frustrated

[Steelboi31]

Hello
This is like the third time this has happened. The need to have references before service . I thought that being a member on this site would do. I understand because of safety but not everyone has a million references just saying. Just trying too enjoy just everyone else ok I am off of my soap box lol

[ffireman]

Steelboi31 a lot of the ladies here go by the reviews you would write of the ladies i suggest you start with friendly providers here and move your way up the chain

FF

[Guest062716]

Originally Posted by Steelboi31

Hello
...The need to have references before service . I thought that being a member on this site would do.

Steel,

Seriously? You have been a member here for 2 years and in that time you have one other post and no reviews.

While there are some board members who can get a date, based solely on their reputation (read board presence as well as rep with the ladies), those members are few and far between.

FWIW, even the most senior members here are asked for references.

Even on a site like P411, where Gina has your verified contact information, many of the ladies still require a gent to have so many "OKs" before she will see him.

Safety is a huge concern in the hobby. Being a member here does not make any gent "safe". Go and read some of the alerts and some of the coed discussions.

Do your research, look for "Newbie Friendly" providers, go through their screening process, make a date, treat them right, and then you have a reference.

We ALL did it at the beginning of our hobby "careers".

My first lady was the "Queen B" of Austin, Crystal Kitty. A true Austin Adorable.

Temptation Tammy and LindsayPage both advertise newbie friendly, as do others.

Use the "search" button.

Good luck,

Respectfully,

OldSarge

[Steelboi31]

Ok and yes in two years I haven't used any of the ladies here because of the references. I usually use BP but since there not a member here I didn't think it mattered but now I will start by baby steps and move on. Thanks for the advise will see what happens from here

[Buckskin]

I went through a very rigorous screen once before. I jump through hoops before she gave me her number. Then she posted on BP with her number in plain view.
women.........

[Swordmaster69]

Steel, if only you could see the pm I send to some of my Austin lady friends....

"Sunday, 2oclock, your place........"

[Guest062716]

Originally Posted by Swordmaster69

Steel, if only you could see the pm I send to some of my Austin lady friends....

"Sunday, 2oclock, your place........"

Funny, but true. Sword is one of those gents whose board presence and rep speaks for itself (that and all the ladies talk about us gents....).

Respectfully,

OldSarge

[TemptationTammie]

I am one that OS mentioned.
I am newbie friendly with alternate screening if you don't have references.
And I agree that board presence does ALOT! I have seen guys without references or screening because of their board presence. On the other hand, I have also turned down guys because of it too if too rude or demeaning.
When I get asked for a reference, I will simply tell the lady if the guy is safe (ONLY if I've seen him, of course). I feel that whatever happens in the session is usually ymmv because of personalities and attractions or even pressures or desires that day.