during, that's another story. I've already posted in several threads what I'm going to do to that pretty face of hers...I'm sure I'm not the only one with similar thoughts. And yes, there will be name calling!

[MsElena]

I love dirty talk, but the minute you start calling me degrading names, I will give you a chance and tell you to please stop. You continue to do it, you're out the door without your money and without cumming.

[Gucci]

I couldn't do the whole " tell me you're a bitch " or " yeah take this dick you filthy cunt" . . . . . . Nah that's just not my style.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by mijo(BFE)

I've always thought, it's gotta be tough and dangerous out there for the fems. The ones that find their way to P411, ECCIE, etc. have a much better chance but even that's not guaranteed.

Now back to Shayla. I do NOT intend for our session to be mild and timid. There is something about Shayla that I want to treat her like a lady beforehand and definitely afterwards. But, during, that's another story. I've already posted in several threads what I'm going to do to that pretty face of hers...I'm sure I'm not the only one with similar thoughts. And yes, there will be name calling!

I'll assume they will be very nice names! LOL

[evietaylor]

Honestly, I've never encountered that. I guess I'm one of the lucky one's.

I don't know what I'd do if it happened. I'd like to think that it might actually make me laugh because the dude would sound like such an idiot telling me to say something so ridiculous. BUT having him say something so degrading & mean would probably hurt me more than anything. Not sure.

Some guys are serious assholes...not to mention clueless at times.

[Guest041413-2]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

I'll assume they will be very nice names! LOL

Nope...the names Shayla will be calling me for shoving my engorged dick down her throat unrelenting, and with no 'Mercy', will not be very nice ones. But, I have thick skin. I won't be offended!

[Pink Floyd]

We all know those kind of guys, and we avoid them in our personal life. Why would not expect them to exist in the Hobby. Some people are just crude and I find them revolting.