How Do You Define GFE

[Exec_Enchant]

What is really meant by GFE? It seems to be used as a way to describe specific replicable acts, but is it much more than that?

I believe that it should be about experiencing true intimacy and a connection. It should be like a real courting, dating, consummation experience that goes beyond the mechanics of DFK etc.

It seems that biologically we are driven to connect with other human beings on a very real level that includes, body, mind, and spirit.

So, ladies & gents, what do you believe?

[fine dimes21]

I think we are driven to people we click with.
Everyone uses GFE term and do they really mean it?
Like businesses, everyone will say they offer great customer service, again do they really mean it? Unfortunately it isn't until you find out 1st hand, you will really know.

I think Gfe is different to every person in terms what they would like to expect, but I think everyone can agree they want to have great time and that is for both sides.

For me, communication is tops, even requests, even asking guys what they like her to wear. Too often I see no pm or emails answered for even simplest of questions. That may be actually Gfe in real life for others though hahaha. That for me is a sign to move on. Even a post email or text thanking them goes a long way afterwards.

Not to mention I care not for psycho gfs and same applies for hobby essentially no drama.

[Viola]

I really agree with these definitions. That it is about a connection more than an act. I generally try to talk to a fellow before we meet, so we're not total strangers. I think that's where good customer service starts-communication. If you don't tell me, I can only guess. The hobby is the venue to ask for what you want. Its refreshing when it happens.

Best,
Viola

[JohnnyCap]

I had to work for GFE with a provider I was seeing a lot last fall. I had to earn it. After a few months of seeing her at least once a week, she opened the doors to the pleasures of True GFE: long boring stories about nothing, high expectations for gifts and other forms of help, incessant nagging, always a problem with something about me, rarely showered, shaved, and never a special outfit or a smile. The most realistic GFE imaginable.

[VIP Mya Michelle]

I think GFE means kissing, lots and lots of DFK!

Sensual caressing, meaning the girl should be feeling all over the guy as well.

Conversation, GFE doesn't mean soon as we walk in rip cloths off, its like a suddle date moving a little faster but it should involve some conversation and getting to know one another.

Compassion and Empathy. I think to be a good GFE provider you have to care about the experience you are giving gentlemen. You will be surprised at how many non GFE providers really don't care if you leave happy or not. Which is why a lot of BP experiences are lack luster.

Without hesitation. I thik you must really allow yourself to be taken for a moment. When the client touches you, you shouldn't give of an "ewww" vibe like ya know? when he goes in for a kiss you should be just as enthusiastic about DFK as well.

[fire engine red]

Originally Posted by Mya Michelle

I think GFE means kissing, lots and lots of DFK!

Sensual caressing, meaning the girl should be feeling all over the guy as well.

Conversation, GFE doesn't mean soon as we walk in rip cloths off, its like a suddle date moving a little faster but it should involve some conversation and getting to know one another.

Compassion and Empathy. I think to be a good GFE provider you have to care about the experience you are giving gentlemen. You will be surprised at how many non GFE providers really don't care if you leave happy or not. Which is why a lot of BP experiences are lack luster.

Without hesitation. I thik you must really allow yourself to be taken for a moment. When the client touches you, you shouldn't give of an "ewww" vibe like ya know? when he goes in for a kiss you should be just as enthusiastic about DFK as well.

Mya Michelle, excellent young lady!!
Loving making at its best!!
Thank you.

[tk3g0d]

An IOP that doesn't FEEL like an illusion. Making love, not just having sex.

[CherryTNT210]

I always try being GFE yet always end up bent over and ready for PSGFE. Still trips me out.

[mm-good]

For me, it is a connection that almost always involves an intense presence of being, sensual eye contact to communicate beyond the need for words...

intimate kissing on whatever level brings the connection closer and increases desire .....

giving and receiving of Pleasure with full freedom to enjoy to the fullest...

It can be romantic and/or raw & animalistic as determined by that moment of fire and passion...but always a mutual trust to be in the vulnerable , blissfull moments together....

