What do older typically men want?

[RetiredSubmariner]

What do older men want?

What fantasies are typical among older customers?

Recently a wonderful provider here on ECCIE asked me what my fantasy was. Which has led me down an odd rabbit hole.

My wife has not allowed me to touch her in years. And my recent bout of prostate cancer has caused a surgeon to remove my prostate and he removed the nerve bundle from my penis. If I were honest, my fantasy of late has been to be held by a woman and to be able to perform once again.

I long for a woman's touch as much as I do for my penis to function once again.

Before my prostate cancer surgery I was whole, I had full function. Though granted my wife hated me and refused to allow me to touch her [she is an arse].

I dont know how to say all this to a provider.

I got me to thinking, what do most old men want?

I am 59, btw.

[pfunkdenver]

Hello Submariner! First, you have my sympathies regarding the cancer, surgery, and your wife.

I don't know what most older men want. I do know what I want (at 62 yo).

Hugging, kissing, flirting, mutual oral, and FS.

The most important of these are the hugs, kisses. and flirting!

I hope your life improves, and wish you good luck!

[papadee]

59 y/o, and I want kink! Along with kissing & caressing, but I like it wild. I've got some items to check off before I really slow down.

[ElisabethWhispers]

As someone who has shared a lot of special times with older men, perhaps I can express my opinion as well.

I've found that most men wish to feel valued. Appreciated.

This seems to be more of an issue these days, but a lot of guys (regardless of age) are touched starved.

So those needs of older men take all different forms of expression. Many, and I mean a lot, like to cuddle and visit. Yes ... perhaps a little happy ending, but men like the connection.

And then there are the fellas who just want balls to the walls sex. There's nothing wrong with bouncing all around the bed, for sure. ha That used to be more the case, with me, when I was working more frequently and younger. Now, my client base and needs have evolved in a different direction for the most part.

And I find, like you're expressing, that many older men wish to know that they can please a woman. That a female wishes to touch them and be touched in return.

It's a personal thing, this sexuality and all it entails. And I'm sure that there are plenty of women out there that would welcome your caresses and your need for touch and validation.

We all have that same want. I certainly do.

Kindest regards,
Elisabeth

[SlowHand50]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

As someone who has shared a lot of special times with older men, perhaps I can express my opinion as well. ...

That whole post is very well said. As an older guy, I could not agree more. Thank you.

[Ripmany]

Winning loto numbers.

[offshoredrilling]

ah think they young again and can fuck all night, even if it takes all night

[rex4040]

Beautifully said Elisabeth. Your understanding and wisdom are appreciated. I wish you were in San Antonio.
An Older Gentleman

[DallasRain]

Ditto w Elizabeth

Touch..convo.sensuality...pass ion and lots of caring.

[Majichands]

To find new things done to them they didn't even know they wanted.
Something about unknown pleasures. For someone older to be pleased in a new way or in a way they never would be considered IS SUCH A MIND FUCK in a good way a mental orgasm.

The problem is the older we get the more set in our ways we are and that's just not in the business but with food, doing certain things,
We tasted it once 30 yrs ago hated it ever since and refuse to try it again. Even though different cooks use different spices and you might just enjoy it but not willing to take one bite or venture out limits you to be WOWED. AND OLDER MEN HELL OLDER ANYBODY LOVES TO BE WOWED.
Because the older we get the harder it is for it to happen.
BE OPEN TO BE WOWED and the more it will happen.

[FireKitten]

Typically, I've found that they want whatever it is that gets their motor running for sure. At that age, either with some real abstinence, they aren't sure what that is, or they very much know what that is, and that it's hard for them to get it.

The acceptance, tolerance, appreciation, value of being a man, a valid human, whether they can fuck like a bunny anymore, or nearly no "performance" level. And they want it to be as genuine as possible.

So whether that's easing into some cuddling and touch after some dinner or wine, with very good conversation and laughs---or some unapologetic hair pulling, ass play, nipple twisting and sweating out 30 min to get that orgasm to happen, it's that.

The full focus and attention that can match the man. We don't care how you were in your 20's. You don't need to explain you are having so much difficulty in finding small pleasures. You don't have to apologize for the way you need to get there. A few small cues, and especially any of the good, mature women, are able to take a ride with you that leaves you satisfied.

Sex and intimacy are so much more than a hot body and an orgasm.

[GypsyHeart]

EW and FireKitten have it correct. Amazing to me how many men just want to hold and be held in all ages.

[rexdutchman]

Yeah at 60 Touch. .convo .sensuality...IOP and lots of caring.

[Rowdy70]

At 71 I have found that a lot of our providers are so tuned to pleasing a man that they don't understand that the older men get there pleasure from pleasing the woman. My days of "balls to the wall" have passed, now I just want to touch, taste, and please the lady, but many don't know how to accept it.

[starway]

Well said Rowdy!