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Guest102612 · 09-09-2012, 09:32 AM

What is the one term of endearment that you don't like being called??
For some reason when someone calls me "baby" it just makes me want to slap them.
"Come on baby, please baby, baby!" It sounds like whining and begging to my ears.
Call me bitch, witch, mean, honey, sweetie, love, darling, fat, old, nasty, sensual, sexy mama, milf, anything but Baby!
P.S
I am not asking for your opinion or advise on what I wrote about me! Please keep your comments about your likes and dislikes!

Guest121212 · 09-09-2012, 10:29 AM

For a split second, I thought this (based on the title) was going to be a thread about the movie (as a lot of it was filmed in Lincoln and the surrounding area, if memory serves me correctly).

I really don't have a term of endearment that really bothers me or one that I don't like being called.

I'm not offering you an opinion on what you wrote (or advise [sic]), I'm just stating my preference on what I like or dislike and how I personally approach the subject, and offering a little background and more information to support my personal position so that the membership might have a better understanding of my answer.

Many times, for me, things sound differently coming from different people based on their personality and the situation. Plus, the way I see it, if someone is using a term of endearment in an appointment towards me, all I care about is that I have made them happy enough to want do so - and what they call me (short of anything misogynistically profane or demeaning in such a manner that it makes me fearful), is their prerogative and something exercised at their own pleasure. I would never presume tell them otherwise at many moments, as it might limit their experience.

If, however, it just didn't sound right, (as I said, based on the person and the circumstance), I might gently lead them in conversation to use a different/alternate term they might like to use that sounds better to me, but I'd never stop them from using anything they may like in the heat of the moment - I wouldn't want to limit my client in any way that would distract him from his pleasure. If it bothered me afterwards or again, if it sounded "off", I'd simply ask him to use a different one next time, if he could, and play it off as no big deal. I have found that usually, people have two or three terms they like to use most often, and I can generally find one, that when they use it, will sound okay to me!

So, I guess the answer to the second part (what I like to be called) is most anything (other than that which I already excluded).

Kisses,

- Jackie

Guest022718 · 09-09-2012, 10:40 AM

LOL (note to self: first names only with this one)

Sabra.........

Context is everything. In the right context, you can call me anything you want.
Examples:

1) Oh "A-hole", don't stop!

2) Do it to me harder, "S**t-head" !

In the right context, I am remarkably difficult to offend.

Guest121212 · 09-09-2012, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by hgritstoo

Context is everything. In the right context, you can call me anything you want.[...]In the right context, I am remarkably difficult to offend.

That's pretty much what I was attempting to convey, it all boils down to context and connotation; as said the right way, most anything can be pleasurable.

Kisses,

- Jackie

Guest121212 · 09-09-2012, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by hgritstoo

LOL (note to self: first names only with this one)

Sabra.........

That was funny, I didn't even think of it that way, Sabra, you used "baby" as part of your username . . . something now that I think about it won't be lost on many here, and good for a light-hearted, good-natured chuckle or two.

Odd choice of name, based on your stated preference. You've chosen a member name that each time, when used, possibly causes you discomfort? Freud would have a field day with that one.

Or, maybe using it in conjunction with "Sabra" somehow changes it to be acceptable for you?

Kisses,

- Jackie

Guest102612 · 09-09-2012, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin

That was funny, I didn't even think of it that way, Sabra, you used "baby" as part of your username . . . something now that I think about it won't be lost on many here, and good for a light-hearted, good-natured chuckle or two.

Odd choice of name, based on your stated preference. You've chosen a member name that each time, when used, possibly causes you discomfort? Freud would have a field day with that one.

Or, maybe using it in conjunction with "Sabra" somehow changes it to be acceptable for you?