[bistraight69]

1. Shows up and acts like she wants to be there.

2. Deep french kisses.

3. Bare Back Blow Job.

4. Cuddling

5. Intimate conversation

6. The desire to please

7. Some GFE's do not like to kiss but will give a bbbj, this makes them a light GFE, vs. a FULL GFE will perform as well as receive.

[LazurusLong]

Originally Posted by bistraight69

1. Shows up and acts like she wants to be there.

2. Deep french kisses.

3. Bare Back Blow Job.

4. Cuddling

5. Intimate conversation

6. The desire to please

7. Some GFE's do not like to kiss but will give a bbbj, this makes them a light GFE, vs. a FULL GFE will perform as well as receive.

Left out

8. Dining at the Y. DATY.

GFE stands for GIRLFRIEND experience and if I am spending time with a "temporary" girlfriend, I want to experience the same sort of activities I do with my civilian real world girlfriends.

I dated a girl back in the late 80's for a bit who just loved DATY but due to her ex being an asshole who forced her to give blowjobs, she didn't like giving them any more.

Even though that was not the reason the relationship ended, it was a symptom of other underlying issues that did kill that relationship.

[Guest062217]

It's about time a provider wants to speak to her date first. When I am able to speak with a provider first (just for even a quick 5 or 10 minutes) then I get a better sense of her and can feel if there could be some chemistry when we meet - hence a better GFE experience.

Oh yeah and of course real DFK during sex is always the best...

[olderguy1948]

Attitude, attitude, and attitude. If the provider wants to please, makes a effort to be personable and does the things outlined above, that is a GFE. However, a lady with a shitty attitude can do all the things outlined by lazurus, and more, do them mechanically, and not be a GFE. I must say that JohnnyCap hits the nail on the head when you come back down to reality!!!

[Guest062815]

While I am new to the hobby, I am a self-confessed nerd, and did lots of reading before I started to make sure I understood all the abbreviations, expectations, explanations, etc... So the "technical" aspects of GFE I understand and am completely on board with.

But like you, Exec_Enchant, for me it is soooo much more. I come to the hobby out of want, not need, per se, and love the adoration, the flirting, the anticipation. And it can't be one-sided. I love the conversations, the exchanges that happen between initial hello and first date. And even after the first date... if someone has said they want to see me again - assuming we have addressed and defined safe and accepted forms and times for communication - I will let them know I am thinking of them and looking forward to our next encounter. Real connection, genuine interest, little touches, passionate kissing... Being all-in. A true GFE, for me, is about BEING that GF without the drama, the strings. Probably, in truth, an even better GF than a civilian version, because both of us know what can be expected in a technical sense, so neither is let down from a performance standpoint! If I don't have you smitten, counting down to our date, BEFORE our date, I have failed, because that is what a real GF date would feel like.

[Island_Gent]

Originally Posted by NewKitten

While I am new to the hobby, I am a self-confessed nerd, and did lots of reading before I started to make sure I understood all the abbreviations, expectations, explanations, etc... So the "technical" aspects of GFE I understand and am completely on board with.

But like you, Exec_Enchant, for me it is soooo much more. I come to the hobby out of want, not need, per se, and love the adoration, the flirting, the anticipation. And it can't be one-sided. I love the conversations, the exchanges that happen between initial hello and first date. And even after the first date... if someone has said they want to see me again - assuming we have addressed and defined safe and accepted forms and times for communication - I will let them know I am thinking of them and looking forward to our next encounter. Real connection, genuine interest, little touches, passionate kissing... Being all-in. A true GFE, for me, is about BEING that GF without the drama, the strings. Probably, in truth, an even better GF than a civilian version, because both of us know what can be expected in a technical sense, so neither is let down from a performance standpoint! If I don't have you smitten, counting down to our date, BEFORE our date, I have failed, because that is what a real GF date would feel like.

I concur with what everyone else said...but most especially you Charlie...bloody well done!