Kisses,

- Jackie

I'm great with Sabra Baby, just something about "Baby" that rubs me wrong. I don't no what it is for sure or why.
When I get a call from a guy and he says, Hi Baby, what you doing baby and we have never met before or anything, it makes my skin crawl, if it is someone I have met and know its ok, but still not great.
Thinking about it, I guess in my mind it just sounds sleazy and cheap.
Jackie, like you I would never think about stopping someone from saying what they want during a session, you can say what ever during this time. Its outside of a session it bothers me.
I don't no call me nuts! lmao

Guest121212 · 09-09-2012, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Sabrababy

I'm great with Sabra Baby, just something about "Baby" that rubs me wrong. I don't no what it is for sure or why.
When I get a call from a guy and he says, Hi Baby, what you doing baby and we have never met before or anything, it makes my skin crawl, if it is someone I have met and know its ok, but still not great.
Thinking about it, I guess in my mind it just sounds sleazy and cheap.
Jackie, like you I would never think about stopping someone from saying what they want during a session, you can say what ever during this time. Its outside of a session it bothers me.
I don't no call me nuts! lmao

No, I TOTALLY agree with you on that point - I too can barely stomach it when I get a text, call or email from someone I don't know and it is "baby" this, "baby" that - UGGGHHHHHHHHH. Skeeves me out also. Starts it off on the wrong foot. Luckily, over time, I get less and less of that type of new client contact - usually because they get tired and give up when I don't answer them or I put them on "blocked" status in my switchboard and send their email to the trash bin. I much prefer a gentleman, and one that can grasp the English language without holding his nutsack in his free hand with his baseball hat on sideways.

You realize now that both of us are going to get called "baby" purposefully - LMAO!

Kisses,

- Jackie

Guest102612 · 09-09-2012, 02:26 PM

You realize now that both of us are going to get called "baby" purposefully - LMAO!

Kisses,

- Jackie

Yes, but we know how to put a stop to that real quick!
Balls in hand, Squuuuuueeeezzzeeeee!
lmao

DallasRain · 09-09-2012, 03:51 PM

call me a slut/call me sugar/call me baby...just DO NOT call me a whore or bitch or cunt!

I am from the south so I usually refer to people when i am talking to them as "sugar" or "honey"

12blue4u · 09-09-2012, 03:58 PM

Terms was shot in Lincoln in 1982. The old Kays restaurant was a location along with Bryan Hospital. Debra Winger was hanging out at the Gov's place and the Zoo Bar. Jack even came down a couple of times.

Guest102612 · 09-09-2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

call me a slut/call me sugar/call me baby...just DO NOT call me a whore or bitch or cunt!

I am from the south so I usually refer to people when i am talking to them as "sugar" or "honey"

I'm not much for the word whore or cunt neither. I can handle whore better then the C word

Duke1023 · 09-09-2012, 04:23 PM

If I call anyone a C word, they have my permission to slap the shit out of me! That being said, it doesn't happen too often.

As for terms of endearment, "Call me irresponsible, call me unreliable, throw in undependable too..." Sorry, I'm a Sinatra fan. Bottom line, at least I'm getting called something!!

Osolomio · 09-09-2012, 05:07 PM

I think you ladies have touched on something. How one reacts to being called by a certain word does indeed depend on who uses the word, in what context and in which tone. This might help some to understand why many object to the use of the N word and other such words.

Blaze · 09-09-2012, 07:33 PM

+ 2 Osolomio

Hunny, I hate being called hunny. By anyone, period. Now, that it has been written it can't be unwritten. Hunny reminds me of honey, which is sweet and I am not. So with that said, I don't like to be called sweetie, because I am not sweet.

Bigh1955 · 09-10-2012, 10:51 AM

I'm with Blaze...not that I'm hell on heels, or made a deal with the devil...but I'm not sweet and prefer not to be called hunny, sweety or sweetheart, or darling. For me, sweetheart, hunny, and darling are terms that profess a deeper degree affection...and that isn't what this is about. Call me sweety...espeially if I have 15 years on you (which I probably do) and I'm thinking I made a mistake. Call me H, or my real name if you know it.